Females only survey.

Hello. My question. For females only. (Males may observe and learn) Lack of confidence in men. Does it disgust you? It's just that, I am not terribly confident and when some women see an indication of this they have this look like they want to flick on K-Billies super sounds of the 70's, cut off my ear and set me on fire. Is it really that disgusting? Better than faux confidence right? RIGHT?!! Oh jesus no!

Lack of confidence is not "disgusting," per se, but I find it to be unattractive and a turn-off.

Faux-confidence is still a lack of confidence.. and usually pretty easily seen through. Still unattractive and a turn-off.

[Edited on Jul 09, 2004 by Shalome]

Depends on what the lack of confidence is in. Aproaching women or just everything in general. Everything in general would be aweful. I wouldn't want to deal with that kind of baggage.

It can be a turn off... it's nice to feel like a guy wants you... needs you even, but it's not good to feel like they will wither away and die without you.

Addendum: being overly confident in yourself to the point of arrogance is also unattractive and a turn-off.

It's okay to doubt your abilities sometimes -- it's human. However, if "lack of self-confidence" is a core personality trait, it's not cool.

mmph, i have a lot of first-time r'ships, so i'm definitely used to dealing with shyer people. it's fine! as long as it's not about everything in general, and as long as you don't require my constant bolstering and supprt.

No, I'm not talking about pathological shyness. Just the awkward initial meeting thingy. After that I'm normal...then I get wierd...then I'm normal again (kidding).

I like confidence, only because I don't like feeling like I'm the one in charge. But I'm also pretty weird, so don't take what I say and apply it to all girls.

a weekly enema should totally help

it depends, sometimes too much confidence can be a bit cocky, a guy with a bit of shyness can be really sexy and mysterious. Vulnerable and sensitive guys are very attactive in my opinion.

Are you a guy? I cant believe you defied me and broke my ladies only rule!

You must be too new to realize that NOOB's can't make rules...

It doesn't matter.....girls only like assholes anyway.

I can make them, but I can't enforce them....yet. I just can't believe that in 2004 you can't start a supersensitive "girls don't like me caus I'm too nice and they seem to want dangerous assholes" style SNAG thread without someone suggesting you need an enema.

I'd say he's showing plenty of confidence. Setting rules, disgust at being defied... shame this is the internet, and not real life

I am impressed by self confidence - turned off by arrogance - attracted to an understanding of one's own comfort level with who they are - turned off by self absorbtion...it's a mighty fine line that is easy to cross...but on the other side of it I find ultra-neediness truly an unattractive trait...I like to feel as though I can lean on my man when necesarry...feel protected and safe...and I am more than happy to have him lean on me...but I don't wanna be holding that shit up 24/7...ya dig?

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as (parklife)

Why must I always be the first one to post this?

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml

And before you take offense, read everything there.



[Edited on Jul 09, 2004 by Keith]

That's a really well written article. It made me stop and think.

Lucky I'm asshole!

haha, me too. i am a reformed 'nice guy' myself

man....some perfectly good sarcasm...gone to waste.

Yeh but with me it's the detail. I'm quite clear about objectifying them (women) and wanting to use them purely for my own pleasure and then if they are not 'perfect', discarding them heartlessly. I got all that shit down perfectly. I take a wooden spoon with me wherever I go, and if i like a girl, she gets a big slap on the ass. Whack! Then theres no confusion.Everyone knows where they stand. It's just that sometimes I get nervous and buy the wrong number of beers and stuff like that. Once I was with two girls and I bought 19 beers. It took 8 trips to bring them all back to the table, and at the end of the sixth trip they were both gone.