Indian Girls

There is an Indian (the continent, not the native americans) that I am very attracted to. I want to ask her out, but I don't wan't to offend any customs or offend her in general. Anyone have any experience in this matter? I want to make sure I start of the right foot.

She has gorgeous henna art on her body and the most beautiful smile. I haven't had a real crush in a while, so I've just got to have her.

Well...you have to find out what her family is like. If she's an American Desi then she may be quite open to the idea of going out with you. Her parents might not be too happy with it but if you're a good idea then they'll come around (eventually).
So...what is she like? What type of clothes does she wear?

Dude how much do you know about her? You should find out what religeon she is,culture and how strong her beliefs are etc. This will be the first step I think

I would recommend talking to her and finding out all the info. Im sure she would be more than happy to fill you in in relevant information.

Yeah. I talk to a young Desi girl on the web sometimes. She's pretty well Americanized and secularized, and her ideal boy is a skinny indie Thurston Moore type, but her mother keeps saying she should find herself a good Indian boyfriend. Needless to say that doesn't interest her too much, especially as some of these boys have pretty old fashioned views on women's roles, and she's not exactly comfortable with subservience to say the least.

Having been in the hotel business for almost a quarter of my life, I know a little bit about Indians. I'd say that if you've got a good career ahead of you, good stable prospects for the future, they probably won't care that much.

First, there are no longer such things as "stable prospects" in W's america.

I do have traits an Indian family would like. Hard working, thrifty, dilligent, and can keep my neuroses in my head where they belong.

Me giving relationship-starting advice is a whole lot like a virgin giving sex advice; nevertheless, here is my $0.02.

Is she somebody you already know socially? I mean... have you chatted with her about general stuff? Or is she somebody who may or may not know you exist? If you already know her to talk to, then my advice is to be direct: tell her that you're attracted to her, but that you're concerned about violating some cultural taboo if you ask her out. This gives her a simple escape if she's not interested: "Yes, that would violate one of my cultural taboos." and a simple option if she's interested: "No, that wouldn't be a problem... go ahead and ask!"

If you don't already have a social relationship with her, then develop one, and return to step 1...

Warning: DO NOT start by saying "I really have to have you." That is not a success strategy with the great majority of women.

Good luck... (I hope your luck is better than mine, anyway... )

We've had some conversations and I've asked her about her culture. Her family may be secular, and she isn't vegitarian, so she isn't a Jain. She's been in the USA since she was 12, of and on, and she's studying marketing.

I am not a "nice guy" so I won't pledge everlasting love just because we talked.

Well, best of luck. Let us know how it turns out.

i too have a thing for indian girls. yummmmm.

well, India USED to be a continent, back in prehistoric times, then it crashed into asia. now I believe we call it a country. but why are you attracted to a country?

hard to say if this is gonna be a popular opinion or not, but i'm gonna go for it anyway.

respecting other people belief systems is a great idea, and something i am very fond of, but there comes a point when someone else might have to respect yours. if the first question u ask urself when contemplating a new relationship is "will her parents be able to cope with her dating me?" then something seems rather ass-backwards to me. just ask the girl out. if she wants you she'll find a way, and if she doesn't she'll find a way.

human beings do that...

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the great danfango

..go for it...I have seen some Bollywood girls that are some of the most amazingly beautiful girls on the planet.....

Where I am in the UK, there are quite a lot of Indian families, and some of my [female] friends at college were Indian (both Hindu and Muslim) Although they were pretty 'westernized' in their attitudes towards clothes, music, etc, they still only dated guys from their own backgrounds rather than dating white or black guys. I think some of that is personal choice, but there's also a lot of family pressure. One girl's family (Hindu) threatened to disown her for daring to date a Muslim guy, and his family wound up sending him back to Bangladesh just to split them up
I'd say talk to the girl, find out how orthodox her family and her beliefs are and go from there, but be prepared to have to settle for friendship rather than a more personal relationship...
Spike

Indian girls are just so beautiful. nothing wrong with politely asking her. good luck.

just be careful, she may be the greatest gal on the planet but if the family dosent like you or your customs and it will all be for not.

Just wnted to add . I dated this amazing Lebanese Muslim girl for all too brief a time! Lots of pain and heartbreak.....realy realy sucked!
But I would never change anything (Better to have loved and lost........I 'spose?)