Dumped this morning...

Thanks for the support, all.

.ya dude...go get liquored up, like everyone else has already suggested, and the go home and call her at 3 in the morning and start balling....."I MISS YOU", "I THOUGHT WE WERE SOULMATES", all that stuff....works every time.

Yeah, booze it up! That's what I do. Well, if I was dumped, ever I'd booze it up.

I've never had a relationship, that's why I booze it up.

Yeah I'm not so sure drinking is such a great idea because I've been so ultra-upset about this since it happened that I haven't had a bite to eat since Wednesday. Even drinking a little tea made me double over in pain.

I'd probably be horking my guts out onto the floor all night.

Eat! Then drink booze! And in between boozes, eat more!

I love booze. If I could marry booze, I would. It cares about me, I know it does.

Sorry to hear it :\
I like what someone said earlier, turn this into a positive thing and learn from it (eventually...)

Get a bunch of your closest guy friends together, buy lots of ice cream, rent all of the Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan movies that you can find, and take turns painting your toenails.

My gal friends all swear by it, and they're all faster rebounders than I am.

i 3rd this motion!!

us girls can be quite lame sometimes!

read this. Then read it again. Then read it ten more times. keep reading it. Read it as mant times as you have to to get it to sink in. Relationships don't end for no reason. You're going to hurt for a little while...there's no denying that. Take a few days to wallow, drink, curse, break shit....whatever it is that you do. Then pull on your boots and get back to work.

I agree with this. The first part is the hardest, so let yourself grieve.

Eventually, you'll be able to draw from the experiences. You'll be able to look at it objectively and see what worked and what didn't. You USE THAT to make your next relationship even better and stronger.

I can't tell you how many times some shitty thing someone did or said that broke my heart served as a warning sign the next time I dated someone and they pulled it on me.

As far as eating goes, don't force it. Your body will let you eat when it really needs it. Just make sure you drink water (slowly so you don't get sick). I didn't eat for a few days after my last breakup, and then I graduated to a banana or two, eaten slowly. I know it's cliche, but baby steps, my friend. Don't force yourself to eat and be happy before it's time.

My trick? Get pissed at them. I try to remember every little thing they did that annoyed me, everything they did to piss me off, everything that didn't work. I don't try to delude myself into thinking they were "perfect", because nobody is. It's easy to think that the first day or two after being dumped, but I can always find something to irk me later, and I focus on that. My anger is my strength. Your mileage may vary, of course.

[Edited on Apr 08, 2005 by Sorcha]

Sorcha is completely right. "So I don't get to get pissed off and hate him or move on..." Yes, you do. You need to get pissed off, tell him you're never talking to his ass again, and then never talk to his ass again.

BlackHive, that totally sucks. But at least your ex isn't doing this kind of shit to you, right? Sorry, that was kinda mean. But these things do happen, and you can either torture yourself dwelling on it, or you can move on.

shhhh! you're telling the trade secrets!

it does suck to be dumped, but you are too young to be exclusive. go out and sample what else is available.