The science of holding a grudge

Spike said:
Yeah, I'll hold a grudge, but I don't really think about it. Prime example. A friend asks me to design her a tattoo, then meet one lunchtime for a drink to discuss it. A few days previously, her house had been burgled, and I sat up on the phone for hours to keep her company?(my phone bill, not hers), not that I minded, because that's what being a friend's all about. The night before we were supposed to meet, she said she wasn't feeling too good, but should be okay for meeting, so next day, I get myself up early (it's a sunday and I'd normally be in bed till 1. I got up at 11 to meet her) I text her to see if she's feeling any better and still wants to meet. No reply. I shrug and walk myself down to the bar and wait. And wait. And wait. I texted her 3 times and tried calling twice to see if she was turning up, all with no responce. I wound up using the time to draw more butterflies for my girlfriend's tattoo, then had some lunch and went home once I was done. About a week later she emails to say she couldn't make it as she had flu. That kinda shit just pissed me off, and I haven't even bothered to tell her to go fuck herself, as it's too much hassle, but this is the 21st Century for fucks sake! People have cell phones! It is not difficult to tell someone you can't keep an appointment. This wasn't a date, so that's not what got me pissed, it was just the lack of courtesy to say she couldn't make it for a week after the event. A well deserving grudge, I think.
Spike

Scopitone said:
I have a massive grudge for profiles devoid of pics.

Anonymity is for Batman.

cozybear said:
"The grudge doesn't consume the one carrying it. It sits in the subconscious. I don't think about my grudges until it's time to take 'em out and dust 'em off again. It's like having a multiple personality complex...that you can control. "

That is exactly it!!!

weakwill said:
Why hold a grudge when you can take revenge? internalizing a problem somebody else caused for you is giving them more credit then they deserve. They say an eye for an eye and pretty soon the whole world is blind, but why would I want somebody who took my eyes to have the priviledge of looking into my vacant and bleeding eyesockets. Karma's a lazy bitch and you'll most likely die before she gets off her ass to make things right.

max_beta said:
Basicly, you hold grudges as long as they're working for you and against the other person. If you're hurting someone else by not speaking to them, keep it up. If you see someone you were pissed at a couple years ago, and they seem cool enough to say they fucked up, let it go, or you're just being an asshole.

And hey, fuck them, don't even bother to tell them you're holding a grudge. Don't blow up and scream at them, just stop speaking to them and slowly cutting them off...it's nice and cold, and more fun that way.