life sucks--make it better

i was in the same situation once. i was crazy about this girl for a long time but she was also my best friend. i told her at one point, and we almost dated even, but she said she felt too close(you know, like i was her brother). it was good, because after so long she had started to feel that way to me as well. anyway, there were no hurt feelings and if anything it made our friendship stronger.

if your friendship is strong then telling her shouldn't be a big deal, as long as you don't get weird or keep pursuing her after/if she doesn't return the feelings. i'd recommend getting that out of your system anyway. it ate away at me for years, just wondering. it's so much nicer to have everything in the open and know where you stand. good luck!

Good guy version: Tell her how you feel about her as openly and honestly as you can say it *without holding any expectation*. Then listen carefully to what she says, assume she's telling you the whole truth and live your life accordingly.

Most likely to work version: Tell her casually that you've been finding yourself growing attracted to her recently, and describe in detal an erotic dream that featured her. *Then drop the issue and don't bring it up again.*

excommunicate