Porn Poll

I wanted to hear some honest opinions from everyone on porn. I'm talking about "real" porn, not SG/pinup type stuff.

Guys:
Do you watch/enjoy porn? I've heard that ALL men watch porn... but I have a hard time believing this. I've had a few guys tell me they don't like it.

If you were dating/in a relationship with a woman that didn't like it and didn't want you to look at it would you: stop and get rid of it; get rid of her; or just hide it and lie to her?

Girls:
Do you watch/enjoy porn?

How do you feel about your boyfriend/husband looking at porn? How would you feel if he was hiding it from you and lying about it?

Do you feel that it's a form of cheating?

BTW I didn't feel this belonged in Dirty Talk, because I'm just looking for opinions and discussion, I'm not trying to get dirty. But feel free to move it if you feel it's necessary.

I had a really big problem in my last relationship because my boyfriend felt the need to blatantly lie and hide his porn. He also used to tell me that he didn't look at porn and then I would see it all over the computer. My dilemma was never with the porn itself but with the fact that he had an aspect of his sexuality that he felt I could not satisy or could not be a part of. I felt that if he was hiding it, it was because he knew that it was somehow infringing upon our relationship.
In my current relationship, we look at porn together and he's totally open and honest and I'm completely cool with it. So long as I don't feel like I'm being played for a fool, it's okay with me.

I love porn, but hate what I would call "mainstream" porn, with all the hairspray, and silicon, and fake orgasms, and speed zits, and pounds of makeup, and whatnot. The cliches, the formulaic going-through-the-motions artificiality of it all... I especially hate the gonzo shit, where you have two (or more) people going at it on the bed/couch/whatever while some fat, obnoxious jackass runs his mouth in the background, and also the ones where they're clicking away taking pictures while they're filming. Ugh...

I would much rather see something with people who are sincerely enjoying themselves, even if they're not quite as good-looking, then that crap.

If I were dating a woman who wasn't into porn, I would be open and honest with her about it. Depending on her reaction and how strongly she felt about it, I might get rid of it if she wanted me to, but my strong inclination would be to be with a woman who shares my interests. Of course, if she's not down with the SG, then her ass is outta here...

[Edited on Nov 14, 2004 by Attack_Macaque]

i have an unhealthy addiction to pr0n...

Ok now and then. Some of it can be quite entertaining.

I never been in a relationship where that came up though, but I would say I would try my best to stop, but knowing how weak I fucking am, I would end up coming back. But then again, we will really have to see how it goes when I do get in a relationship.

Porn is a only a problem to me when it's at the exclusion of an actual sex life. Like, with me.

I like some mainstream porn, I like it better if I have someone to watch it with.

When there's a woman in my life, I can't stand porn.

I'm a guy and I watch porn. Hell yeah, I enjoy it!

If I was involved with someone who didn't want me watching porn at all, I certainly wouldn't lie to her and still do it behind her back. Lying is the worst thing you can do. Instead, I would talk to her about her and try to work something out. I have found many times that it's not the porn that bothers a woman, it's the feeling that the man is sexually unsatisfied with her and he looks at porn to gain the satisfaction he needs. I know I'm a total hornball and I look at porn even when I'm in a really satisfying relationship. If I'm not satisfied with a woman sexually then it's a completely separate issue and the porn has nothing to do with it.

I wstch and enjoy porn... though most of it I find depressingly low in quality, both in terms of pure filmmaking aesthetics and in terms of heat on display... that and the unrepentant misogyny that you almost can't escape.

In past relationships either I knew the girl was OK with porn and so didn't bother hiding it, or simply didn't say anything... a lie of omission, I suppose. Of course that relationship I was much too withheld about everything, so it was more a symptom of a bigger problem than anything else.

Do you watch/enjoy porn?

Some of it. They're getting better at making it not-so-annoying, and the men aren't quite as icky. I prefer it with the sound off, though (and my stereo playing music). The fake noises get on my nerves.

I really like gay porn. /perv

How do you feel about your boyfriend/husband looking at porn?

Fine. I bought my ex a membership to SG for his birthday while we were dating. As long as it doesn't become an addiction (twelve hours per day jacking off to them and then not even a kiss goodnight for me), it's perfectly fine.

How would you feel if he was hiding it from you and lying about it?

Confused. There's no reason to lie about it since I'm okay with it. If he's lying because he's ashamed, then I'd ask why he's ashamed.

