NEWS: Miss Truth Hurts: Advice That Rocks by Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna

CULTURE: Miss Truth Hurts: Advice That Rocks by Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna

Too embarrassed to talk to your friends about your foot fetish? Not sure when to tell your partner about those, um, nasty genital warts? Need some Gotha Stewart home-ec advice for your next soiree? Not sure how to get your foot in the door of that fab new career you want? I got you covered. Miss Truth Hurts is here to answer all of your love, life, sex, career, and relationship questions. Ask anything. I've been there/done that (except for the warts) and I've dished out advice to readers just like you through the pages of my advice book/lifestyle guide, Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star.

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Q: I've been with my boyfriend for just two years and things are slowing down. We don't have sex as much. We don't make-out that often. He doesn't get hard at the mere thought of me like he used to. We just don't seem to have that spark we used to. But, we don't fight. We get along and love each other, it's just that gotten dull and routine.

-Bored in Brooklyn

A: Here's your chemistry lesson for the day: When we embark on a new relationship our brains release endorphins that give us a feeling of being high on love. It's why, when we first hook-up with a new love interest, we want to have sex all the time, get hard or wet at the mere thought of our partners, and our hearts literally skip a beat every time he/she walks in the room. From a biological standpoint, that can't last forever. If you're lucky it'll last around a year, but for most this stage lasts just a few months. Just accept that as fact. The feelings we associate with the first stages of love are merely the result of an endorphin brain bath.

Once the bath runs dry, and this initial stage is over, you'll need to put a little more work in to keep your love life afloat. Instead of wondering why you're not stimulated by the slightest touch or glance, you need to create stimulating situations. It's time to step it up. Maybe he was excited at the sight of you in a tank top and his boxer briefs, but 18 months on that's probably not going to cut it anymore. Try something sexier (lingerie), kinkier (a dominatrix outfit) or go the fantasy route (naughty school girl outfits always do the trick). Put some spontaneity into your bag of tricks. I'm sure he'll get hard if you go down on him while he's driving or offer him a little al fresco fun (though the police may not be so keen on either of these suggestions, a little risk goes a long way). Or try a make-out session in the closet of your home and pretend you're kids playing "7 Minutes in Heaven." Give him a message with a happy ending. Go for a quickie. Do anything new! Mix it up!



Q: My boyfriend cheated on me once early in our relationship. It was technically before we made it exclusive and before we told each other "I love you." I just found out about it now, a year into our relationship. I never mistrusted him before, but now that I found out it's all I can think about. How do I get past this?

-Scorned in San Francisco

A: Technically, you weren't exclusive so it's not cheating. It's as simple as that. Sure, it hurts, but get over it. If you can't forgive him and move on, then get out now. You're going to make yourself and him miserable if you hang onto this forever.



Q: My girlfriend looks like a SuicideGirl and I love her look. She gets dressed up in her sexy little outfits every time we go out and spends hours doing her hair and makeup. But, when it's just her and I, she often wears no makeup and doesn't dress up. It feels like she's putting on a show for everyone else, and doesn't care how she looks around me. Shouldn't she want to impress me too? WTF?

-Pissed in Pomona, Calif.

A: Yeah, I agree to an extent. She should try to look her best for you too. We should never let ourselves go just because we're comfortable in a relationship. That's when bad things happen. But, cut her some slack. Women also want our guys to love us for just us and be okay if we have a day when our hair is in a ponytail and we're in just jeans and a t-shirt. Don't be so superficial, dude! Even glamour girls deserve a day off.



Q: I go to Comic-Con in San Diego in July every year, and every year I dress up. I have a great Spock costume, but this is her first time going and she doesn't want me to dress up. She says she won't go if I dress up. She thinks it's embarrassing. What should I do?

-Cuckoo for Comic-Con in Los Angeles

A: Dump that bitch! How dare she try to take away your fun? It doesn't sound like this girl is a good match for you. Find a girl who will dress up with you and be proud to play Uhura to your Spock.



Carrie Borzillo-Vrenna is Suicide Girls' sex, love, and life advice columnist. She is an entertainment journalist, rock wife, and author of Cherry Bomb: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Flirt, a Tougher Chick, and a Hotter Girlfriend, and to Living Life Like a Rock Star and Eyewitness Nirvana: The Day-by-Day Chronicle.

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'dump that bitch!'
well said lady

Even glamour girls deserve a day off.

That is t-shirt worthy!

Or you could be an adult about it and discuss the situation rather than being petty and disregarding a person and relationship over such an extremely minor incongruity.

Perhaps a compromise could even be worked out. Bring your costume with you and spend some time with her in normal street clothes. Then when she's had her fill she can go hang with the girls at Olive Garden, or where-ever girls congregate, and you can don your ears with your fellow Vulcans and talk about phasors and quarks or whatever.

this column is beyond lame.

i agree with morgan. i like the idea of a sex, love, and relationship column, but please, staff, give us someone who can compete with dan savage, not this lifeless dimwit.

I <3 Savage Love.

For the sake of others and yourself, please don't. Also, just imagine what would happen to your boyfriend's cock if it was in your mouth when he got in an accident.

I also found this column pretty barfy, but I hesitated on commenting. If an author generates a lot of comments, even if they are eviscerating comments, it helps them stick around (like a certain CE author we all know and love).

Subrosa?

It would be nice if someone paid attention to the content, not the quantity of comments. I suspect the Newswire would look very different.