Why should i care

if your the type who does the right things and treat others the way you want to be treated and no one even notices after several years then why should you or me care anymore. is it ok to just pursue the money and say screw everything and everyone else or what. texas is nice and alot of eye candy here but the end of the day results are still the same comment or don't i'll be in gears 3 since the nice guys are never heard anyway.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml

Maybe you can meet a nice girl in a remedial English class at your nearby community college.

Seriously. Hooked on Phonics worked for me.

WUT?

^ Creepy.

Yes, whiny, manipulative "nice" guys are creepy.

That too.

My advice is to move somewhere else.

If you move somewhere else and all your relationships turn out the same way, then, well, since women are all individuals with different needs, motivations, and desires, then you have to realize that the only common denominator in your relationships is you.

Thank you for the music, METOO!!!

Indeed.

Bingo bazingo.

Sorry about your first world problem

Blast from the past! I loved that movie!

The title of this thread made me instantly think of that song.

I love this comment more than words can say.

I wasn't sure how many people would "get it"

HAA!! Nicely done

Your opening post really doesn't mesh all that well with the following:

"drama will not be needed here. i dont have it so i dont want it"

So... which is it?

My response comes with all of the best intentions for the OP (i.e. I'm not trying to be condescending)...

As a 22-year old man, surely by now you know what kind of person you want to be. I would hope that your reasons for treating others the way you want to be treated has some grounding in your beliefs about who you are and how you want the world to work. If you are only acting that way because you think it entitles you to good treatment from others, you are in fact being somewhat self-absorbed and selfish (though you're going about it in a way that is much better for people than garden variety selfishness). Perhaps you should take a moment to suspend your frustrations, many of which are likely legitimate, and refocus on how being a decent person who treats others with respect (which you by all indications do) is, in fact, something to be proud of, has rewards built right into it, and should be expected of you even if no promise of sex/relationships is attached to it. If you can do that, then hopefully you can remind yourself not to fall into a bitter "nice guy" routine which will not ultimately make you any happier.

Again, I'm not trying to be condescending at all. I just stress that if you can remind yourself that treating people with respect doesn't automatically entitle you to sex with them, then you may have reason to be a bit more patient with what is likely a legitimately disappointing series of social encounters.

Perhaps you should take the opportunity to ask some of the female members here what they would want to see/hear from a guy that was interested in a relationship with them. Treating women with respect is probably on that list, but it isn't going to be the whole list. It's perfectly fine to use the internet as a place to get some frustrations off your chest through a good rant, but if you are sincerely interested in learning what you can do differently to make yourself into relationship material, the SG community may offer some useful suggestions that you haven't considered.

The key phrase in the op, to me, is, "no one even notices". Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but to me that sounds like someone who thinks being nice means being a doormat. You know when doormats get noticed? When someone's shoes are muddy and they need to wipe them off.

The fact that you're complaining that nobody notices how nice you are means that, at a pretty high level, you're being nice in order to get others--specifically, dateable females--to notice how nice you are. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's dishonest to pretend that you're only being nice for the sake of being nice.

Now, given that you're being nice in order to get laid (and I'm not discounting other reasons up to and including actual chivalry, but again, you wouldn't have posted if the desire to get laid weren't a major part of the equation), why in the world would you only be nice? If you want to drive across town, do you change the oil in your car, make sure the gas tank is full, wash and wax it, and then stand next to it sulking because it's not taking you where you want to go? At some point, you actually have to get behind the wheel.

If you want to date a girl, make that clear to her. Preferably by saying something like, "Would you like to go out?" Girls aren't any more likely or able to read your mind than you are to read theirs. Acting like you want to date and/or get laid doesn't mean acting like an asshole. Matter of fact, putting yourself out there and actually asking a girl out can be a pretty non-asshole thing to do, because you're taking on all the risk of rejection.

AMAZING!