Age? Does it matter to you?

Defintly twords the older side, I'm 19 my best friend is 30 and my last girl friend was 32 I often find that people my age dont have the same views on life that i do.

although i prefer women younger then me. i dont write off older women because they are older then me. so no. age doesnt matter to me. my curent girlfriend is 6 years younger then me. she's about to trun 20 and i turn 26 next year (ok 5 and a half months). but i almost ended up dating a woman 3 years older then me once. so it all depends on the conection i make with the person.

[Edited on Nov 24, 2002 by WingZephyr]

I don't have too much preferance when it comes to age. I've found pro's and con's of each. Just really depends on personality and where that person is at in their life (mentally). Biggest gap I had was about 10 years. I was 26 and she was about 36 but it didn't last long. I tend to go for people that are young at heart.

For me, it's ALWAYS been younger guys. Younger friends. Younger women. ALWAYS. The biggest age gap was about 12 years. I've had a thing about younger guys specifically since I can remember. Although, it didn't actually begin officially (I guess) until after high school. The reasons I gravitate towards younger people are far more lengthy than I have time to post now, but we could get into a really fun, interesting one-on-one any time you're ready. I love this subject.

xoxo

P.S. My fiance is 7 years younger than I am.

I want all the SGs to like older guys, cause I'm 30

I think age is important, for long term thinking (like who you marry or want to be a lfemate with) but for fun and casual relationships I think it doesn't matter.

Why for long term stuff you ask? Because health is important to me and being physical is important to me. I'd hate to be 10+ years older than my wife, and when she gets near her biological clocks d-day she decides she wants a child... I'm like 55 or 60 and shooting blanks. That would suck. Or physical activities other than that, like climbing or playing sports. It would suck to not be able to share that stuff cause I was too cripply or something.

Wow.. typing that all out makes it seem a little less important that I thought at first. Interesting.

I've always gravitated toward older people... I can't really say it's a preference, it's just that most of the really interesting people I meet happen to be quite a bit older.

In terms of relationships... well, I can't really say, due to lack of experience. I've olny been in one relationship, and she was, gasp, an entire month older than me. Most of the girls I tend to look at are older, though, by at least a few years.

When I was 28 I dated an 18 year old for three years. In retrospect, it was definitely more as a protector and father figure than a lover. She ended up dumping me for some guy that she went to community college with that was her age. I think he still lived with his mom. I was a professional that didnÕt want to go out every night (as she did) and I think she wasnÕt ready for a mature relationship. That was the last time I would go out with someone that young.

I used to be very attracted to younger women because of my need to shelter, protect and be a teacher. This, of course, is not the best reason to be in a relationship. (ItÕs a nice after effectÉ sharing your years of wisdom and knowledge... but it shouldnÕt be the reason your in the relationship.) A mutually giving experience is far more enjoyable than a one-sided teacher/student coupling. I think I have finally gotten over this era in my life because I am no longer into younger women. Especially the ones who havenÕt seen the world, are seeking adventure and can't be tied down. (Don't get me wrong... I love adventures, just not the ones that most young people want these days... i.e. things I have done over and over again for many years now.) To generalize, most young people today share a certain generational spirit that I find to be uninteresting. Therefore, extreme youth (18-23) isnÕt something IÕm very attracted to mentallyÉ (physicallyÉ well, thatÕs another story.)

On the flip sideÉ I have begun to find older women far more attractive than I used to. I love creative career women that have all their ducks in a row and can support my dreams (as well as their own,) as opposed to attaching themselves to me and my accomplishments like most of the younger women that I have been involved with do. I have been in an intense off and on, long distance relationship for 8 years with an older woman (37) that is a New York City cabaret showgirl and costumer for Broadway. Her creativity excites me (far more than the energy of the younger girls) and her beauty seems to get better with timeÉ but this just might be love talking.

