What the fuck is wrong with under age goth girls??

I recently ran into this add on a personals sight. the girl is 16 years old:


My name is .............living in such dull & hellish a place as ........,it makes for finding any1 2 talk 2 a futile task unless u care 4 ringing numberouse people's necks after they carry on about social clicks 4 a grand # of hours.Wich,just,isnt on my list of things to do.I have 2 close friends & a loving Master.My lack of friends might be b/c of my lack of social enthusiasm,habbit of being home on teh PC 24.7 or just there r far 2 many narrow minded twits around me(we are voting for the latter of my chioces!).Generaly,i tend 2 hardly ever leave my house,let alone my bedroom.I spend most my time drawing,reading,ranting,taking photos/net.modeling,&most all-Im a devoted lover of parabnormal,& occult.Im not exactly the social butterfly,i can be quite mean at times but if i adopt you as a friend i can be a leech.I supose as i ramble on the piont of it all, is i guess im jsut looking out for anyone who cares to drop an Im get to know each other.


Now, something about that just made me fell very sad. It is like I almost feel that this girl is on the verge of developing some serious issues. I can almost hear the predatory men slithering on the ground to get at her. I have met many girls like that. And even though I know there is absoultely nothing I can do, I still fell sad. These girls are still children, yet they try to play at being adults. Yes, 16 is a child, that is 10th grade.

I was like her when I was 16, only I didnt have the internet to turn to. i was lonely all the time, alot of people are. I didnt post to single pages either. or turn to single pages.

I turned out ok.

but yeah that made me a little sad to read.


[Edited on Jun 01, 2004 by sakita]

on the verge of?


no my friend full on into a whole set of "issues".


or could be just joking.

All she needs is a beer...

It’s sad and a sign of shitty parenting.

She needs to go to school more than she seems to.

true. or no parenting. she did make reference to a "master".

a very valid point

yar, she be needin' some anglish learnin' arrrrrrrr



-pb

Yeah, it's quite a common phase of adolesence. Recognising the changes that mean they're no longer the stable kids they were, kids often retreat into introvertion and seclusion until they grasp quite who they're becoming. They often feel "abnormal" or "unique" at this point and often taking up "alternative" lifestyles to indentify/label these feelings.

I turned to the internet, porn, considered myself bisexual for a while, amongst other things, but I didn't turn to anything like the occult, etc, and some friends of mine helped me find self-esteem, balance and identity enough to even out.

In hindsight I was lucky- there are so many things that people can turn to in this well-known point of puberty that can really mess them up. Obviously experimentation (learning from one's mistakes) is part of growing up, but I think some things kids experiment with can be hard to get out of.

This girl seems quite normal in most respects, as long as someone exerts the positive influence on her to find identity and self-esteem and perhaps before the parabnormal and occult influences become deeply ingrained enough in her that her low self-esteem becomes a permanent trait.

[Edited on Jun 01, 2004 by iago4282]

i find it disturbing when 16 year olds are allowed to join personals sites. i mean, alot of kids think they're savvy enough to be able to weed out the creeps from the responses they get from something like that, but alot of them don't realize what they portray themselves as.

I totally agree with iago4282. It's also important to note that we have no way of knowing how truthful that profile is. I remember a time when I wanted people to think I was like that. You want to seem really unhappy and unflinching in your hatred of everything popular or conventional. Hell, I know some people in their twenties who still act like that.

These days, many kids who aren't popular seem to gravitate towards "goth", so they automatically think they should be hostile and into the occult. I've never seen someone under 18 that I would call goth. Call them Mansonites or neogoths, but whatever they are, it's as much of a trend at that age as their hated Abercrombie. It's like people who have one strong political opinion like gun control, find the side that supports that, then feel they should subscribe to the rest of the party's beliefs as well. A kid might decide "Well, I'm not popular, so I'm gonna be a goth. Now what should I do to become a goth?" And once they think they have it down, they go to any lengths to show the world what they now are. Left to their own devices, they probably wouldn't care about occult stuff. But because of that, it'll never become a serious issue and I think they'll grow out of it.

Like I said, I was once like that. So I'm not getting down on them, it's just something they do at that age. I grew out of it, and now I define myself by what actually interests me, rather than what I think will make me the most abnormal.

I was in an ultra religious family and with the exception of the fact that she has the internet and a makes reference to a master and is into "cult" stuff to be honest that could have been me at 16. It is sad to read and yes she does have a few issues; but to be honest it sounds merely like she is unpopular and has turned to this as a way to give herself some attention and I do think she will grow out of it. It's odd how you can turn a few things around in that and find aprofile of yourself at that age.

Yea. That girl is a good representation of how i felt my sophomore year. I didn't have the goth look, but the attitude was there. I couldn't identify with anyone at the new school that i was placed into and then decided that they were all stupid cliquey bastards. In hindsight of that stuff and high school, it was good that i could see some of the bullshit that goes on in high school early on, but on the negative i missed out on a lot because of my negative attitude towards everyone, including myself.

I do agree that the girl probably had some family issues to deal with, because a lot of times when people can't deal with talking to their family then it can carry over into their social life.

Other than that though, she sounds fairly normal, and like others have said she's probably trying to identify herself as a "goth" with the occult and hating everyone, rather than her actual life.

wow. which is sadder, Her existance as she described it or your comments that she should be attending the school, as if that were going to somehow magically fix everything?

do not get me wrong. Being educated is an amazing outlet, which gives way to many many opportunities unavialable to those who aren't. (I'm not talking if you've put your time in and got a diploma. I'm talking educated. major difference that doesn't always coincide.) But it has been proven ttime and again, that the united states' school systems produce uneducated,and underdeveloped psudo adults. and the rest of that rant is left for a different thread.

otherwize, I echo dingoes8, One_Pure_Thought, and iago4282. but most strongly sakita. We all have our own paths to walk, and being lonely when you're in your teen years is a big part of it for a good many of us.

What? This sounds like total high school girl bullshit. There's nothing wrong with her. You kids....

just send her to the 4-h club..sheesh.

It sounds like the problem is that she's 16!!!

All kidding aside, growing up is hard, folks. Might do some of you some good to remember that, assuming you've grown up already.

Ok question...why are you checking out 16 yo girls personal ads?

haha...caught red handed!

Damn I thought we'd get a response to this....

Hey!! she was a featured add, it went on the screen right when you sign in. Plus, she has this gorgeous picture to go along with it. The girl is beautiful. I attempted to post the picture also, but I cant figure out how....

and no, I do not normally look at 16 year old girls, at least one i know are 16.

here ya go..........probably a gothbot