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Rahodeb

Rahodeb

Los Angeles, CA
March 2006

AUG 22, 2007 03:14 PM





Call me crazy, but were I to require a sex change, Saudi Arabia probably isn't the place I'd want to get it done. I'd go to Colorado, or Thailand, or even Brazil, where they're giving them away for free. But if, by some cruel twist of fate, I were a citizen of Saudi Arabia--a female citizen--I suppose I could risk my loins to a scalpel-wielding Saudi surgeon, especially if it meant being awarded a driver's license. Wait, what? That's absurd! Who would get a sex change in the hopes of obtaining a driver's license??



19-year-old "Myriam" seems to have done just that.

A 19-year-old Saudi Arabian woman, Myriam, has undergone a successful sex-change operation in Jeddah and now, with her new name of Khaled, aspires for just one thing: a driving licence.

Okay, so--"driving licence" here must be code for "escape from violent, inhuman treatment and discrimination." Right? I mean, surely Myriam/Khaled couldn't offer a quote on the abuse of women's rights in Saudi Arabia to a Saudi Arabian newspaper, so heshe played it safe and sited a license to drive as a legitimate motivating factor. Um.

"I entered (the hospital) with the abaya (traditional women's garment) and I came out with thub, ghotra and ogal, the white tunic and hat worn by men," Myriam/Khaled said.

Also code. Translates to: "I entered with my breasts, vagina, uterus, and ovaries, and came out without them." I mean, really--she's 19? She can't have gone through much in the way of hormone therapy, can she? Was this a sex change operation, or a mastectomy and hysterectomy? Will she be seen as a man, worthy of a driver's license, or a freak, deserving of shame and banishment?

yeojanamja

yeojanamja

Malaysia
July 2007

AUG 22, 2007 04:33 PM

Seems the person was already scheduled for the operation and the idea of a license occurred to her (him) in the hours before surgery. The license was just an angle chosen by the original story's author to make a cheeky headline

Hormone therapy may have been going on for some time

I wish him luck

xazapdmytinu

xazapdmytinu

Fort Collins, CO
July 2007

AUG 22, 2007 04:36 PM

I'm just astonished that a sex change is actually recognized as a legitimate status change in Islam...

SnowgodCCR

SnowgodCCR

Derry, NH
November 2006

AUG 22, 2007 04:39 PM

xazapdmytinu said:
I'm just astonished that a sex change is actually recognized as a legitimate status change in Islam...



x2...just bizzare.

InnocentSid

InnocentSid

Providence, RI
June 2007

AUG 22, 2007 04:44 PM

Has she ever heard of a passport?

ericwine

ericwine

Charlotte Hall, MD
January 2007

AUG 22, 2007 04:46 PM

xazapdmytinu said:
I'm just astonished that a sex change is actually recognized as a legitimate status change in Islam...



+1
Particularly the harsh form the dominates Saudi Arabia!

ElPasoAgresso

ElPasoAgresso

San Francisco, CA
April 2004

AUG 22, 2007 05:00 PM

I hope he still has his clitoris and goes to Ryadh and fucks shit up.

Lockeblade

Lockeblade

Australia
May 2007

AUG 22, 2007 05:08 PM

For the past six months I've been teaching a number of young men here in Australia who were from Saudi Arabia and I must say, it really changed my opinion. Despite being devout Muslims they were very open to and tolerant of other cultures and practices. They were all from wealthy (and I do mean wealthy) homes (palaces) though and it made me consider how money can have a civilising effect on a society. If a society is generally well off, as the Saudi's are, it seems to be more tolerant. Fundamentalism stems from blind fear from those who have nothing to lose...

Gerry_D

Gerry_D

Los Angeles, CA
May 2003

AUG 22, 2007 05:53 PM

She'll be easy enough to spot - she'll be the fella that can't parallel park.

Scinge

Scinge

Minneapolis, MN
June 2004

AUG 22, 2007 05:56 PM

publicAnemone said:
I hope he still has his clitoris and goes to Ryadh and fucks shit up.



May or may not still have it...