Do you feel that it's a form of cheating?

Do I think it's the same as him cheating on me? No, not at all.

[Edited on Nov 15, 2004 by Sorcha]

am female sooooo:


Do you watch/enjoy porn? yep!

How do you feel about your boyfriend/husband looking at porn? don't care at all.

How would you feel if he was hiding it from you and lying about it? same as finding out they were lying or hiding anything else: it would depend on the why of it. anything from laughing it off to being really upset.

Do you feel that it's a form of cheating? not at all.


edited to add:

i see absolutely no difference in SG & "real porn". they are entirely the same in terms of porn-usage, especially in this area of concern to finding one's partner is jacking to it... in all cases it's one's partner (or oneself) looking at naked people for the purpose of sexual arousal/masturbation.


[Edited on Nov 15, 2004 by RumpusParable]

Yes, I watch and enjoy porn. I spent a long portion of my life alone, so it came in handy on many occasions.

I would not get too deeply involved with a woman who couldn't jive with the porn thing. It's a part of my life in some way and I would be lying to her and myself if I pretended like it wasn't.

Porn is alright. It does what it's there to do. It's not like I have it to appreciate as high art or anything.
If my girlfriend wanted me to get rid of my porn I'd be confused and probably want to know why. Then I'd work it out from there.
I have zero issues with my girlfriend looking at porn.

Do you watch/enjoy porn?

yes!

How do you feel about your boyfriend/husband looking at porn?

totally fine. i like it more than he does. so most of the time we watch it together. but i know we both masturbate to it by ourselves sometimes. and i'm totally cool with that.

How would you feel if he was hiding it from you and lying about it?

weird. i would just ask him why he felt the need to hide it since it is something i enjoy. i wouldn't want him to feel like he had to hide something he liked.

Do you feel that it's a form of cheating?

Not one bit.

what's porn?

Is this anything like a stripper's pole?

Well to be blunt yes I love porn and the next chick I date is gonna have to be open minded and as long as the other person has an open mind they ain't gonna give a shit, "Right?" so there would be no reason to lie, get rid of, or stop watching porn if the other some one doesn't really give shit right.......

The problem with this poll is that you're asking people on a site devoted to naked pictures of women. It's not the best for statistics. And since it's come up, I have to agree that I really don't see the difference between porn and SG. I mean, yeah, SG is R-rated and all, but the purpose of them is still erotic, and erotic pictures elicit a sexual response. That's why we're here. So, while I wouldn't really call SG pornographic, I can't see making a distinction if I had a problem with pornography. I mean, really, if your partner is fantasizing about naked women, who cares if they're fucking someone at the time or not? This would be the reason that I can't imagine you're going to get very different responses in this thread.

For the record, though, yes I enjoy porn, no I wouldn't have a problem with a girlfriend who watched it, and I can't imagine how it would be a form of cheating. It's not like your libido leaves you just because you're tied to one person, and they are all you will ever want sexually.

In a semi-serious semi-devils advocate sense, we are told that we should not concentrate on the body, because the mind and the personality is truly important.

So, why don't women get upset if I watch a woman talking about politics on TV or when I have an intelligent discussion with a woman?

If I'm awake, I'm horny and good to go. My girl is not always around and porn is a good way to release a little tension. It does not mean I am not hot for her or degrading to her in any way. Porn is simply a turn on with variety. I respect her and don't watch it when she is around or ask her to watch it because I know she does not like to. I have never had a girl that liked porn, but I think that would be a turn on also.

I watch it because I'm single, but when I'm with someone it sits and collects dust. I'm more the type to try to please the girlfriend so I'd probably ditch it in some dramatic fashion if she asked me to. I can always go get more when she's out of the picture.

Yes.

I know a guy and he tells me he doesn't watch porn. I believe him. He's not a freak, I guess he just doesn't like it.

When I'm with a woman I've normally not needed the pron, so it gets stored in a pgp encrypted archive. But to answer your question: I'd try to explain it to her. If she didn't get it then she's probably not the right person for me. I wouldn't leave her for it, but I wouldn't change my behaviour.

Well, dirty talk has been described (by Clara) as

I love porn
and any girl who hates porn so much that she'd think watching it is a form of cheating, isn't my type anyway

i watch porn, mostly only when i'm really bored though and just the 30 second clips off kazaa, any longer and it starts to get really dull.