NEWS: The Gentleman's Guide to Online Etiquette

Well I meet a female, hang out for a bit, it's common knowledge that I like her. I'm not IN love with her and maybe infatuation is a more appropriate term than love but since I love this site, I love this restaurant/club/bar/movie/new car...a proclamation of love maybe gets the point across better than "I like you" which seems to be more of a "let's be friends" rather than "I love you" meaning, lets get to know each other by spending more time together.

Ok, I sort of see what you're saying.

First off, you're in the wrong thread. Try Here.

Second, telling someone that you love them when you barely know them is the epitome of creepy. Saying "I like you" does not mean "I only want your friendship." The meaning changed based on the situation.

And "I love you" never, EVER, means "I want to get to know you by spending time with you."

Well I'm speaking in terms of being past the asking out stage,you've already asked her out, gone out a few times.
In your opinion what does telling her you love her mean?

That you are moving too fast.

Well too fast yes but creepy no. I'll go with desperate which isn't exactly endearin.

Definitely going to link to this when I get creepy messages...thanks.

This.

(When I comment, I usually stop myself by asking if someone would punch me for saying it out loud - I'm sure I was very unpleasant to talk to at times on this very site before I devised my "Punch Rule")

Another great read. Can't wait for the next one.

Very well done and I agree with Mil. . . n00bs should be required to memorize this text!

This needs to be reposted all over the internet.

Awesome, whenever i need the link for this, all I need to do is send Suri a creepy message.

thank you for this! this never will go out of style

Brillant! That's all i have to say.

Funny article. I haven't been on the internet much. Are people really like that?

This thread is creepy.

See too much of yourself?

The only thing is with this new fangled technology is you text or post a comment on FB, twitter, SG,e-mail or whatever and being that most people are continuously connected and alerted to a new message a non response or a day or two later is like a huge ignore/blow off like "oh I JUST got your message I had no idea what that bell/buzzing/beeping sound was 10 hours ago.

So etiquette says if I were attempting to start a conversation in person and you didn't respond within the bounds of normally accepted time frames it would mean to me move on.
#2 problem is that technology has made us even more detached thereby ignoring the established rules of in person etiquette because of course a text,comment, status update... doesn't go to anybody or mean anything.

This is my favorite of your columns.

That's a damn good rule. A less extreme version of it might even be "Would someone curse me for saying this to them in real life?"

If folks tried to apply that more often, I bet there'd be a lot more civility in the world. If you can't figure out how to express a point without enraging someone, you're probably doing it wrong.

-ReAct
"You missed my point and hit my face!"

This doesn't just belong here. I think every online community needs this notice.

wow! someone finally like... words it all out haha... ah... i'm not all here today... i agree! there is a lot of rudeness online. i hate it all and i get too much of it from male or female. haha. i'mma online gentleman P=.

You must only read the posts on some picture sets to realize that most online posters have never heard of the "Punch Rule". There's a definite line between 'open minded community' and 'acting like an ass'.

That being said, online etiquette is really tough. When you're talking with someone face to face or at least on the phone you can sense a lot without words so you know when the 'line' is shifting. Much harder online.

I'm bumping this, as we seem to have a new crop of creeps on site.

i resemble that remark.