An important decision

There are very good reasons for my gift choice. Usually I know exactly what you mean.

I like the idea of adopt a tiger better than naming a star. Where does the star money go? At least the adopt a tiger some of the money goes to a good cause.

Personally some of my fave things have been mix cds.... that takes time, shows you took time to think about her and only her and, depending on the songs, some subtle innuendos can be there

[Edited on Jun 22, 2004 by serendipitous]

I'm gonna go with Clara on this one. I have fairly awful memories of trying to act suprised/pleased/happy when presented with the typical dozen roses or teddy bear.

But if you know for a fact that she likes these, or you can explain to her why they're important for you to give to her, then good luck.

Anything but stuffed animals!!!!

jcup sez don't buy flowers. he's wrong. sure, get her the standard birthday present (cd, dvd, gift certificate, clothes) that sez "hey, we're friends, right? This kind'a thing's what friends are for." Flowers (esp. red roses) and a thoughtfully chosen card will send the extra message

Okay just to clarify. The reason for the stuffed animal is this...

1) When I met this girl it was the most amazing thing that ever happened to me ever. And I mean that.
2) I thought it was just a bad clam or something until we started spending more time together and I realised this whole 'love at first sight' deal seemed to be real.
3) I was further convinced by the fact that eveyone who's ever seen us together has started chivvying me for invites to the wedding.
4) We go to a work do and meet up, spend the whole evening together, slip off afterwards for a quiet drink together. She tells me this huge story about how she was engaged to some guy but he dumped her by text message etc. (At this point it is important to note that she has spent most of the evening ina debate about the pros and cons of having a boyfriend and how it's quite nice being single at the moment actually)
5) Next day I ask for a more formal date.
6) She blows me out giving the reason that she's seeing someone and it wouldn't be right (I am so gutted it takes me a whole 24 hours to work out this was a lie).
7) Back off for three months we pass in the corridor and say 'hi' a few times.
8) She starts spontaneously talking to me again. Conversation ensues. She has probably forgotten she ever told me when her birthday was by now.
9) I know its her birthday but we are, technically, nothing to one another and in theory she may still be seeing someone (from the story she has told me). She is probably not seeing anyone but still...
10) So I need a gift which says:

a) I really do like you beyond anything I have ever felt for a girl ever before but...
b) If you really are going to be an assclown then I am not going to put myself out too far and besides
c) I am not a stalker and if it comes down to it we could laugh this off because lets face it I only bought you a stuffed animal but
d) Would you like to go out on a date so that I could get to know you better and buy you the dozen or so presents I know you REALLY want.

So that's why the stuffed toy.

Hmmmm.... If I fully understand this situation I'd have to recommend going in a different direction.

If it's been awhile since you even really spoke at all until the other day, and she is a workplace meet, you know you're going to see her on her birthday.

You suggest that she has probably forgotten that she even told you when her birthday is; I'm thinking that showing up with a gift of a romantic nature will be at the worst, creepy and and the best make you appear like you've been pining away all these months (not good).

If I were you... simply telling her "Happy Birthday" will sufficiently surprise and flatter her that you remembered, without freaking her out.

If done right, later in the day.... she'll come find you.

Oh, and be hot.

[Edited on Jun 22, 2004 by mk700c]

i agree with mk...less is always more. the fact that you remembered and did not give her a gift will make you seem thoughtful, not trite and creepy. hopefully it opens the dialogue back up between you two

Dude you make my head spin, you sound weird, but thats not relevant.

Honestly, I would suprise her, but in private. Perhaps take the day off from work when its her b-day, use the day meaning still get up early either plan a kick ass dinner/picnic, make her an awesome cupcake, grab a good bottle of wine, some plush blankets met her afterwork (I dunno may involve some thing stupid like leaving a cutesy clue with a ballon on her car or whatever) She meets you, you be yourself and let her know you feel special that you could share this day with her. You're not Star Prince (if i got the name of the cartoon right), stuff animals only work when after sex you look at them ON HER BED, grin and think 'score' in your head and tigers omg is this a fucking safari or what? Again its not a date its just fun and goodtimes on her birthday, right?

He he. That's cool. A couple of people think I should turn it down and one other thinks I should turn into John Cusack in Say Anything...

I think what the turn it down people have to take into account is that there is definitely something there between us. But this is like my last ditch attempt to just be allowed to spend some time with her. She's defined a context where we don't have much of an opportunity to talk ever (and I think that might have been a miscalculation on her part because when she started work the social events group went nuts and engineered a chance for us to flirt every three weeks, then nothing for three months so I think the fact we're not talking is kind of an accident) but I need to try this to say I tried.

And as for the Say Anything... suggestion. I'm trying to woo her not mortify her so badly she'll leave work and never come back. It's not that kind of company culture. That kind of event is something that someone would never live down if anyone saw. People have started rumours I got one of my friends pregnant because they saw us talking together (I know my workplace sucks. I have plans to leave.).

So thanks all but the swinging pendulum of opinion tends to lead me to believe I've done the appropriate thing.

Tie a ribbon around your dick...

Your welcome,

Your pal Mac

Get her a stilleto, if doesn't already carry some kind of weapon on her. She might find it useful some day.

About a month after I fell in love with my future husband, I was going away ona vacation with a friend, so I bought him a stuffed monkey to cuddle with while I was gone. That monkey still sleeps in the bed with us, and he is very protective of it. I could have bought him a turnip to cuddle with, and it wouldn't have mattered, the point is I thought of him and got him something for just being him.

On that note: The best gift of all time (for people you're having a hard time buying for) is a picture frame; a really nice, fancy-schmancy picture frame, preferably with a picture of you two in it. Everyone has pictures laying around, and expensive frames aren't something we all slpurge on.