broken heart

Has anyone ever had their heart broken? I mean, really, really, really, really, really broken so bad that you throw up because your body is in such emotional turmoil?

That just happened to me. I'm having a rough time. Could I be selfish enough to ask y'all for a little pat on the back? Maybe you want to share some broken heart stories of your own?

Thanks.

yes, and i dont want to share it, but i hope you start to feel better soon

many times.

Too many times to count.

Yeah, I also do not want to share mine. I am sorry for your loss and your pain, though. I wish I could say it gets better with time, but that isn't true. You may forget every once in a while, but true love haunts you for life. Sorry if I put a downer on here, but that is just my experience.

You make up for your loss in friendships. There is nothing more healing than hanging out with friends and laughing. Laughter is the answer to everything. I hope everything gets better for you and in time you find some one who makes you happy.

[Edited on Apr 05, 2005 by JohnnyHomicide]

I had a similar experience not long ago. Some people say to find the good thing about the situation and run with it (I usually kick those people in the crotch) but in this case it hit me immediately. Anyway, for the first time I actually found myself dating a woman who fit ALL of my criteria. All of it. She's amazing, but she called it off and I turned into a person I'd never been before. I was weak, I was barely holding on the the control that stopped me from calling, etc. It hurt physically. I've never experienced that before. All my past relationships, when they ended, I didn't miss a beat.

But here's the upside. It means I'm not crazy. It means that all of those requirements and preferences I've had for so long aren't just some sick subconscious way of guaranteeing that I'll never have to committ, or that I'll never put myself in a position to get truly hurt. She actually exists, and I'm not naive enough to think that there can only be one woman out there like her. Actually, with 6.5 billion people on earth there are probably tens of thousands of women just like her. It just means I have to find one of them, which I've already proven that I can do.

Good luck, you'll be just fine. The key thing to remember is before you met this person you had different priorities, friends were higher on your list of people to always be thinking about. A new relationship always clouds that or shuffles it around a bit, but they're still there. Go collect hugs from them.

I feel that way right now. My heart is so broken. I feel sick.

If you need someone to talk too.... You can email me if you want...

((((((((((((((((((((((Query)))))))))))))))))))) <<<< that was a cyber hug.


edited to say: yes...been there done that.

[Edited on Apr 05, 2005 by SurfBetty]

SurfBetty said:
((((((((((((((((((((((Query)))))))))))))))))))) <<<< that was a cyber hug.


I'm a little bit weirded out by how comforting that actually was....

yes, and I spent the next six months drunk to stop the dreams... real shitty dreams like she was sitting on the edge of the bed, and she'd stroke my hair and say "are you hungry babe? I can make your favorite. everything is going to be ok" I'd wake up, no love, no gf, no one giving a shit about how I was feeling but my drinking buddies at the Comet Tavern, mainly cause I always bought a few rounds

that was ten years ago, and though over it all, I try to think of it as little as possible. the pain is still down there pretty deep

well good... I know things are hard right now...but in a few months you'll be out scamming on some fresh meat with your girlfriends talking about what a jackass he was..


try and get outside today...get your mind off of things..k.

What that older dude you were dating? Awww kiddo, I'm sorry.

Big loves from all o' us.

I just recently got myself pretty hurt. I did some rash and vindictive things and now I feel a bit better. All of my friends are behind me so its been a bit of a "bondng" experience. I gave her a nasty poem (in my journal) and some other things in a nice pretty package. But I guess time is the real healer and there's nothing to do but try to look forward to the future. Sorry this happened to you, good luck.

I've been there too. I actually thought I was going to die.
It always hurts more when you can't control the breakup. When there doesn't seem like a real reason for it.

All I can say is that it won't hurt so much at some point. Not today, but eventually. Until then, grab a bottle and knock a few back. A vicious hangover will distract you from the pain.

My heart tends to get broken rather easily, i'm afraid. Remember these two things:

Things Fall Apart
This Too Shall Pass.

I recently had my heart broken.....this girl was the only reason that I got up and went to work everyday she was the world to me more than that even and I would tell her this almost daily....we were in love like noone should ever love nothing could come between us and then one day she told me she didnt love me anymore come to find out she had a new boyfriend that she'd been seeing for almost a month before saying anything to me, I was devistated(sp?) I wanted to die, but I couldnt bring myself to end my life....it made me think long and hard about why I loved her, and the worst part is that i could come up with nothing.....it was inexplicable as to why i loved her i just did and that didnt matter to me but now that its over i realize that the lack of a reason to love her was reason enough to forget her....we still talk as semi-friends i've even hung out with her a couple times but it will never be ok it will always hurt.....but as they say "tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" i'm a better person today because she doesnt love me.

All I can tell you, from personal experience, is out of the ashes rises a great Phoenix, it just takes time, so don't rush it.

my heart was broken the one and only time i've ever been in love

yes.
i felt like i was dying for a year and a half.
and the whole time i knew it was all my fault.

i'm really glad that's over.

Also:

Dust in the Wind.


Or better yet, don't remember any Kansas lyric, ever.

I had my heart broken once. It was really, really bad. It was the woman I dated before I met my wife. At the time, she seemed perfect to me in every way. I just burned for her - but then bam, it was done, and she broke off with me for the stupidest reason you could ever think of (it involved bowling, of all things).

I never thought I'd get past it, but then I met my wife a few months later, and while I remembered, and still remember the heartbreak, it just doesn't have any power over me now.

It does scab over with time, and when you find someone new the ache fades away, because you're able to better let go of something that wasn't meant to be, and probably wasn't as good as you thought it was at the time.

[Edited on Apr 05, 2005 by PatrickY]

Yes, twice. But they're too personal to share. Sorry, and I hope you feel better.

last january. i didn't eat anything for almost a week. and every time i went anywhere i was reminded of him. i almost fucked my entire life up because of him. but in the end i realized that there were far more important things that i needed to worry about, like finishing school, than missing eric. so i got my shit together. it still sucked for a long time, and every once in a while i still get little chest pains when things remind me of him. but for the most part, i'm okay. i'm even friends with him and his new girlfriend now. he's far too cool a person to just cut out of my life and that was the worst part when we broke up... not having him in my life. you always have scars on your heart from when it's broken, but eventually they do fade until you have to look really fucking closely to see them.

i hope you feel better soon...