Bottom line is, I donÕt think age REALLY matters as long as the individual has a good head on their shoulders and can express themselves as an individual as well as a couple when they are with me. I want a driven artistic woman that knows what she wants and is doing everything to obtain it. Unfortunately I donÕt know many people in this world like thatÉ especially the spoiled young of our rich and over saturated pop culture.

My last girlfriend was 4 sometimes 5 years older than me, depending on the time of year. It was perfectly fine to me, she acted much younger than her age. I think when she turned 29 she started freaking out. The impending doom of 30 and I would still be in my twenties. It suddenly mattered to her. I have no preference.

im pretty boring in that respect, i like girls within two years of me. 21 is as low as i go, and conversely i feel like i cant really relate to most stable/sane women over 27.

Interesting question...I was just thinking about this today . Generally I go more towards younger people it seems . Most people my age are way too uptight to remember hoe to have fun . Or perhaps I'm in denial , who knows .
Biggest age difference just happened not too long ago . She was 22 , I am 29 . When I'm dating a person , I would prefer somebody my age or really close to it . I think it's because you can relate to those people more . They've seen the same things , done the same things , and experienced the same things that you have for the most part . Age doesn't really matter that much when you boil it all down . The way the person acts and feels about you is what REALLY matters .

i'd have to go with older. i haven't really dated many people way older than me-but i'm definitely very attracted to them. david duchovny for instance is 42-which is more than twice my age. my boyfriend now is 4 years older than me. for the most part-my friends are my age-but i always have had friends that were much older. i hung out with 40-something hippies when i was 11-14, and some of my closest friends here in town are 30-35. but i don't really know why. when i was younger i'd go everywhere with my grandma-i'm talking like 2-8, i liked to sit around with her and her friends or go out with my grandpa if he wasn't going to bars.sometimes i'd get to go then too. can't say i've ever really thought about it. maybe when it was younger it was cause if i hung out with people my age i got teased for being a bookworm. who knows.

i've actually been really interested in this, and started a thread about it.

my problem is this: i relate so much better to older people; i always have. but i have such a wanderlust right now, and just generally problems with sitting still, that i would have a hard time being in a relationship with an older person. so basically i'm stuck.

also i've talked to a few people who said that they basically couldn't have a relationship with me based solely on my age, which always pisses me off. i HATE being judged by how many spring thaws i've seen, and it seems to happen way too often.

the biggest age gap for me was someone 24 years older than me

I seem to end up around 19 year olds a lot. Well, 19-21 year olds. This isn't a concrete or intentional thing (or even a concious one), it just seems to happen. I liked females that age when I was 17, and still end up around them fairly often.

Were I smarter, I'd surround myself with females my age and older. That just hasn't happened recently.

i think i am definatley more attracted to older women. i have never dated one so i guess i cant say for sure. people my age seem to be opinionated and childish. i dont want to be a little kid and i dont want to be with a little kid. older women are actually people and they have a better idea of who they are and what they want (sometimes that is, ive met 17 year olds who gave me this impression so i think its more a quality that i like that older women tend to posess more often). but trying to talk to a girl who i think is rad and who is also prolly way more experienced than me makes me extra nervous.

somewhere between the age of consent and onset of menopause suits me

I can't go by age, because it often is not a true indicator of maturity. I go solely based on the person (as long as I can't get arrested for it). At 33, I find myself dating a lot of women in their mid 20's. Altough, to be fair - most of the women in my age group are married and have kids, or worse, are divorced with kids.
Hey - not that I have anything against kids, but I'm not sure I want to have any of my own - so why the hell would I want to have someone elses to worry about?
What it really comes down to is who you are - all other factors, (ie intelligence, race, age, religion, physical stats, what have you) are secondary as individual stats. It really comes down to, are you the kihnd of person with whom I would be happy sharing my time (and/or life)? I have gone out with women who are 19 and women who are in the late 30's, all of whom, I would gladly date again, if I went back in time to when we met. If you are a quality person - you have every shot at me...

I think that most 32 year-olds look for the kind of maturity that someone who is 19 and named stickynuts can offer.