I saw a picture in National Geo once of a middle eastern girl going through the happy coming of age ritual of being circumsized. Yep, some frantic looking old guy was taking her clit while her family "happily" helped hold her down. She looked about 14 and not happy. I don't recall the specific country or her exact age, only the cringe I felt once I realized what was going on in the picture.

Now that's some sick shit.

Lockeblade

Lockeblade

Australia
May 2007

AUG 22, 2007 06:49 PM

Scinge said:
I saw a picture in National Geo once of a middle eastern girl going through the happy coming of age ritual of being circumsized.



I'm probably going to get crucified for saying this, but I don't necessarily have a problem with female circumcision. At least, the fundamental principle behind it anyway... Who are we to pass judgement on someone else's cultural practices? Is it any different to a Jewish boy having his foreskin removed? I hear you screaming "But that's done when he's a baby, he doesn't know any better!" It still means he wasn't given a choice... Yet that's far more accepted than female circumcision. What about a young African woman having her lip sliced open and a plate inserted? What about rings being placed around her neck until her neck is so elongated and weak that if the rings were to be removed the sheer weight of her head would snap her neck? Yet, these also seem to be more accepted forms of cultural practice.

To qualify my view point, I must say that, if female circumcision is to be performed, it should be performed in a sterile environment with a local anaesthetic, not just a brutal hack and slash operation which seems to be the norm.

Rush

Rush

Long Island City, NY
June 2005

AUG 22, 2007 07:32 PM

Imagician said:

Scinge said:
I saw a picture in National Geo once of a middle eastern girl going through the happy coming of age ritual of being circumsized.



I'm probably going to get crucified for saying this, but I don't necessarily have a problem with female circumcision. At least, the fundamental principle behind it anyway... Who are we to pass judgement on someone else's cultural practices? Is it any different to a Jewish boy having his foreskin removed? I hear you screaming "But that's done when he's a baby, he doesn't know any better!" It still means he wasn't given a choice... Yet that's far more accepted than female circumcision. What about a young African woman having her lip sliced open and a plate inserted? What about rings being placed around her neck until her neck is so elongated and weak that if the rings were to be removed the sheer weight of her head would snap her neck? Yet, these also seem to be more accepted forms of cultural practice.

To qualify my view point, I must say that, if female circumcision is to be performed, it should be performed in a sterile environment with a local anaesthetic, not just a brutal hack and slash operation which seems to be the norm.


Oh, for fuck's sake. Do you even know what female "circumsicion" IS?

Handy diagram (click the picture for bigger version):



A foreskin is comparable to the clitoral hood. Also called the "prepuce" on both men and women. Figure B, description A would be comparable to a male circumcision.

Having the clitoris removed is like removing the entire penis. Sewing up the labia would be like, I dunno, wrapping the scrotum around the penis and sewing it up.

TheFox

TheFox

Carrboro, NC
March 2006

AUG 22, 2007 07:45 PM

Rush said:

SPOILERS! (Click to view)

Imagician said:

Scinge said:
I saw a picture in National Geo once of a middle eastern girl going through the happy coming of age ritual of being circumsized.



I'm probably going to get crucified for saying this, but I don't necessarily have a problem with female circumcision. At least, the fundamental principle behind it anyway... Who are we to pass judgement on someone else's cultural practices? Is it any different to a Jewish boy having his foreskin removed? I hear you screaming "But that's done when he's a baby, he doesn't know any better!" It still means he wasn't given a choice... Yet that's far more accepted than female circumcision. What about a young African woman having her lip sliced open and a plate inserted? What about rings being placed around her neck until her neck is so elongated and weak that if the rings were to be removed the sheer weight of her head would snap her neck? Yet, these also seem to be more accepted forms of cultural practice.

To qualify my view point, I must say that, if female circumcision is to be performed, it should be performed in a sterile environment with a local anaesthetic, not just a brutal hack and slash operation which seems to be the norm.


Oh, for fuck's sake. Do you even know what female "circumsicion" IS?

Handy diagram (click the picture for bigger version):



A foreskin is comparable to the clitoral hood. Also called the "prepuce" on both men and women. Figure B, description A would be comparable to a male circumcision.

Having the clitoris removed is like removing the entire penis. Sewing up the labia would be like, I dunno, wrapping the scrotum around the penis and sewing it up.



