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I'm gonna go ahead and say that even though that's how it should work, doing that has had me friend zoned more times than I can count.

I've always been turned down and have never been in a relationship so i dont know...

Honestly, not to put the advice down, but this doesn't work almost 60% of the time; not because we can't follow the advice, but because there are way more factors in dating than the simple "be yourself."

See for women it's as simple as that; they walk about, fingers in their hair and pretty much responsible for nothing more than themselves. Men have to be seen as someone who can continue that trend, as most women want to feel "free" and "wild."

If a date of her's can't seem to care for himself, or if they seem to have irresponsible tendencies, it won't matter if you can work out a decent relationship; the end result is becoming "friend-zoned" and stuck in a never ending loop of "Oh I don't want a BF now" or "I really like you, but not in that way."

BTW women: if you want to fall back on that cliche, don't expect a warm welcome.

Appropriated from Coyotemike's Gentleman's Guide to the Friend Zone


I can't agree with Rydell's advice. If you want a romantic relationship with a woman, and genuine, platonic friendship is not an acceptable outcome to you, then you should be clear about your romantic intentions from the start. If she's not interested, move on. Trying to work one's way into a romantic relationship from a friendship almost never works, is more than a bit manipulative, and usually ends in bad feelings all around.

For the original question-asker:
You just have to dig down, find some courage, put on an air of confidence, like you're King Shit of Fuck Mountain, and then ask her out. If she turns you down because of your being in a wheelchair, she's not worth your trouble anyway. If you don't think of your wheelchair as an issue, then most women won't. You have to believe that you're a worthwhile human being that she'd be lucky to be with, and if she doesn't want you, it's her loss. If you don't start pinning your hopes and dreams on her, then you won't be crushed if she says no.

I have to agree with the advice. I immediately get turned off if i can tell a guy isn't being genuine, as for the wheels part, I myself find it ridiculously hot, and view the person as any other guy. To me if the guy is willing to spend time with me he's worth my time and compassion. Yes sometimes it doesn't work the way you want it too. but you have to be prepared for the fact that maybe she is just not into you like that, it just means you haven't found a woman who is right for you. I used to get caught up in all the will he like me, but what about this or that. then I met the one who is right for me, I got drunk at a party and blabbed every last dark, horrible, and highly embarrassing thing to him while balling my eyes out and he just told me every time" meh that's nothing your beautiful and the sweetest girl I know" we have been together since that night. As for some of the comments on this advice column on't fault women because we don't reciprocate the feelings of the guy. We are allowed to feel how ever we want about a person. It always irritates me when a guy asks me out and I say I'm sorry but I don't feel that way, then he turns to his buddies and calls me a bitch and that he's such a nice guy I don't know why she doesn't dig me yadda yadda. If its meant to be it will fall in place, don't force things let love wash upon you like the tide coming in on a beach. eventually although it may take time it will touch you and grace you with its powerful presence.

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