Tattoo Taboo

All wordplay aside, I'd really like to get a tattoo, but my girlfriend has an ultraconservative father. He hated me at first because my hair goes past my ears, then flipped out when I got my ear pierced. Apparently getting a tattoo is more or less on par with raping and killing his daughter in terms of unacceptable behavior.

Now, normally, I wouldn't give a flying shit what he thinks (hell, I'm having sex with his daughter, which would probably give him a heart attack to know) but my girlfriend doesn't want me to get one. Her reasoning: "As often as I ignore them, my dad's values are, to some extent, my own, and on something like this, I can't just look past it. And if you get a tattoo, he won't let me marry you."

First of all... MARRY ME?

Second, what do I do here? I love her to death, and I want to be what she wants me to be for her, but I really fucking want this tattoo. I mean, I see it as a tool for personal growth and experience-- something to get me out of this slump I've fallen into.

Advice?

Oh, I should mention that I want to get a tattoo of Jesus and Moses killing Arabs with automatic weapons on my back.

No, that's a lie.

If you want a tattoo that badly, and your sure you will love it forever, get it. It will last forever, whereas, the girlfriend probably wont.

get the tattoo..it will last forever chances are the love wont.
just playin the odds.

Yeah, that's what I thought, but she feels strongly enough about this that she'd probably break up with me if she found out, which she would since I want to get it on the inside of my forearm.

And that would break my heart. I mean, jesus... it took me this long to bait and bag her, and I'm 20 years old. this might be my last chance to get laid ever again!

Not to mention I don't really want to throw away the 2 years we've been together over a tattoo. I guess my question is more directed at creative ways to have my tattoo and eat her, too.

i guess both options are a commitment...if you get the tattoo and you get dumped is it a: 1) she didn't really love you situation; or 2) you didn't love her enough to prioritize situation...?

i'd pick the tattoo.

"bait and bag her"... "eat her"...

Is your girlfriend a deer?

Is there any way you two can compromise? You could wear long sleeves around her father, perhaps.

Then again... two years... you're twenty years old... you freaked when she mentioned marrying you someday... it sounds like the tattoo might be more permanent than the relationship, especially if you keep referring to her as meat.

Well then wait on the tattoo; my advice in general is to always wait on tattoos. If you want it so bad now you should want it just as badly in six months to a year. That said, I don't think this problem is going to go away if you don't get the tattoo. I think this is a symptom of a bigger problem; it's the tattoo now but it will be something else down the line.

i was gonna say something about this aswell, but then i don't understand the impulse to wed before you're in at least your 30's, so...

With the "eat her...." I think he meant, like have his cake and eat it too...but maybe not.

I hate to point out the obvious, but it would be your girlfriend who's throwing away 2 years. If a simple body modification is such a big deal, what happens when you run into bigger issues, like marriage, kids, and work?

Its a tattoo, an extension of you, and a part of you for that matter. If she doesn't get the tattoo then maybe she doesn't get you. At any rate, tattoos are more permanent than the majority of relationships, so get it, if its that big of a deal to her, you don't want her around anyway. By the way, I had a mormon girl dump me over my guaged ears, so I know where you're coming from.

where is the unconditional love with the relationship...tattoos are forever but love i don't think so. get one but it always starts with just one. good luck

I have to agree with the majority of people that replied - if she's prepared to dump you over a tattoo she's probably not worth it. I'd wait a while longer just to make sure you definitely want to get the tattoo, but what you do with your body is none of her damned fathers business!

what is the harm in waiting?

get her dad's name tattooed on your butt cheek & he'll come around

If you're wondering whether or not to get a tattoo, you could always consult with the guys from Red vs. Blue...

[edit: Let me find a better link.... will post it in a couple minutes.]

Here we go...

Should I Get a Tattoo?

Right click and save as. Some really funny stuff.

[Edited on Apr 19, 2004 by mohawk_138]