I do wish they would call it something other than "female circumcision" - it does imply something fairly innocuous. Thanks for posting a better version of what I was gonna.

emperorreagan

emperorreagan

Baltimore, MD
January 2004

AUG 22, 2007 07:57 PM

Don't worry, I'm sure those fundamentalist Wahhabi clerics can find it in their hearts to extend their hatred for women to the transgendered before Khaled can get his license.

BmAn915

BmAn915

Oak Ridge, TN
October 2005

AUG 22, 2007 08:59 PM

On the subject of hormone replacement therapy, he may have been having it for some time. I work and sometimes hang out with a woman who went through a sex change over a year ago. She is now 21, not much older than this man.

Roethke

Roethke

SUICIDEGIRL

California, USA

AUG 22, 2007 09:11 PM

InnocentSid said:
Has she ever heard of a passport?



I don't think you understand the level of dehumanization women suffer in Saudi Arabia. A woman cannot travel without express permission or accompaniment from her closest male relative or husband, and so a passport might be useless to Khaled. Strangely enough, a woman can legally fly a plane in Saudi Arabia, she just has to be chauffered to the airstrip.

Lockeblade

Lockeblade

Australia
May 2007

AUG 22, 2007 09:25 PM

Rush said:
Oh, for fuck's sake. Do you even know what female "circumsicion" IS?

Handy diagram (click the picture for bigger version):



A foreskin is comparable to the clitoral hood. Also called the "prepuce" on both men and women. Figure B, description A would be comparable to a male circumcision.

Having the clitoris removed is like removing the entire penis. Sewing up the labia would be like, I dunno, wrapping the scrotum around the penis and sewing it up.



I was waiting for it... and yes, I was fully aware of what female circumcision (or female genital mutilation if you prefer) was before I wrote my previous post. My point wasn't that the actuality of the two procedures can be compared, merely the practice of them as a societal or cultural tenant is comparable.

While I would (and will) gladly have my hypothetical son circumcised, I wouldn't dream of doing it to my daughter. That being said, my second point was that I don't believe people from other cultures have a right to dictate what is and is not acceptable practices. And I stand by that conviction even to the extreme of something like tribal cannibalism.

Lastly, you can't compare the excise of the clit to the removal of the entire penis as many women who have been circumcised, even type 3, are still sexually functional and able to achieve orgasm. However, considering this is practiced in regions where sex is generally had for only two reasons (procreation and male pleasure) and women's pleasure is generally unimportant, i'm not sure it makes that much of a difference anyway. It's only when we storm in from our enlightened moral high ground and convince them that what's been done to them isn't "right" that they have any notion of it at all. Again, who are we to judge?

BurningKrome

BurningKrome

San Jose, CA
April 2005

AUG 22, 2007 09:32 PM

Rush said:

Imagician said:

Scinge said:
I saw a picture in National Geo once of a middle eastern girl going through the happy coming of age ritual of being circumsized.



I'm probably going to get crucified for saying this, but I don't necessarily have a problem with female circumcision. At least, the fundamental principle behind it anyway... Who are we to pass judgement on someone else's cultural practices? Is it any different to a Jewish boy having his foreskin removed? I hear you screaming "But that's done when he's a baby, he doesn't know any better!" It still means he wasn't given a choice... Yet that's far more accepted than female circumcision. What about a young African woman having her lip sliced open and a plate inserted? What about rings being placed around her neck until her neck is so elongated and weak that if the rings were to be removed the sheer weight of her head would snap her neck? Yet, these also seem to be more accepted forms of cultural practice.

To qualify my view point, I must say that, if female circumcision is to be performed, it should be performed in a sterile environment with a local anaesthetic, not just a brutal hack and slash operation which seems to be the norm.


Oh, for fuck's sake. Do you even know what female "circumsicion" IS?

Handy diagram (click the picture for bigger version):



A foreskin is comparable to the clitoral hood. Also called the "prepuce" on both men and women. Figure B, description A would be comparable to a male circumcision.

Having the clitoris removed is like removing the entire penis. Sewing up the labia would be like, I dunno, wrapping the scrotum around the penis and sewing it up.


