help im overeacting (i hope)

Dish...I love you and you're my girl...my sister, but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think this one over...anyone who cheats on you is no good and you deserve so much better. You are beautiful and smart and funny as hell and anyone who would treat you like that doesn't deserve you. It may be hard to let go because you're attached but it would be the best thing as I see it, but you are your own woman and this is up to you and you only.

It was pretty much the nice version of this. Look, your boyfriend's an asshole. I don't feel the slightest bit guilty for calling him an idiot. I'm sorry I sorta called you an idiot, but my point was more that you're doing something dumb. I've done countless amounts of stupid shit in my life, so I can relate to that. But staying with a guy who has such double standards AND has cheated on you AND has repeatedly broken up with you for other women...it's not a smart thing to do. Just leave. The reason you were suspicious is that you have fucking good reason to be suspicious. If you can't trust a guy to drink with friends without cheating on you, the relationship is over. You're done. Move along.

ive stated my feelings to you, i need not to say more.

Okay, the guy seems like a douche and you seem like a glutton for punishment. This sounds like a horrid relationship. You say he has broken up with you then come back multiple times. Why in the hell did you take his sorry ass back? In the beginning I did not even think him going out was a big deal. Guys going out without their girlfriends is normal. I was going to say that if you have big enough issuses with that in itself to post on here about it that instincts say it is bad.However, you have explained more than enough to validate that point. In any case, you are both fooling yourself if you think this will ever evolve into anything more than a severly dysfunctional relationship. Even if you have been together for years I still think it is a waste of time. You need to be secure enough alone before you try to trust someone else. I had a guy cheat one me once and I took him back. In the beginning people felt bad for me, they were on my side. He cheated on me again, I took him back again, and people no longer cared. Taking someone back after they cheat on you means you made a bad decision. How many times have you let him get away with it? Why would he think it'd be trouble this time? Not saying he did cheat on you, clearly he sucks either way, but if it makes you this upset it sounds like he is not worth it. Talk is just that, talk. Actions are what counts.

leave a voicemail message of you sharpening a carving knife into the phone, that you make sure he doesn't mess about...

Well said.

i thought mylar balloons were romantic?

Normally I say that if he leaves you once for someone else, then it's over but this if 5 times. I had a friend that went on like this for years with his g/f breaking up and cheating on him and then getting back together. In the end, it didn't work. I don't understand why your still with him, maybe you think you love him or maybe you think he is the best you can get or maybe you can't be alone long enough to find someone else. I sort of cheated on one g/f that I had but I never liked her. Then I hooked up with the woman that is now my wife and I've never considered cheating. I know he's not me but from my experiences if he even really likes you he wouldn't cheat on you. You are probably just a temporary fix inbetween girls.

He invited you to the party so you wouldn't get mad at him not inviting you but he never wanted you there. These are just my thoughts. Who knows I could be wrong or just stupid, I'm normally not.

Edited to say, I guess I should have read more of the thread. Some people feel the need for drama in their life, I guess you are one of them.

Edited again to say, I always think thes damn young people. The I realize I'm only 21 but I feel so much older then all these young people.

[Edited on Nov 04, 2004 by HairyGod]

[Edited on Nov 04, 2004 by HairyGod]

you are a girl...he is a boy.

i think the solution lies in a bottle of good aged scotch.