Would you say anything to a pregnant woman who was smoking? I thought about saying, "That might be a little unhealthy for the kid," but I opted to mind my own business. Besides, what could I have done? Report her? Take the cigarettes away? I figured she knew better and was prepared to accept any consequences.
Told her that it was bad for the baby, and if she gave me shit report her. I'm sure someone out there would butt in like i would of.
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Mykel
HOPEFUL
San Jose, CA
APR 25, 2005 09:53 PM
I would have done the same thing. Not my concern. I just think badly about the kind of people who do that.
In this day and age, there's no excuse for not knowing the consequences, so I figure it's the person's decision to be a jerk.
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monkeybutt
I'm lost
May 2004
APR 25, 2005 09:56 PM
offered her some scotch from the bottle in my coat pocket...
hmm well wasn't on Supersize Me where they said something like:
Fat people get made fun of all the time...so they want to lose weight
maybe if we said stuff to smokers in public they would try and quit
I used to work with a woman who tried very hard to quit smoking when she became pregnant. Unfortunately for her she was also making a fairly recent attempt at overcoming drug and alcohol addiction and simply couldn't handle the stress of doing both of those things while keeping up a full-time work schedule, etc. Knowing her and knowing how hard she worked made me understand that things are not always how they look from the outside. She managed to limit herself to one cigarette per day and there was still always someone yelling at her during those three minutes. She did not need that just then. Her baby was born beautiful, healthy, and loved.
Bauku, What's your relationship with this woman? If you know her at all, it may be something you can ask her (do you know the health risks?) - If you dont know her, then it probably isnt your place. Even if you know her, its not your place what to tell someone to do with their body. In many things, Ive come to realize, if you ask someone about their behavior, they are more likely to listen if there's a constructive change being suggested.
Were you sure she was pregnant, because that's a mistake you don't want to make ever.
"Do you know what that's doing to the baby?"
"What baby?"
"Er... baby Jesus. Smoking makes him cry... nevermind."
In any case, I think that minding your own business was the right thing to do. She's probably well aware of the risks and has heard it a thousand times before from other people. Bringing it up is just going to make her mad and smoke more to spite everyone.
i'd tell her while she's at it, she should dip her cigarette in fromaldahyde, if she's gonna kill herself and her kid she might as well get high, naah mean?
joshxxx....you make me laugh. Honestly i dont care what people do to themselfs or their unborn kids. I cant tell them what to do. And Im not about to. It's just one of the many weird things about me? I dont like people telling me what i can and cant do, so i figure i shouldnt tell other people, especially complete strangers, what they should do.
Buaku
Seattle, WA
April 2004
APR 25, 2005 09:48 PM