+1.

I do have to add, just as an aside, that the statement of "...who are we to pass judgment on another's culture..." is, as always, the ultimate, lazy assed, bullshit cop-out.

Let ME explain. Deciding to wear a burhka is a "cultural decision". Being held down while someone cuts your genitals without anesthesia (clit or not) is manslaughter. I don't give a shit what your "cultural heritage" is. Mutilating an unwilling participant does not fall under the protective umbrella of "respecting cultural diversity" Not just period...but fucking period.

"Aww...it's just an honor killing. It's their culture." "He's just raping your daughter. It's their culture!" What a lame assed load of crap.

Clidna

Clidna

Emo, ON
January 2005

AUG 22, 2007 09:39 PM

Roethke said:

InnocentSid said:
Has she ever heard of a passport?



I don't think you understand the level of dehumanization women suffer in Saudi Arabia. A woman cannot travel without express permission or accompaniment from her closest male relative or husband, and so a passport might be useless to Khaled. Strangely enough, a woman can legally fly a plane in Saudi Arabia, she just has to be chauffered to the airstrip.



I'm actually surprised that she was allowed to have the sex change...

BurningKrome

BurningKrome

San Jose, CA
April 2005

AUG 22, 2007 09:40 PM

Imagician said:

Rush said:
Oh, for fuck's sake. Do you even know what female "circumsicion" IS?

Handy diagram (click the picture for bigger version):



A foreskin is comparable to the clitoral hood. Also called the "prepuce" on both men and women. Figure B, description A would be comparable to a male circumcision.

Having the clitoris removed is like removing the entire penis. Sewing up the labia would be like, I dunno, wrapping the scrotum around the penis and sewing it up.



I was waiting for it... and yes, I was fully aware of what female circumcision (or female genital mutilation if you prefer) was before I wrote my previous post. My point wasn't that the actuality of the two procedures can be compared, merely the practice of them as a societal or cultural tenant is comparable.

While I would (and will) gladly have my hypothetical son circumcised, I wouldn't dream of doing it to my daughter. That being said, my second point was that I don't believe people from other cultures have a right to dictate what is and is not acceptable practices. And I stand by that conviction even to the extreme of something like tribal cannibalism.

Lastly, you can't compare the excise of the clit to the removal of the entire penis as many women who have been circumcised, even type 3, are still sexually functional and able to achieve orgasm. However, considering this is practiced in regions where sex is generally had for only two reasons (procreation and male pleasure) and women's pleasure is generally unimportant, i'm not sure it makes that much of a difference anyway. It's only when we storm in from our enlightened moral high ground and convince them that what's been done to them isn't "right" that they have any notion of it at all. Again, who are we to judge?


You're right. It's actually exactly the equivalent to cutting off just the glans of the penis (since they are actually the same organ, in a different state of development due to hormonal differences.)

And I totally agree with you about the cultural thing. I mean, the Egyptian enslavement of millions was a cultural tradition. The conquering European empires were (inarguably) simply following centuries of tradition. The Norse regularly slaughtered infants showing the slightest traits of developmental disability.

I'm totally on your side. No matter how ridiculously heinous or barbaric an action is - if it comes from a legitimate historical tradition it must be embraced and cherished.

/sarcasm

P.S. Don't try to hide your idiotic comment under the "...Alas, I knew it was coming..." header. Just take your lumps and move on.

Lockeblade

Lockeblade

Australia
May 2007

AUG 22, 2007 09:59 PM

BurningKrome said:

I do have to add, just as an aside, that the statement of "...who are we to pass judgment on another's culture..." is, as always, the ultimate, lazy assed, bullshit cop-out.



You've seen Team America: World Police haven't you?

Let ME explain. Deciding to wear a burhka is a "cultural decision". Being held down while someone cuts your genitals without anesthesia (clit or not) is manslaughter. I don't give a shit what your "cultural heritage" is.

So it's up to you to choose which cultural practices are and are not acceptable based on what? U.S cultural morality or religious morality? That's sure as hell not something I'd base rational judgement on...

Mutilating an unwilling participant does not fall under the protective umbrella of "respecting cultural diversity" Not just period...but fucking period.



