by SG's Team Agony feat. Clio

Let us answer life's questions - because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.

[Clio in Born Into A Light]

Q: I have been going through a long divorce, it has taken most of my time away from my girlfriend and she is growing more and more irritated with me. I on the other hand, have been doing every thing I can to finalize all the paperwork and move on. But she thinks I’m trying to get back with my ex no matter what I tell her. As far as I know she is a pretty trusting person, and I haven’t given her any reason to not trust me. I just don’t know what to do. Should I push through it? I really love her, and don’t want to lose her because of my crazy ex wife.

A: All I can say is... get that shit over with as soon as possible. Talk to your girlfriend about her distrustfulness and step it up a notch to show her that she's the only object of your affection. Are you still in touch with your (almost) ex-wife? Limit the contact you have with her. Don't talk shit about her, just acknowledge that she once mattered but doesn't anymore. If you still own any of her crap, get rid of it now. When will the divorce be finalized? Celebrate with your girlfriend when you're officially a free man. You could even throw a divorce party if that's your thing. Bottom line: spend more time with your girlfriend, and less time on anything that has to do with your ex.

Good luck!

Clio
xoxo

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Kelpie_

HOPEFUL

Ellensburg, WA

JUL 23, 2012 10:23 PM

I have felt what she is feeling before, to be honest. What got me through it was when I realized:

"He hasn't given me a single reason to mistrust him."

The obsessive worries that he was having some kind of last 'goodbye' feelings for his ex disappeared when I realized that my worrying would not stop him from cheating if he was going to do it, it may make him unhappy with me and push him away.

Trust is so imperative. I hope she realizes that if you have shown her that you are trustworthy that she will stop worrying.

Best of luck

Jamila

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUL 24, 2012 03:34 AM

I second this advice. Distance from the person you no longer want to be with and reassurance to the person you do want to be with. Period. This is not an easy position for a woman to be put in. Every day that it's not over officially with your ex is a day she feels insecure about her place in your life.

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Clio

SUICIDEGIRL

Netherlands

JUL 23, 2012 07:02 AM

Kelpie_

HOPEFUL

Ellensburg, WA

JUL 23, 2012 10:23 PM

Jamila

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

JUL 24, 2012 03:34 AM