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Why do so many forget that "feminism," no matter how you subjectively choose to define it, is entrenched against centuries and centuries of anti-feminism?

The Church didn't spend generation after generation telling its flock that men were insane, horny, and evil. They spent that time telling their flock these things about women. It's in literature, it's in history, it underlies every "debate" that rises from a Bitch_PhD thread and it's very, very traditional.

It's also a bunch of horseshit that modern society swallowed as a meme, and continues to spoon-feed to its children.

I like you. You get to sit beisde me at the lunch table.

Decent?

Hi. I'm a feminist. I'm going to follow you around, talk to you ALL THE TIME, and make sure everyone knows we're the BESTEST of friends. That is, of course, unless there's something you'd rather do instead . . . . . *holds out a handgun*

It's not better or worse. It's just particular focus. Not everyone can work towards ALL forms of equal rights at once. But while to declare oneself feminist is to declare a particular interest in the rights of women, it doesn't necessarily follow that this would be at the expense of other groups.

Actually, for all you people who say you are for equal rights for women because you are egalitarian, most of you would probably agree with the position known as Liberal Feminism. That is, if crazy people hadn't scared you off feminism already.

where do you get these studies from? they never define what is healthy or better relationship?..they never define what the word feminism means to the candidate in the study, nor to their partner. They are never repeated, they don't have a control group, they don't state how long the relationship has gone for, whether they are married, or whether the questions were asked in private or in front of said persons partner. As much as this study has a positive result, which most positive people would like to hear, it has no credibility or in anyway demonstrates how it was conducted. Be careful not to believe all you read on a internet forum study. I once read on a internet forum study that there is more women having babies to alien fathers than the world actually even knows about...

+1 Although it is still self-evident that people who respect each other get more out of any relationship or interaction regardless of who is involved.

theres an ass for every seat

That's kinda like saying any guy that respects himself respects HIS partner... not always true..no matter who is in the relationship.

(I may be a day late with this comment, but I felt it had to be said)

I tried to describe a theory that indicates that the egalitarian respect a "feminist", or any one seeking more equality, practices will set the bar for how much they can get since they are essentially redefining "equality". Forget that inequality is obvious and all that, it is not obvious except to the person suffering from the lack of it. The first time I expressed it to a feminist, though, it was interpreted as accusing feminists as being man-haters. How weird is that?

It seems like, if the 90's were about believing that feminists were man-haters, the 00's will be about feminists not knowing when to believe that they are being accused of being man-haters and when they are not, opting for the defensive stance. I guess the problem is that it is taboo to criticize in any form anything a professional feminist has to say unless you are also a non-male feminist, even if the subject is what male social constructs think and feel.

Anyway back to topic at hand, balls. I think balls are a gallant metaphor for male vulnerability for two reasons:

1. They are internal organs that are outside the body, and found only on males.

2. You don't even need much aim to kick them. One leg or the other will guide your foot or ankle to the vulnerable region. Kicking balls is easy peasy!

So "having balls" means possessing confidence within a vulnerable state. "Giving your balls to someone" means becoming vulnerable to someone (presumably to someone that doesn't respect your vulnerability and now controls you). "Shooting your own ball off" means preferring to hurt oneself rather than being hurt by someone else.

Why doesn't any male talk about this? I guess it's not sexy to women looking for a reproductive partner. I'm sexy enough due to good genes, so I guess I get to talk all sensitive and analytically and shit, and you'll read this and think "wow what a loser!", but thing is not everyone knows what a loser I am and I meet people often enough who unknowingly get wet for me!

Anyway I believe in intimate feminist relationships, perhaps more than unattended casual feminist relationships, because two people can iron out and compromise on a personal level.