Did I do something stupid?

Ok, I'm shaking right now. Half out of....stupidity half out of excitement.

I've been looking for my old best friend for about 2 years now. With no luck.
I finally searched her mothers married name and found her work phone number. I gave it a call and left her a message asking if she could pass this on to Nicole. I said I would call her tomorrow and hopefully I could get some info on Nicole. Thing is NIcoles mom didn't like me very much...didn't hate me...just thought i was a bad influence (if she only knew). But this was when we were 11. 7 years have passed, she got over it....right?

Do you think she'll help me out?
I'm really nervous and excited about calling her tomorrow and finding out whatever info I can.

But I'm scared she might tell me "No, i won't help you" or be upset that I called her job. I did apologize in the message saying I hope that this isn't inappropriate.

Gah.

So nervous.

Ok, I kinda just wanted to vent.

My Magic 8-ball says the answer is cloudy, try again later. And it's never wrong.

Okay, okay, seriously, I don't think it's such a terrible thing calling her. Given what you said about her not liking you, I do tend to doubt that she'll pass the message on, tho. Let us know what happens.

seven years is a long time. you're an adult now and hopefully her mother can deal with you on an adult level. i wouldn't worry about it; you're a step closer to finding your friend!

I really don't think she'll be like "Nicole, Kayla called you YAY!"

I think if I talk to her civally tomorrow she may be able to give me a phone number or something at least.

I wouldn't worry about it. You'll be fine.

I would think that a normal person would pass the message along. I mean you were friends and it's cool that wanna hook back up again.

I need to do this by the way. A good friend of mine spent around two years in Brazil and I havn't seen him since. Not even sure if he came back around this way.

that's a good idea. there's freinds I'd like to get in touch with. It might be easier to hunt down their parents than them.

if it was an ex boyfriend, it would be a little creepy, hitting up the mom and all, but no....this is cool......All my friends moms hated me for the same reasons and they love me now!

just as long as your name isn't WOOGIE and your lying about her name and it is really MARY.....

hahah!! touche.

j/k no i don't see it being a problem..what ways have you tried to look for her

i looked all over the classmates.com type websites
local phone books
online "phone books"
tried contacting other old friends.

and thats about all i could think to do

have you tried whowherre.com...or even people.yahoo.com....they are pretty good

I've also been known to Google their name, unless it's something common like Tom Smith.

I don't think that was stupid. Look at it this way, the least she'll do is decline. In which case she's a royal bitch. I mean, you were both eleven, how bad an influence could an eleven year old be?

I do applaud your courage, though. I looked up a friend in the phone book some years after the fact, but I never ended up making the call.

there are people i would love to contact from my past, just dont have the balls to do it. but good luck on getting in contact with your friend

Nah, you did nothing stupid. It's always fun to re-connect.

I'm sending you a PM regarding finding your friend.

I dont think her mom will reject me. I don't think she'll be happy to hear from me though.

I wasn't a bad influence at all really.
Nicole wasn't always allowed to have friends over 9her step dad was realy strict, to the point of ridiculous) and sometimes after school i'd sneak over for a few hours and we'd hang out in her basement.
one or two times her step dad came home early and i had to run out the back door and try not to get caught. ithink i did once.

so really it was just all kiddie stuff. i wasnt smoking or drinking or anything like that.
so hopefully her mom will just forget about it and be happy that someone loves her daughter enough to try and keep in contact this many years later.

i'm sure it'll be fine, kayla. the worst she could do is tell you she's not interested in giving you the info.. but it's been 7 years; hopefully she'll remember this and oblige.

i've never tried contacting any old friends, but i have had random people from high school call me for reunions and whatnot. i.e., people that never talked to me or that i hated.

[Edited on Mar 25, 2004 by porcelainheart]

WOWOWOWOWOW

I called the mom again this morning. Her coworker said "hold on, ill call ehr cell" so she did and passed on my message and phone number.
I was still worried she wouldn't give the number to Nicole.

but half hour later nicole calls!!!

it was so crazy talking to her!!
she said she called my old phone number last week trying to get a hold of me.

She's going to school in long island. Hopefully when I go back to NJ for my birthday i'll be able to see her again.

Wow, talking to her just made me miss her more.

That's so cool! It's funny how stuff like that happens. I hadn't talked to a friend in eight years, and she and I called each other's parents for information within 48 hours of each other.

its never a bad thing to find old friends.

excellent news! i'm happy for you.

Good luck!!!

I'm still looking for my friend

if you think that's inappropriate, kayla, check this:

an employee of mine didn't show up for an important job. i got on the phone with my boss and he three-way called this guy's mom in sioux city, iowa (from the emergency contact list on the application)

he asked her if her son was dead (i shit you not) because only "dead people don't show up for work"

she freaked out crying, and this guy never worked for us again