NEWS: Men Who E-Maintain Women

I didn't mind seeing your articles in the newswire, CMike.

Yes. That must be it. The evil, almighty penis has gone digital at last along with its controlling ways.

I think the real issue here is sheer lack of communication about how each person views the relationship.
I have a friend (with benefits) and we both just laid our cards on the table at the beginning. No promises, no mistaken beliefs of where this was heading and we're still friends even after I called an end to the benefits part.
What is really troubling about this article is that in today's climate of equality the onus is still on men? Really? Every fucked up thing men do women do too. I've been on both ends of that stick, so please, none of this 'holier than thou' attitude.

The most important thing that has been overlooked: it's nice to be reminded that someone is thinking about you; even it's only 3 words, some people don't even have that.

I suggest next time you write an article like this get a broader information base than just your friends.

sooo... just stop communicating all together? All stop doing it when they do. Ladies, promise to stop sending the "Hheeyyyy, what u doing!?" texts, and we'll stop e-maintaining you. Deal?

There are plenty of writings which use pronouns interchangeably. Addressing only the gender of the roles in an E-maintenance relationship is needed, but not the main subject. I mean seriously, this is basic shit.

That being said, an E-Maintainer is obviously a juggler of contacts, who practices their craft regularly. If the people you interact with are not on your level, then it's probably a good idea to reconsider further interaction.

Wait, really?

Also, .

I would also like to congratulate you on using words above a Jr. High level. I started reading this and I was initially surprised. First of all I am not a fan of lumping one scenario between what sounds like a some what idiotic person and another not-so-bright person into a situation and judging a whole group of people based on this. Therefore I don't really have any desire to answer any of your inquires about this situation.

However, I do have some advice for you. Stop

(I apologize for any typos I am on my phone and autocorrect is a bitch).

Seriously?! Everything I would/could say about this article has already been said.

This is at least the second or third article I've seen promoted on SG that has been openly sexist, badly researched, and unashamedly passing elitist and misguided opinions off as facts. If I read another one, I swear to Christ I'm cancelling my account. Sort it out.

I wasn't going to post on this thread, but I thought I should to keep up my profile and e-maintain all of you.

Sums it up perfectly.

Always dug Xtine's Venture Bros tribute set though. Good to see it featured again!

But when you write articles about how it's only men doing it and how wrong it is, it puts the attractive women in your life at ease and more likely to bring their problems and attention to you in the future.

Oddly enough, the first time I heard of doing something like this ("maintenance", without the e-) was a woman doing it to a man. And it was fictional. Ann on Parks and Rec was "saving" her friend Justin in case things with Mark (and Andy before him) didn't work out.

So, there's that.

I want to thank you for this but then I might want to read your blog and that could lead to some e-maintaining so I think I'll pass.

Didn't this use to be a thing, where people would openly become backups for each other?

"Ack! He hasn't called/texted/Facebooked me in a week? Do you think he hates me??"

You could just fucking ask him. Texts work both ways, and initiating a conversation is not a gender-specific ability. Why is this even a thing? It's not like you're being physically (or even really emotionally/mentally) harmed. You are doing it to yourself by playing a passive role in a "relationship" and then getting all pissy when you aren't getting your way.

Not really sure why anyone should listen to a dude on feminism whose blog freaturesads for "Filipina Singles" (featuring the appropriate bathing suit pictures, of course). Much less a dude who presumes to tell women "how it is."

'Friends' they were called, aye. Before the Dork Times. Before Facebook and its enabling of us e-maintainers.

I feel e-maintained by this article. It's the same wherever I go, but it might change if I wait long enough.

Ha. I meant to check him out but forgot. Pretty funny though.

Wow I seriously hope that people do not get paid for the drivel that keeps getting posted on this site.

Sex in the City called - they want their cliches back.