by SG's Team Agony feat. Elea

Let us answer life's questions - because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

[Elea in Soul Nighter]

Q: How do I get the body as amazing as a Suicide Girl? I've been single for a while now and I'd like a change in myself. I'd like to look as beautiful as you. Your bodies are amazing. I just want to feel new I guess. I'm sure if I get the body I'd like, I'd feel confident and it would sure lead to a new person in my life. I just don't know how to go about getting a new body. I'm not sure what to eat. Since I'm vegetarian it should be easy, but I'm not a healthy eating kinda girl! How do SGs maintain their bodies?

A: First, you should know that I am stuffing my face with pastry as I am writing this. Second, I bet very few girls on here really have the perfect body. I'm not even sure what it means. For me, the perfect body is mine, because I learned to live with it. My hips are too wide, my face is too long, and my calves are chubby. But the good thing is, this doesn't matter on here. Everybody on here is different.  It's not about changing your body. It's about changing how you feel about it. 

However it’s definitely good to want to do something good for yourself and be healthy. Being vegetarian is a good way to do this. I became vegetarian myself only three months ago after I saw a documentary on how animals are treated and fed over here in the US. It's all only about corn, which is bad for the animal and for you. Check out the Veggie and Vegan Group for recipe ideas or links to websites which support this lifestyle. (SG also has a Weight Loss group, if you need more diet tips and a little moral support.)

 Contrary to what you think, I know a lot of girls on here who don't go to the gym on a regular basis, including myself. I work in a very stressful environment that leaves me no time to sit down or rest. This is my workout. It’s all about finding a way of life that makes you feel good and works for you. “Makes you feel good” being very important. You obviously don’t feel that way so I want to help you change this.

What are routines in your daily life that you could change? I try to do some things that don't seem significant but that keep me from becoming a slob. I park far, far away from everybody else when I go somewhere. Not only because people suck at parking and constantly ding my car, but also because a little walking never hurt anyone. I don't buy snacks at the movie theater. If I eat when watching a movie, my body doesn't seem to register it as much. When I cook, I turn on the swing music or blues channel on TV and dance around the kitchen. Every now and again I try to call up friends who have dogs and meet up to take a walk and play with them. There are very few days where I don't move in some way, also because I found it helps with my depression. See if you can do similar things in your life that make you feel good and get you moving.

Last, but not least, your single status. I wish I could help you with this. My best advice is to try and think about it less and not stress about it. In a time where so many relationships start online, it’s still important to try and go out and meet more people in real life. See if there are any SG Events in your area, or by all means, try to set something up for your local group on your own. That’s a good way to meet some like-minded, cool people.
I hope this helped you.

Sincerely,

Elea

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Temper

SUICIDEGIRL

Germany

OCT 15, 2012 02:18 PM

I think that was solid advice. There is also the Health and Fitness Group you might want to check out.

I know my body type isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I get asked that question a lot, so I added it to the little FAQs list I usually have in my blog:

SPOILERS! (Click to view)

You're so skinny, how do you do that?

I don't really know... it's a mixture of genetics, metabolism, my amazing zest for action and habit of not eating crap.
Honestly though, my bicycle is my main form of transportation and I have two bullies to take to the park three times a day. I just like to move and exert myself. I get grouchy when I don't (especially since my job requires a lot of hunching over sewing machines).
I don't like candy or junk food. Once every six weeks or so, I get a craving for dark chocolate and eat like two pieces until I'm good. I like fresh food, vegetables, fruit and stuff that's cooked, not microwaved. I don't forcefully exclude anything from my diet, I just listen to my body and do what it tells me to do. Things like sugar, soda or microwave meals aren't even in the house in the first place, I'm just not interested.
I eat only out of hunger or healthy appetite, not as a substitute or out of frustration or boredom.
I actually eat a lot and constantly though, just no junk. I eat a number of smaller meals a day, in between. But it's a sandwich with salted margerine, cheese, fake salami, tomatos, olives, lettuce on dark bread here, an apple there, a salad here, pasta there, a banana here, another sandwich there, a peach, and a ton of these vegetarian meat substitutes all over the place because damn, they're good.
But I pay attention to my feeling of satiety and don't really gorge myself. But I always eat until I'm full.
Oh, and I don't cheat myself by eating healthy all day and then devouring two bags of chips at night.

But yeah, movement, exercise! I love it. But not everything. I guess it's good to try out some things to find what suits you. Personally, I loathe jogging but love mountain bike riding. I hate tennis but love swimming. And since I'm a really competitive person, I love to outdo myself.
If I did the 10km through town in traffic in 20 minutes the last time, I at least need to equal that, if not do 19. If I could swim 8 laps of crawl the last time, I want to do 10 the next.

I guess that's about it.