Asking girls out at their place of business...

Is this taboo? Whenever i get the urge to ask out a girl who's working i feel like a douchebag because im sure guys are hitting on them all day. Is this true?

I've seen a few people here say that they hate it because they can't be rude to the customers, but they don't want to say yes, and they feel like they sometimes can't say no.

I guess it depends what job they do, and how politely you ask.

if you like a girl in a store, make efforts to go back. Become a semi regular customer... go back and start friendly conversation with "remember me?" kind of things.

truth be told most girls don't like it when random guys ask us our. period. not at our jobs. not at a bar. please make effort to get to know us first.

what she said.

right on.

i second that emotion.

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[Edited on Dec 01, 2004 by Ryan_Dipietro]

Definitely true for places like bars, strip clubs, escort services, et cetera.

Then again, I work at a library and it skeeves me out when people try to ask me out. So it also may just depend on the girl.

But I generally agree with what's been said. Become a regular customer. Be friendly. Be nice.

Some more advice:

If you ask a girl out the first time you meet her, we're going to think you ask lots of girls out when you first meet them.

Even if you start with the classic "I don't normally do this." Chances are, you're lying and even if you're not lying, chances are we won't believe you.

If you put effort into seeing us again without going with them lame "um can I have your number" we'll be impressed. If you met us and 3 minutes later ask to take us out, meeeeh not so good.

Word. Just for the record it wasn't a strip club. It was a record store. The good God-fearing people of the florida state legislative body saw it fit to ban everyone under the age of 21 from topless establishments.


[Edited on Dec 01, 2004 by Ryan_Dipietro]

So does it make me a bad person then to ask someone out after and hour of chatting at their place of business?

I was turned down, but have since seen this fella and hes made every effort to be close to me, talk to me, etc.

I think i might have gotten a pat answer. In any case, I sometimes meet people I feel a spark with, and if i let them walk away, I may never see them again. I think i would rather be outspoken than worry about social taboos in this instance, the great unknown. Who knows what you're missing out on!

Bring a friend to the store, walk and talk with them, and when you get near the lady, casually say in a loud voice, "Boy, I sure do like to eat pussy!" Then look at the woman and wink. This will let her know that you are smooth and sassy, and soon she will be asking you out.

God. You've got this down to a science. I mean.. I know I think like that, I just don't always think to SAY it in an easy-to-understand way. So, ditto again.

I think really that this is probably the only advice you need on this topic, honestly.


[Edited on Dec 01, 2004 by sarahg]

ever tried asking someone out who works at the same place as you? eeeek, always seems they've been seeing one of my workmates for months but i was just too damn thick to see the signs!

hhhmmmm '...always...'? think i should get out more.

I've wondered this myself. Good question Ryan! What if you meet this person randomly at....say.....a fruit stand. The chances of running into each other again could be very slim. Would it be ok to ask for a number then? Or would be better to say something like "I usually go to the (name an establishment) on saturdays. You should check it out sometime. Maybe we'll run into each other."

I agree with the "becoming a semi-regular customer" but I think there's opportunity there to become creepy as well. It depends on the place. If she works at the grocery store...well, there's a reason for you to be there on a regular basis. But if she works in the free clinic...perhaps you should limit your regular visits. If she works in a bar and you're there every night, you seem like a drunk. All I'm saying is, gauge how frequently will get her to remember you and how frequently will creep her out.

I think in this case, the second option is more appropriate. It's possible that also you could give her YOUR number. That gives her room to call if she wants and she won't turn you down to your face. So you know that if she calls, it's really because she wants to and not because she has to.

It worked!

Yeah, I've always wanted to do this, because there's some really cute girls that work at the record stores, and Hot-Topic-esque stores around here.

I think MistakesMade's advice is the most sound.

oh, you shop at hot topic? you're going to hell for sure.

well thank ya thank ya. Just trying to help a brotha out

I've been told that giving a girl your number is a biiiiiig no no.

i think as far as the 'meeting someone on the street situation' is concerned, if you want to talk to them again it`s definitely better to give them your number. that way you aren`t asking someone to give out information that they may not be comfortable with. it also shows them that you are giving them the option of whether or not they would like to see you again. i think it`s an all around better impression.

I don't know about most other girls.. I don't remember ever discussing this with my girl friends.. but I'd rather a guy give me his number than ask me for mine. Maybe I'm just weird.. but I like that better. As long as it's not done in a cocky "here's my card" kind of way.

Who says anything ever has to be a no no? Does someone tell you how many times you should let the phone ring before you answer it too???

And the offer to 'maybe i'll see you there' is almost as cliche as 'i never do this'.

What a bourgious group you people are! Break the rules! When i ask someone out point blank i never make excuses for why i do it. I never explain myself. And if they ask, i tell them its because i like them, find them interesting, whatever the case may be.

Why play little games!!! Just go after what you want!!!