They call them crushes for a reason

Crushes are wonderful things. They allow us a chance to be smitten and delerious for a while without realy doing anything. It's a decision. I remember my frist crush. I was in the first grade and had this boyhood love for a little red haired girl in my class. We used to play after school at her house. My dad would tease me about playing barbies with her, but I didn't care. I thought she was pretty and sweet. I looked at the old yearbook picture a while back and kind of laughed to myself about it. She had curly red hair and freckles and a small gap between her front teeth, but we were first graders and it was cute to our partents. I haven't seen her since the first grade but I like to think that now she looks like Cate Blanchet. Although I have no idea.

These days crushes are diffrent. To a 6 year old a crush is powerful. It means that you are in love. I mean you are 6 and hav no clue what ytou are doing or any of that and honestly love is a notion that you can't comprehend or practice because of lack of knowledge of the emotions or situation. Now, though. It's a diffrent state of affairs. A crush can mean so many diffrent things now. It can be a co-worker that I respect because of thier strength or thier decisiveness. It can be a person I see everyday and pay no attention to until they do "something that makes you notice. They can mean passion, or beginings. At thier best they are the begining of the rapture that you go through when you actually fall in love. At thier worst they can mean be painful and heartbreaking if you are prone to taking them too seriously. There is a place in between though that is wonderful.

When a crush is nothing more than a crush and you suddenly realize that you think someone is smart and sweet and funny and sexy and intoxicating it's wonderful. they can be from a far or up close and personal. I have a couple of crushes right now. I won't mention any of the names of the women I have crushes for on this site because I'm not fishing for attention, but ladies you are out there. This is crush from a far. I learn little bits about you as you post and I see your pistures and read your profiles and when I see your posts I smile. A warm fuzzy that I enjoy.

I also have crushes (small ones) on some of my friends signifigant others. The reason for this is simple. My friends have great taste in people most of the time. I respect these women and have the common thread of caring about the smae people. I love them for taking care of and loving the people that I care for.

I have crushes for women at work that I see every day. These women are all crushes for diffrent reasons. One is because I see the potential in her to be an amazing person. One is because she is a wonderful person and treats people with respect. One is because she is a bad ass and stands up for the things she belives in.

These crushes keep me going from time to time, and sometimes they just make me feel good. At point they make me like most men do stupid things. They can even cause you to write really long posts on public forums among people you barely know.

So what are your thoughts on crushes? Anything. Do you like them, hate them? Who was your first crush? Do you have a crush on anyone that you haven't done anything about? If so why not. Who was your biggest crush? Basicly I'm just wondering if I'm the only guy out there that is a sap and enjoys feeling giddy and stupid when a girl that I adore in some way walks in. Who takes your breath away? Suicidegirls you have crushes on? People that suicidegirls have crushes on? Look at this as an opertunity to say the things you have wanted to for a while and haven' had the guts to if that what you want to do.

PS. Sorry about the length. I talk to much when I'm feeling sappy.

Wow, my spelling and gramer in that are freaking awful!!!

to be young and in love. to be completly irrational. aaaaaaaaaaaaaah those were the days. now im old and in love, lol

I completely agree. i love being all giddy and crushing hard. Everything just seems so trivial except for the thing that person is doing right then. I'm in love now and I still get all crushy all the time.

That sounds funny, I get crushy.

With each relationship I have it becomes less and less easy to fall for someone. I guess that's called becoming jaded.

i use to have a crush on chloe..cause she passed me on the street and said she liked my shirt so i emailed her and asked he if it was her...and she said yes and that she thought i was cute...so we started talking on aim...but she doesn't talk to me no more so i was somwhat sadden by that

plus there are some girls on this site i really like but i won' do anything about cause i havea ugs fear of rejection..plus the fact of them thinking i'm a freak cause i'm dating a boy right now ..and that i also want to see girls...
but i agree crushes are fun...plus it's nice to have someone crushing on you.

so curious...anyone havea crush one me?

i have a pretty big one going on right now. id like to get to know her a little more before i decide if i want to go any further than that with her, but i can never seem to get alone with her to just talk and i dont know how to go about doing this without making it seem like im asking her on a date since we dont know each other very closely on that level. its kind of frustrating, but im not sure if it would work out anyway so im pretty comfortable with just looking and not touching at the moment.

