Tattoo Taboo

I can understand some of her dad's thoughts rubbing off on her (a lot of my dad's values have etched their way onto me).

She just needs to remember that the relationship that you both have built for two years, isn't about her dad. Sure, getting approval from the dad would be nice... but have you even considered that her dad doesn't approve of you right now. He only thinks he does, because you haven't shown him who you really are (you want to become a tattooed person!).

Also, I am shocked that you both have dated for two years and she doesn't realize how important this tattoo is to you. Does she think so little of your happiness, that only her dad's approval of you matters?

i think a "booya" is warrented here

First of all, I love your wings, too, and so does my girlfriend. In fact, she really wants a pair just like yours, but, again, she's got that deeply rooted fear of her father.

Second, I want to get the words "nothing to hide" in 40pt Helvetica bold on the inside of my right forearm. I'm a really minimalist guy, I love text, and I want to be more bold, and open with myself. I feel like this would serve as a constant reminder for me not to be so afraid of what people think of me, not to stretch the truth as I am wont to do, and having it right there where anyone shaking my hand can see feels very empowering to me. I had a temp done by an airbrush tattoo studio, and I loved it.

And any time I'll have a job interview or meeting that really matters where I'm bound to run into staunch conservative-types, I'll be wearing a long-sleeve dress shirt anyway... if I feel comfortable enough with whoever I'm meeting with, then I can casually roll up my sleeves and gauge their reaction... if they're cool about it, I know they're probably people I'll be comfortable working with. If they freak, fuck them anyway.

It's multi-purpose, really.

but that is exactly what she is willing to do - toss out the last two years over a tattoo. try to express to her why you want the tattoo, and what it means to you. I don't mean to burst your bubble...but if she wants to change you already, things don't look good for the next 50 years or so with y'all. and if you don't see a long term future with her, then why do you care if she bolts over the ink?

My thoughts would be that this kind of problem you are facing is symptomatic of a bigger issue; your sweetheart has a father that is controling her life. Right now, it might be a tattoo... in 5 years, it's your career he won't approve of, or the house/neighborhood you both want to move into, or the type of daycare you choose for your child. It sounds to me like this girl might fear her father more than she loves you. That could pose a problem down the line...

Yeah, but see, unlike her, if this does turn into something more serious, I've got the balls to stand up to her Dad. At this point, he still controls her mode of transportation when she's home from school, and thus my ability to see her... Dammit. Fucking parents. Right now I have to play the game. But if the times comes that he starts criticizing shit that's important to me, then things will get serious.

What I have yet to determine is if she will still stand behind me when I'm fighting her father. Thanks to everyone's advice, I now see that I have to find out where her allegiance REALLY lies on this kind of issue... with me or with her father. It's kind of a dilemma for her... I can't criticize her if she's faithful to her family, which I must admit is honorable, but at the same time, I want her to back me when something's important to me.

It'd probably be helpful to know that she's 20 years old and in her first year at college. She hasn't quite gone independent of her Dad yet. Especially considering that he's putting her through school and pays her bills.

I sure as hell did not picture the guy driving but I did see him rolling out of the not-quite-so-stopped-passenger door, getting road rash all over his stupid dumb ass then getting pick-up by some hairy assed truck driver looking for some butt love!


[Edited on Apr 22, 2004 by ninadelamorte]

kind of what i was envisioning.

I vote you cut the bitch.

I dont really care about any of this tattoo nonsense, I just think you should cut her.

Life is too short to have to censor yourself to please other people... just get the tattoo...

You're both grown, right???

Listen to your girlfriend, she's right about this one. You're 20 years old and you'll probably tattoo something stupid on your body that you will regret in 10 years. Then, after you take her sound advice, dump her because any girl who gives ultimatums like that isn't worth staying with.

I was having this very conversation with a friend not two hours ago, that she wants a tattoo and her bf doesn't want her to, so I say to you what I said to her...
"Fuck them. It's your body, and if you want a tattoo, get one, it's your choice to make, not their's."
If she'd break up with you over something like a tattoo, then what else might cause a breakup? If her dad's the much an ultraconservative, then you can kiss goodbye to any input about your wedding...
Seriously.
Get the tattoo.
If she dumps you, then she wasn't worth the worry.

Your best bet is to let her slowly control you and crush your soul until you are a hollow shell of a man. Then, in two years when she goes to Europe for the first time and has sex with someone else, you can decide to never love again.

Seeing as the thread is almost four years old, and the op is anon and most likely gray, I think any advice at this point would be moot. Unless the OP has freaky time travel abilities.

Nice one, excavator! If you hurry, I think you may still be able to add your sage advice to some confused teens asking whether they should vote for Kerry or Bush.

Quick, man! Change the future!

bwahahahahahahahaha

This lacks ambition.