Is romance dead??

I've seen where people question if punk is dead......if metal is dead......if bluegrass is dead, etc, etc. On to something more important.....is romance dead? I mean old-fashioned stereotypical romance. Girls, do you still like the subtle flirting, the flowers, the tiny insignificant gifts, the cards, the poems, cooked dinners, candles, being whisked away for a trip and the like? Or are you too hip, cool, punk, or whatever for that kind of behavior. If so - what do you want now...what is the new romance that has passed me by? My experiences have been that women now don't give a flying flip about some flowers out of the blue or a nice dinner....but would rather have a $300 purse and a $400 meal. And guys....are your timeless romantic gestures still appreciated or do see the want or need for something totally different in 2003?

Romance, R.I.P.

In my experience... Romance died a LONG time ago.
I'd like it to be revived.

Not sure what kind of women you're dealing with whose idea of romance is to make their boyfriend drop a ton of cash on useless crap. I'm a fan of any gesture that means someone is thinking about me, be it small gift or flowers or the like. Or just taking my hand and gazing at me adoringly. Seriously, I could care less about all that materialistic shit. If I want romance, I want real feeling behind it.

Romance isn't dead, but people seem to keep spreading the rumor that it is.

I dont think Romance is dead. Romance is more than fancy dinners and getting/giving flowers.
Romance is different things to different people.
I dont think its dead.
FYI ~I could buy 15 purses with $300. n they'd all be from sanrio or *gasp* hot topic.

I said the H word.

Then you are a great woman...you should be cloned....

and you as well...

I would rather have my boyfriend make me a CD or call me to say goodnight than buy me some $100 dinner.

Oh wait... he already does that.

Really, though... I appreciate the little gestures and compliments and subtleties more than I'd appreciate a dinner or trip he can't afford. It's the sincerity that counts more than the money.

And to all you boys who still open doors for a lady...

I'm still trying to keep it alive bishop.
I think real romance only lives in the few that are open to it. People always look at me funny when I open the car door for my girl and then proceed around to let myself in after. One day it was raining and some dude called me a fag, I just figured I would by the fag getting drying of with her later.
I remember kissing my girl's hand after the first date, and watching her wobble up to the house with weak knees. It was then I knew there was a reason for romance, and I would never stop.
Of course all of the everyday things are almost lost now. I almost got in a fight with my sister's boyfriend last year because, he honked his horn for her when he pulled up instead of comming to the door to get her. I did the bed of roses thing last valentines day, relieved our first date last march, and am planning on doing some really corny lovey dovey stuff for her birthday in october. The sad thing is romance is not a hard thing to have, do, make, or whatever. I think the next question is, is love dead?
Its a shame that not many women, and men, will ever experience true romance.
Wow, im a fucking pussy

Romance is alive and well...

romance isnt dead...but its hiding really well...human beings dont trust each other enough for romance to be commonplace...*le sigh*


-oz

Romance is great but it is mistaken for stuff given to you. Men seem to be turned off by romance cause some girls think they are entitled to it and make it one sided. I love sweetness, but don't realistically expect to be worshipped although I want to be. Romance isn't dead, it's put on the back burner.

/me Throws away the candy and flowers I had for you.

Romance is alive & well, its just hiding....

right when I clicked on this page I got a pop up

"Send Spring Flowers Today!"

It's not dead. You can sub-contract.

This is the other thing I've encountered....if they don't fall into the category of not wanting it.......they feel they are entitled to it...and very often...and with it being one sided...

This is the truth. In the old days you could send flowers to a girl you were interested in and it was sweet. Now it is creepy, stalkerish and an overstepping of boundaries.....the friggin' sending of gerbera daisies....go figure....

Romance is great. In my experience it seems to have died out. most girls I know arent into it. I guess its not "cool" to be romantic anymore.

ah well. cool or not. im all for it.

most girl I know are too "cool" for it as well.....I'm the dork because I'm into it....

in my Black cultures and personalities class we are discussing this right now. many ancient tribes and cultures believe that romance is based on deceit, it diminishes friendship, and that it's not true love. they believe that true love can only occur after a friendship has been formed, therefore courting women and being romantic is being fake...because true love will just form out of the friendship. when two souls, spirits, come together they make a third spirit, "the spirit of the relationship"...and they believe that romance does not involve spirit. this makes alot of sense to me.

to prove this he asked us this question today, "are romance and chivalry dead?" and all the girls said yes...when asked why they said its not like it used to be and that now men are only after one thing. and he replied to them by saying "so men had no alterior motives before?", they agreed but still said it was just different...and he said "so they were just better at fakin what they wanted before"...to which they had no response.

so if you look at it this way...i hope romance is dead.