ADVICE, pls

i didn't submit this to the advice wire because i wanted the input of people other than SGs

very long and boring story short, the girlfriend of one of my upstairs neighbors (who also lives up there) came onto me last night. do i have an obligation to tell the guy?

Not if you want to have sex with her.

No, because how could she resist you?

it should wipe right off.

A) i like her boyfriend, he is a real decent guy. this is the only reason i am even entertaining saying anything. i don't care for the girl or the 2nd male roommate so much.

B) things are really tense up there; the girl recently quit her job in order to babysit for this stripper friend of hers, but the girl left the baby there for 5 days (it was only supposed to be for 2) and then sent her uncle over there to pick the kid up after the girl had left an obscenity-laden voice mail on here phone (i know.). anyway, she stiffed them, and if they don't have $200 by monday, they are gonna be evicted, so things are really tense up there and all parties involved are pretty upset. so this might explain things.

C) the guy (w/ the girlfriend) has suspected that the girl is doing things behind his back with the 2nd male roommate, as it is. he is always talking about her when she isn't around and then when she is, he never misses an opportunity to touch her or to talk shit to her, the way a 3rd grade boy does to a girl that he likes

No, it would be great to have a affair with the upstairs neighbor. Reminds me of a movie. Well of course if you have a woman then you should ask your woman if she wants in on it.

You should tell the dude, and then help him kick the other dudes ass.

D) i don't even find this girl attractive, so nothing is going to happen.

Okay I've got it, do the girl and get it on film. That way you will be able to tell him he's girl is a slut and have proof.

Kill them all and let God sort it out.

Tell him, but be prepped for him to be pissed at you. Shooting the messenger and all that....

E) this girl and i have not gotten along very well in the past (the long and boring part of the story, which i won't get into here), so i don't know if i want to say anything because i want to do the right thing, or because, subconsciously, i want to see the screws get put to her.

* this made me laugh out loud -> unfortunately I'm at work and people around the corner said "hey what'cha laughing at" *

Ryan_Dipietro you are a frikin dog! and I mean that in a good way.

Knock 3 times on the ceiling if you want her
twice on the pipe if the answer is no.



All the advice you need.

[Edited on Dec 01, 2004 by Point_Blank]

*chuckle*

Yeah dude, I'd just leave it alone for now. If she continues to come on to you, that's something else. Unless you posess a healthy, unfettered love for that kind of chaos, I'd recommend not stirring the pot any further. Sounds like they have enough of their own bullshit going on.

just avoid the sitiation all together and if the the boyfriend asks directly
you can say she came on to me but nothing happened
drama is a black hole
there is a lot of drama up there so if you don't want to get sucked in
stay away!!
that way you can still be cool with the boy friend when the drama passes

Point Blank Truism Number 1345:

People who are involved with strippers who leave their babys behind for 5 days and leave nasty voice messages and who might be getting evicted and who have crazy uncles ARE NOT TO BE FUCKED WITH. STAY CLEAR!

I think if all this shit is going down with them, bringing up his slutty girlfriends actions isn't going to help anything. Maybe wait and see if they're evicted. Case closed.

I wouldn't even tell my best friend if her guy came onto me never mind some guy who lives upstairs from me.

Leave it alone dude, that potential drama is totally avoidable.

I had a long drivel of advice for you, but I just spent the last five minutes listening to my parents argue upstairs. I lost my advice.

I guess my new advice would be ... unless you want to listen to arguements upstairs ... don't live life without a pair of earplugs.

Or move out of your parents house.

Finally, some respekt.

B and C did it for me. On the one hand, I believe you should think about yourself and avoid a potentially bad situation. I know you feel obligated, but as you said in C, he has an idea already. In my mind, it's likely this thing will end soon enough. I think you're telling him would only bring it on quicker.