I have a crush at the moment on a girl who has a crush on me as well. It kind of weird. I mean we aren't doing ANYTHING about it. I mean we have kissed a couple of times and flirt a lot, but we have decided that right now isn't a good time for either of us to date so it's all shy and coy. It's really strange too, it's like it brings more sexual tension into the relationship we have. I must admit, it's both sexy and frustrating. The problem is I think that's why I like it.

i have a few crushes right now. it's a wonderful feeling. when you're with the person you just feel so elated. it can be very frustrating though, especially when you have a crush on someone who has a girlfriend or boyfriend, as i often get.
i think my first crush was michael jackson, when i was really young. my first real crush was in fourth grade, on this cute, funny boy named shawn. i remember writing him a love letter but of course never giving it to him. in fact, i think i might've given it to a friend who also had a crush on him to give it to him from her.
silly little masochistic eve.

I have a MEAN crush on lots of people. Boys AND girls. And SGs, because they're in their own category.
Yes. I succumb to becoming temporarily smitten all the time. I love it.

No crushes right at the moment- I figured that between most women ignoring me, and all the anti-depressants I'm on, it's kind of a futile effort either way.

I've had way too many crushes to count...but I do enjoy that giddiness I get from having a crush. Yes it does keep me going from time to time which can be both a good and bad thing. Unfortunately I'm one for the chase...as soon as I have it I most likely end up getting bored with it so sometimes I wish it would just stay a crush...hopefully one that I don't end up getting crushed.

I have a crush on Soul Calibur 2. I started playing right around when I broke up with my girlfriend, and I gotta admit, its a lot more fun than her sorry self.

right now i have 2 (or possibly 3) crushes...

i remember my first one... in the afterschool program... like the school's free daycare for parents that couldnt get home at 3 when school let out... i was in kindergarten, and there was a really cute girl named Jessica that i totally hung all over... only problem was that she was in 4th grade... but that didnt stop me from stealing a kiss or 5 from her... right infront of the other kids... i was such a pimp back then... what happened?

I get crushes all the time...well not lately...kinda hard to find crushworthy ladies in an all male Marine unit.

I have an undying crush on Alyssa Milano? does that count? oh and this firedancer girl I know had me all aflutter on my short trip home.

edit: I am reviving this thread for Gwen. CLEAR! BZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZT*

[Edited on Nov 26, 2002 by Volkov7]

OOh, work crushes, now where do I begin...Just about every girl in my office is hot in some way, and they're all nice and pleasant. I'm not going to name names, just incase, so initials will have to suffice...
N - Kinda looks like Robin, and is a really nice person. Also into computers and web design, but has a longterm bf
S - N's best friend and I think the most likely candidate for liking me too... I'm not too sure of her interests, as we work on different teams, but she finds many excuses to talk to me, although she may or may not be dating one of the guys in our office...
R - My office buddy, and very down to earth despite being uber hot. Shares my weakness for shopping and sense of humor...
K - All round 'nice' girl. Into tattoos, piercings, etc, and has similar interests to me. At the same time, rather shy, but also extremely talkative.
M - Probably the cutest girl in the office, and at barely 5'00, inspires feelings of protection. She also has an amazing figure that inspire less chivalrous feelings and a few nice tattoos. (She works in another department though, so I've probably only said two sentances to her in 3 months...)

Despite all these crushes, and nice girls I work with, I've always avoided dating co-workers, although one day I may decide to revise that rule...
Spike

crushes: the double edged sword.
(an essay about what the word crush REALLY means)
(also, a married woman)

crushes suck because they constantly remind you that no marriage is ever perfect, and that sometimes you know people a little TOO well, and that it's really fun to peek in on someone else's life every now and then and fantasize about what it might be like if your paths had crossed earlier in life.

crushes are exhilarating, and exciting, and make you feel all flushed in the cheeks, and give you butterflies in your stomach, and make you run home to your stupid ass computer (who is NOT your friend and you can't casually rub your boob against it when you walk out of the room for dramatic purposes)(well you can but it's still not going to like you, probably much like the person you have a crush on.)

AHHHH fuck. now i'm wearing my pissy pants again...

i haven't had a real crush in a long time . . . until recently. and i crushed hard. it seemed so mutual . . . so real . . . and i thought i had found something. it turns out i hadn't. it hurt. it hurts. but i can't regret trying . . . if you never try, you never know . . . and i have once again found hope. i have someone to thank for that, and he knows who he is. ion the end, i have a very good friend.