revenge..is it worth it?

to be the bigger person or not? is that the way i should go? here's the situation (briefly). this lil 18 yr old bitch has been a source of anguish for me. her and my man started coresponding, much like the way i correspond with members on this site. but she obviously started getting feelings for my man. her letters started getting all hoytee toytee, enough to piss me off. she has a "deadjournal" or internet journal where she spreads all kinds of shit about me and my man. josh told her that he's cutting off any contact with her because he doesn't want to lose me (yeah, i have a mean jealous streak).

so here's my question. do i fill her journal and e-mail with cruel letters, tell her to die like i wish she would (well not really), find her and make her feel the pain i've been feeling for the past two days? or do i walk away and salvage my two year relationship? so far i've taken the high road and have walked away, but man....it's hard.

Revenge is cool, but what youre talking about isn't revenge its picking a fight, and, as they say, no good will come of this.

Now, pretending to be your boyfriend and getting her to send "him" lewd pictures and posting them to usenet, thats revenge.

But I would never advocate such a thing.

don't give her the satisfation of even letting her know you are aware of her. people like this do these things so they can say "see? i TOLD you she was a bitch-look at what she she said to me!". it just validates her.
and if he is cutting off contact then i would for sure just drop it or else he may get pissed like you don't trust him to do it himself.

[Edited on Sep 24, 2003 by ava]

defintely put it behind and work on the relationship.

revenge is best suited for other things. like when someone keys your car

Ask yourself this...
Is it really worth it?
In all honesty, this is someone that talks to your man online, hardly a real threat to you or your relationship together. I used to get all bent out of shape about my ex talking to other guys online, until I realized that that's all she was doing: talking online. Don't let it bother you, because she's not worth your time or energy.
Spike

revenge is really fuckin worth it sometimes...but not if its gonna ruin the relationship you already got. dont ruin the relationship over something that he obviously doesnt care about.

i turn to it when the relationships over.

sounds like more his issue than yours.

Tell her you know where she lives and you are going to kill her.

Ignore her. That would be a better revenge. If you let her know she is under your skin, she may dig more.

I think its cute when girls flirt with my husband.- I wouldnt worry about it- unless she's like- totally saying fucked up shit about YOU to him- in whcih case- he should be the one to fix the situation.- Cuz thats just not cool.-
Im with all the advise to pay that chick NO mind.- ya know?