Describing Love

a friend and I were having a discussion about this. She feels that if one has truly "been in love" then we should all feel pretty much the samething. I feel that how one feels and describes love differs from person to person. I just wanted to see other peoples opinions on the subject.

I like you.

Oh, and the love thing. I think it's different for everyone. Some people have a slow burn, others get the whole bolt of lightning thing, and still others go the "comfortable" route. I think the trick is finding someone who fits your definition.


[Edited on May 29, 2005 by surgicalsnack]

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[Edited on May 29, 2005 by Jeff_Fries]

It's a painful feeling in my chest. It makes mer nervous, and I want to vomit. There's a lot of dizziness involved, and a headache. It's like stomache flu meets myocardial infarction.

Stick with teh butt secks.

It is. Every single time.

My definition of love is that feeling you get when you truely care for the happiness of the person you care about and you put them before your own yourself. I dunno if she feels that exact same way but I know she cares about me and that she is fairly happy as far as I know. So I'm happy.

should be health and happiness but yeah that is the straight forward version of the mess i wrote earlier.

I knew I wasn't alone in this.

This just made me laugh. Out loud. And grab myself from nearly peeing my pants type laugh too.

I do believe that it is unique each & every time, but there are similarities in each instance. And I've had that "flu-like" reaction a couple of times, but that was only when I was in the peak stages of the emotions. I've had it so bad that I've actually completely forgotten to do things that were essential to my daily life- like leaving work clothes at home when I had to ride a bike to work!! That was rediculous!! I was all hung up over a guy I worked with & was so excited to see him that I left my change of clothes at home... Another time I actually injured myself just so I could go ask for a bandaid & had an excuse to talk to him. That was crazy!!!
That was a long time ago & I would hope I don't do such idiotic things again.
I've been in love since then & my behavior has not been the same- but I have done stupid things all because I was so "out of it" with my emotions!!

Love: it makes me forget about myself

[Edited on May 29, 2005 by JoJo]

*le sigh*

it's a little different for everyone.

I don't think everyone gets physically sick when in love, for example.

Hell, up until reading Isadora's post, I thought I was the only one that happened to.

I generally feel like I'm going to throw up ALL THE TIME. Constant upset stomach. . .especially when you haven't eaten.
which is weird, since that kind of love is fake. .but it's been drilled into my head since birth, just like everyone else, so much that it would actually have that kind of effect.

The love you have for your mother, THAT'S real (not to mention, not painful).


[Edited on May 29, 2005 by KMFCM]

i wish i knew, about romantic love that is. I don't know if i've ever really felt it.

The only time i feel love for sure is when i look at my children. Still sometimes my eyes will tear up because i am so overwhelmed by this indescribable emotion. Its like i just want to hold and protect them, but at the same time i am so proud and i want to send them off because i know they will do great things. I also know that i would sacrifice anything to ensure their happiness, and safety. Then there is a sense of fear too, what if something happens to them, how can i keep them safe? That is the only kind of love i know about for sure, that and of course I love my mom, too.

[Edited on May 29, 2005 by lioness4]

Trust me...most folks sorta get over the "estranged mother" thing after about 3 weeks. Then it just makes for a really good story over drinks.

And, for me, being in love feels like when you have the wind knocked out of you.

Love is like a cross between a panic attack and diarrhea. At least for me, I can't speak for everyone.

On second thought.........
Fuck if I know.

[Edited on May 29, 2005 by BXDVD]

Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs,
Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers' eyes,
Being vexed, a sea nourished with lovers' tears.
What is it else? A madness most discreet,
A choking gall and a preserving sweet. ~ William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, act 1, sc. 1.




"Love is two minutes fifty-two seconds of squishing noises." ~ Johnny Rotten

That's me! I get infatuated easily, so I've only been in love once. I knew it was love when I didn't mind that he stuck around for 5 1/2 years and I easily incorporated him into my daily routine.

I'm so not romantic..

yeah...
, this whole thing came up because i told her that i feel like there is only one love but differences come in how you express it.
she couldnt even believe this and that it must be impossible for me to ever have been in love. she felt that the love she felt for a b/f is not the same as the love she felt for her mother or father...
and i totally respect her opinion. i know a lot of people feel that same way.

she on the other hand...well if it wasnt for the fact that we are friends i dont think we would be talking right now, she had no respect for my opinion.

for me, it's accepting each other for who they are, flaws and all.

it's being able to be in the same room and feel comfortable NOT talking.

feeling peaceful in their arms

enjoying what makes them "them", the sum of these parts, even if you don't enjoy all the parts.

being connected to them physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.


*for me, it's knowing that even if, for some reason, we could never be sexual again, i would want to spend my life with him, becuz he is my best friend.