Friends of the Opposite Sex

Is it just me or is it hard to meet a new guy and be friends, as soon as you mention a boyfriend or the idea of another guy becoming your boyfriend, stops being as close of a friend, or stops talking to you in general? I don't know, maybe I just know alot of douches...?

Or I should just say I'm a lesbian, so I can still be friends with them haha

What does everybody think?

Nearly all of my friends are female. We work it out.

yah and that's the thing, see. most of my friends are guys. and most of them have either liked me at one point, or thought about dating me. And then most of the guys I meet, turn tail about being friends if I have a boyfriend...I don't know...

you're 20, and most of the guys you've met since you were a wee bairn have been teenagers. this is a problem that will solve itself.

Or you could try to make some female friends. Is there any certain reason you are seeking more male friends?

I never really sought out guys as friends, I get along with them better generally because I guess I can connect with them better with interests. But my friends that are girls are amazing and will be my friends for a looong time. I'd love to get to know more girls, but I guess the ones I meet don't click with me well. (lately I've made some awesome girl-friends though!)

not to sound like i'm hard to get along with at all haha- most the girls i meet aren't into tattoos or anything like that

Man, it's like you've never seen When Harry Met Sally.

Well in my country, I mean family, a friendship is between a man and a man.

That's never happened to me...I have gotten "I like you" from one or two of them but my friendships with them aren't difficult unless they're dating a difficult woman who makes it hard to be their friend because of her insecurity and jealousy.

I'd like to politely disagree with you on that one. I am 29, and I find it difficult to maintain friendships with men. When I got engaged, most of my guy friends slowly dropped out of the picture.

If you say you're a lesbian, they'll just want to watch.

QFT

I don't have any problems maintaining opposite sex friendships, then again, they all know I'd merrily jump their bones.

haha, i was just thinking that.

I think that might be a different phenomenon, though. I'm 29 too, and most of my friends are married now. I've seen it again and again, as soon as someone gets engaged, my relationship with them changes. even if they were committed for years before, when they get married they are part of a duo, and things are just different somehow.

and oh my god when everyone around you starts spawning, it is time for new friends.

that said, I've noticed that even in their 30's, one in three men seem to think that every attractive female who talks to them is flirting. not kidding! but still, that's way down from 99.9% of teenage boys who believe this.

All of my female friends became insufferable once they got engaged/married/preggers.

what about me?

LoL, I said most, not all.

I'd like to think I'm not insufferable now that I have someone in my life. I had been married for the previous 8 years and didn't seem to have problems maintaining friendships with guys (with the odd exception, of course).

Not all of us. I've known too many real lesbians (as opposed to lesbians til graduation, which I have also seen) and I don't want to watch them any more than I'd want to watch any of my hetero-couple friends doing things. Which is not at all.

I had to come check the thread again when I saw you post in it - to make sure you weren't going to say I was insufferable

I agree with this sentiment.

I did originally say that in jest. Well, partly.

Well, now that you mention it . . .

Dude she is like totally flirting with you!