I need some advice

I thought this would be a good place to get a little help with a bit of a sticky situation I'm in.

I'm kinda seeing two girls. I know...wow...what a terrible problem to have, right? But yeah, I really like both of them and I've liked them for about the same time. I'm seeing one later this week and spending the weekend with her and some friends on a trip to tampa and atlanta. The other one I'm seeing the weekend after that on a trip with some friends to D.C. I'm really not sure what to do. I don't like making out with one girl one weekend, and then making out with another girl the next weekend...it seems really shady to me, and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I think I might like one of them more than the other, but it's the one I'm seeing on the 2nd trip...and I don't think I'll be able to stop myself from making out with the girl on the 1st trip. I don't know if either girl has relationship potential, but if one does, I'll feel really guilty for shopping around while seeing her. What should I do?

Duck...

duck duck goose? whoever catches me before I enter the circle wins? Sounds like fun...don't like the science behind it though.

How long have you been seeing both of them?

not very long...about a month, but I've only seen them a couple times each, and it's been at parties with groups of friends, so I haven't actually gone on a date with either of them. I talk on AIM or on the phone with both almost every day. All 3 of us have mutual friends that are going on the trips too, so whatever I do with both on the trips they'll both find out about...so keeping it secret and dating both of them is not an option (I wouldn't choose it anyway, it's too hard on the conscience),

As long as they both know about each other and are okay with it, enjoy yourself!

As long as they both know about each other and are okay with it, enjoy yourself!

As long as they both know about each other and are okay with it, enjoy yourself!

my advice to you is to start drinking heavily.

but seriously, i would just play the field for a while. you might feel scummy now, but theres few times in your life when you can actually pull shit like this off. i'm not saying you should sleep with both of em and kick em to the curb, but just see how things work out. if you choose one now, you'll probably look back at this one day and always wonder what happened if you chose the other girl.

when you call it "seeing each other" that implies that it is okay to have dates with other girls. I don't really see what the problem is.

Now theres a solution

There was once a time... it was called "not going steady" when man was allowed to see multiple woman and choose which was the best suited for him. Your doing nothing wrong. Just before you get serious... DECIDE on the one you want, and remain faithfull.

that will not be a problem...but it will have to wait until tomorrow at the earliest.

thanks for the advice everyone. If you have more, keep it coming. I appreciate it.

I just don't want to hurt either one of them...they are great girls, they don't deserve to be hurt...especially by some schmuck like me.

[Edited on Jul 27, 2004 by natedoggsd]

Suggest a 3-some. Serisouly.

or become a Muslim.

Read that cold sore thread from the other day.

Herpes and cold sores

totally. if one (or both) turns you down, think about if that is really the kind of chick u wanna be with.

i mean seriously, who turns down a threesome?

Okay, having the two girls, that's not such a bad thing, after all, I think most relataionships begin with one party or the other having two people and making a choice between them, but a choice does have to be made. From what you've said, it sounds like you prefer the girl you'd be seeing the 2nd trip, if so, you ought to go with that feeling. Dont fool around with the 1st trip girl, as she doesn't deserve to be used if you're going to get with the 2nd girl, and the 2nd girl doesn't deserves to be cheated on. Either way round, all I can say is make a choice before anything more happens.

i don't think seeing more than one person is a problem, but i do think they should both be aware that you're not ready to be serious yet. the best way to keep them from being hurt is to keep them informed.

I am ready to be serious with 1 of them...I'm just not sure which one yet. To me, from all the advice I've seen, the best option seems to be to not do anything with the girl on the first trip. I don't like that idea for a lot of reasons...she's going to feel rejected, there's no guarentee that the girl on the 2nd trip wants to be serious...and of course there's the issue of self-control when I'm going to be with a girl I'm attracted to for 4 days straight, who wants to make out with me, and controlling myself like that would be hell. I dunno what I'm gonna do...I'll probably just gonna go into with the mindset "I'm gonna have fun, and whatever happens happens", and see where the world leads me after that. Thanks everyone.