Breakin Up

So, I was just wondering....I know everyone here has been through a rough breakup...but what did you do to make it through it? I'm struggling right now, so any advice is super welcomed...Thanks

My most common and least physically-and-emotionally healthy method is to drink myself retarded for a good long while.

Other ways are to immerse myself in something I'm interested in that satisfies me... usually a creative endeavor like writing, painting, or drawing.

I've also thrown myself into projects like getting in shape, rearranging and redecorating my entire house, going through my wardrobe and getting rid of all my old clothes and going out and buying new ones.

Giving yourself some personal attention is always great, too. Get a ridiculously expensive haircut/color/style. Do something wild.. ever wonder what you'd look like with a totally different hair color? Get a facial and a massage at a day spa. Get a manicure and a pedicure. Treat yourself to an awesome night out on the town with friends.

Also, join SG chat.

[Edited on Apr 07, 2005 by Shalome]

I drank myself silly.

Come to think of it... I'm still drinking... 13 years later...

For me it's always been a matter of time healing all wounds. Nothing can really make you feel better after that but doing new things and things that you're good at can definitely help. After a recent break up, I started taking karate and found that the work out and the acheivments leveled me out a lot. Good luck.

I think of how many millions of other girls there are on the planet. And look, one who happens to live in my part of the world was not my soulmate....shocker. There is plenty of time and world for love.

Alcohol & ice cream.

join a gym. listen to loud music. drink a lot. agree with all the friends that said, "i told you so"

above all,realize your self worth...

as tony montana said..."who do i trust???..ME!"..that being said you should focus on the most important things in your life right now...namely yer self and whoever or whatever else is around you..spend some time with your family members if you have them or take a vacation...these are things you could do..me??..i usually do the breaking up cause i see the signs and nip it in the bud quickly..i'm a virgo

"The best part of breaking up is making up with you" --- The Ronettes

Throw yourself at him and make a fool of yourself until he says or does something really nasty to get rid of you. Then you'll hate him, and being without him won't be so hard.

break things.

Learn the ways of the Nihilist.
No hope= No pain.

i drank a lot, slept on the rebound with a very questionable woman.

"when i was seventeeeeeeen..." - frank sinatra

Sometimes, as much as it sucks, time does heal all wounds... with that being said, things that have worked for me is writing down what i feel, eating ice cream, crying in the bathtub. etc. etc. etc.

Also knowing you are not alone and if you just need to vent people will listen.

just learn to make yourself laugh.....it really helps.

Let's see... After the last really tough breakup, I did the following, which I don't suggest at all, as it didn't work too well

1. Drank heavily almost every day
2. Had a bunch of random hookups and one night stands
3. Cut myself
4. Started smoking
5. A bunch of other really stupid and self destructive things...

There was only one thing that seemed to help, and that was writing.

slashing his tires and keying his car doesn't help.

Got addicted to SG.

Start doing something physical like karate, kung fu, yoga, or even just working out at the gym. Just having a higher level of seratonin coursing through you will make stuff a little easier. Also, don't deny yourself your sadness. Accept it, and feel it until you are rady to put your focus on other things. And don't fuck random other people. That just feels yucky at this point.

BATTING CAGES!

Alcohol, books, tv, drugs. Not necessarily in that order.

all of the above....

also I find others that are having a similar difficult time so we can whine and bitch to each other about the basterds/bitchs....

so, what are you doing later?