NEWS: Abandon All Hope: Cycle of Lunacy

when it comes to break ups i only have the one policy...you have two options...you can be cool about it...or you can be a dick. I personally never want to be a dick about anything. After three and a half years i didn't see the break up as a failure...we still had three years of success. When she moved in with another dude she met of the net 7 weeks later...i still didn't want to be a dick....when he turn up at house threatening to kill me because he didn't like how she still talked about me...i still wasn't a dick....when she then had a 3 sum with 2 of my b-string friends and told me about it...ok, getting a little curious why she even told me...but still not a dick....when i found out she had revealed information that i had asked to be kept private...ok, getting disappointed...but still not a dick....then when she trashed a new person i had just started seeing...ok,...still not a dick....when she asked to get back together....thats when i became dick and let my piece of mind fly. My point is...i wished she had only gone through my trash...would made things a lot easier.

yeah, those crazy wing nut x's.


On the upside, after a while, when its all water under the bridge. When we all get over ourselves and grow up a little, you can usually be friends with your x's. Or at least amicable. I try to be at least...

there are of course exceptions, some people just don't let it go as easily.


Great column babe.

But what the hell you do when fill out the papers and the psyhco rips them up!

At least you had slept with the person who slept on your porch, presumably. It's so much weirder when even that isn't the case.

i'd like to meet someone who has mastered the art of becoming an ex.

my ex-wife is currently going through her second divorce.

The "new" ex-husband's lawyer subpoenad me to testify at their divorce, since it's an utterly disgusting divorce.

His lawyer called me today, and said, and i quote:

"Your ex-wife claims that the reason you and her didn't work out was because you weren't controlling enough. She could go out with her friends and come home at all hours and you would never complain, it gave her the feeling that you didn't care about her"

I couldn't do anything but laugh at this, i really had no clue how to respond to it.

That's some kind of special crazy right there.

Maybe people should wait longer before getting married.

You never know someone until you live with them, so "shacking up" for a few years seems like a wise idea.

Wow,

you've dated some odd fellows. I am always able to continue friendly relations with my ex's. I'll substitute chocolate for cupcakes, though, in case I do end up in a bad way.

wow ! I am definitly dealing with a looney like those guys right now.....

yes I have done some outlandish shit,the ego overtakes completely,its as if I became another person....tormenting my x over and over ...and kind of fun to tell ya the truth

That made me laugh my ass off. I really enjoy your writing...it's genuinely funny without being pretentious.

There's a reason I'm 32 and have never been married. That is...the reason BESIDES me being petulant child.

I actually had the reverse experience. She was kind of, how to say this nicely, a bit "off", which I didn't see clearly while we were together (my bad). But when we broke up, and I was moving out, we were cool. Things smoothed out once we broke up, and for a while it confused us.

It feels to me like the original post is hinting at the "phenomenon" that bad relationships are full of excitement and drama and the healthy ones are "boring" because you're usually much more mature and civil to each other.

Reading this reminded me of how thankful I am to be single and how much it is worth it not to date people you have that not so perfect feeling about, just because they're there...and you're lonely.

Some of my gay friends have been through breakups with people they've been with for years but (at the time) couldn't marry. A bad divorce is the ugliest thing you've ever seen... until you see people who've been together for a decade trying to separate their house, possessions, pets, etc. with absolutely no legal framework to do it with.

The above is not to try to belittle the experience of a bad divorce, but it may give some grim consolation that you're not as screwed as you possibly could be.

I never thought about that, but yeah, that makes sense - having to go through all that with no legal guidelines to keep the other person in check would be nasty.