Fake pictures

I brought this up in PSW but im going to ask the majority on the site.. Have you ever or do you know of a person who used a picture of someone else and claimed it to be them? Recently my friend found out one of the people we have been talking too over the net gave her a fake picture of herself claiming it was her. She obviously found out now that this picture wasnt the girl But the girl infact was about 75 pounds heavier then the actual photo she was showing everyone. The photo was pretty close to what she actually looked like just alittle skinnier. Now here is my question.. Do you overlook the fact the whole friendship has been based on a lie and how deceitful is that? I mean comeon.. I am a fat girl and never once have I been so desperate for friends that I faked a picture of myself. My friend and I are really angry that we have been deceived. How do we know all the stuff she has told us isnt a lie now too? How do you base a friendship off a lie and not even give us a chance to get to know the real her and basically think we are going to hate her if she is a fat girl.I wish just for once people would think before they do things and actually give other people a chance to be friends with them without making assumptions that we wont talk to them because they are fat.. I mean cmon! Blah What advice can you give?

I don't particularly care if people are using real pictures or not. I guess it's a bit annoying for the people who have their image stolen; this has happened to some of the SGs before.

I tend not to believe most stuff that people say online, unless I can back it up with two reputable sources. Even then it can be open to doubt.

Maybe she hates herself, and that's why she thinks you'll hate her too? Maybe she's had years of people bullying her because she's fat, maybe she's got very low self esteem, maybe she's just a bit silly or not very world-wise?

If you like her, apart from the lie, I suggest that you tell her you're disappointed that she lied to you, that there's no reason for her to lie to you, and that you don't care if she is fat because you like her for her not because she's not fat.

Then again, I'm rubbish with people so this is probably bad advice.

I think its sad.

I think its being ashamed of who you are and what you look like. And you should be that way.

Then of course there are those people who are still stuck in the 90's ....

*please* don't be Bob from Witchita aged 48.

Maybe she's just crazy.

That happened to me once. Some poor overweight guy in the Deep South thought that I was his fiance!

I felt so sorry for him, I ended up marrying him!

grrrrrrr


[Edited on Oct 04, 2004 by LiLMiSsMorBiD]

No completely different picture of another girl but it was close in looks as far as hair face etc.. but it wasnt her just a similar version

We were all planning a big get together and she goes wait.. I have something to tell you before I come you might not want me to come see you now.... and thats when she sent my friend her real picture. I guess I dont agree with the part where you said she has the right to lie about it on the internet. Just because there is a computer that seperates us doesnt give anyone the right to treat us or the way we met less of a friendship. I dunno I am not perfect by any means but do I just let it go? And the sad thing is we wouldnt have given a rats ass how she looked. now its totally just messed the situation up.

So any advice people? What would shaggy do?

it's a shame that she's not comfortable with the way she looks. maybe she's very insecure. i'd still be nice to her, but it is a little sad.

Well, if you think she's a good person, and someone you'd like to be friends with you should let her into your world. She probably feels like a stupid ass for doing what she did, but she probably had no idea you all would become 'real' friends. She sounds lonely and insecure to me...so forgive her.

Then, when you become good friends you can give her endless amounts of shit for her lie.

once i convinced some asshat online that a picture of brody from the distillers was actually, that i was in a punk band and that i was leaving on tour in a couple of days. then i blocked him. i go to such great lengths to be rid of people who irritate me.

but in your case, she's probably just insecure. i would forgive and forget and not make a huge deal out of it. if you like her as a person in general, it shouldn't matter what she looks like anyway.

The issue here isn't about whether or not you care if she is fat. I understand that. The issue is that she wasn't honest. She may have had reasons to lie, but she did lie. The questions for me would be, 1) what ELSE might she have lied about? 2) why did she think that she couldn't trust me enough to be completely honest? 3) and why did she wait this long to come clean?

I think the answers seem pretty self explanitory:
1) Probably nothing. She is just probably pretty insecure about herself.
2) She has probably been hurt before.
3) She was probably embarrased for having lied in the first place.

So, I guess my advice is, whack her upside the head for lying, but give her a big hug and tell her that you would be her friend no matter what. She probably needs to hear that a few more times in her life.

(Don't litterally whack her, you know what I mean.)

This is especially annoying on dating sites where people lie about age, and post wrong pictures. Four words: DO NOT FUCKING LIE!

woodstock1027's answer is probably more appropriate in this case, but online dishonesty is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.

I would probably have a hard time with it and I would say so... like hey what else did you lie about.... I don't lie about who I am just because of the internet, the picture up in my profile is me... so I kinda expect people to not lie to me... so yeah I would have to start all over with that person... and then I still might think they are lying..

The only pictures I have of myself are ones that make me look unusually nice, and I'm kinda torn because I don't want people to think I look better than I do, but at the same time I don't want to make an effort to replace pictures I have with ugly-ass pictures.

Why lie on how you look?
Just be yourself and if people accept you then thats cool.
Id tell her. Its just sad if youre going that extra length to make one interested.

I have to admit something..........







I'm not really a Black Mage.

people have used my pictures before and it really freaks me out, quite a lot.

You really have nothing more important to worry about?

Reeeeally....

could you introduce me to the person that really is? Please?