Again, I raise the point; why aren't you addressing the issue of lip plates or neck rings or male circumcision? They're all forms for "mutilation" performed on unwilling (or unknowing) participants.

DownNeck

DownNeck

Bloomfield, NJ
March 2006

AUG 22, 2007 10:04 PM

BurningKrome said:
Mutilating an unwilling participant does not fall under the protective umbrella of "respecting cultural diversity" Not just period...but fucking period.



i agree with you totally that the mutilation of an unwilling participant is wrong, abhorrent, and every effort should be made to stamp it out...i urge you to consider, however: i wasn't consulted when my foreskin was cut off

this in no way equates the two acts, i'm just pointing out that i believe those of us who are hard-line against unwilling female genital mutilation (as i am) should reevaluate our position on unwilling male genital mutilation as well

BurningKrome

BurningKrome

San Jose, CA
April 2005

AUG 22, 2007 10:45 PM

Imagician said:

BurningKrome said:
I do have to add, just as an aside, that the statement of "...who are we to pass judgment on another's culture..." is, as always, the ultimate, lazy assed, bullshit cop-out.



You've seen Team America: World Police haven't you?


whatever


Let ME explain. Deciding to wear a burhka is a "cultural decision". Being held down while someone cuts your genitals without anesthesia (clit or not) is manslaughter. I don't give a shit what your "cultural heritage" is.

So it's up to you to choose which cultural practices are and are not acceptable based on what? U.S cultural morality or religious morality? That's sure as hell not something I'd base rational judgement on...


You know, that sounds good in a philosophy class and all...but I think most reasonably intelligent people can find the "fine line" between reasonable cultural traditions and gross violations of human rights.

Seriously...even you don't buy that line of crap.

I mean, as with all things, there are some concepts that fall into areas of grey - and some things that are clearly simply deplorable actions.

Based on what? Hmmm...let's see. How about, if everybody on the planet thinks it's an atrocity except the individual or "culture" committing it...I'd feel pretty good about my "irrational judgment".


Mutilating an unwilling participant does not fall under the protective umbrella of "respecting cultural diversity" Not just period...but fucking period.



Again, I raise the point; why aren't you addressing the issue of lip plates or neck rings or male circumcision? They're all forms for "mutilation" performed on unwilling (or unknowing) participants.


I didn't see where you raised it before...but who said I approved of those things? Regardless, lip plates and neck rings are not, actually, imposed upon unwilling participants. In fact, being a sign of feminine maturity, you have to be of a certain age to participate.

I might be willing to concede male circumcision as a "grey area", since only skin tissue is removed...not a complete organ (the clit/glans.) However, circumcision on an infant is borderline at best and, if done without anesthesia and proper medical conditions, IS actually prosecutable as manslaughter in the U.S.

Again, it all sounds good in theory but you're not really struggling with the separation between the "imposition of a western culture" and "It's wrong to hold a child down and cut their fucking (genitals) off." Are you?!

Since we want to throw comparisons in, I did mention "honor killings" (you do know what those are I assume.) They have been a part of Middle Eastern culture for centuries. So, based on your stance of "cultural tolerance", it's OK to kill your own daughter because she may have been raped when she got kidnapped?

Max16Characters

Max16Characters

Korea, Republic Of
March 2003

AUG 22, 2007 11:58 PM

Imagician said:

BurningKrome said:

I do have to add, just as an aside, that the statement of "...who are we to pass judgment on another's culture..." is, as always, the ultimate, lazy assed, bullshit cop-out.



You've seen Team America: World Police haven't you?

Let ME explain. Deciding to wear a burhka is a "cultural decision". Being held down while someone cuts your genitals without anesthesia (clit or not) is manslaughter. I don't give a shit what your "cultural heritage" is.

So it's up to you to choose which cultural practices are and are not acceptable based on what? U.S cultural morality or religious morality? That's sure as hell not something I'd base rational judgement on...

Mutilating an unwilling participant does not fall under the protective umbrella of "respecting cultural diversity" Not just period...but fucking period.



Again, I raise the point; why aren't you addressing the issue of lip plates or neck rings or male circumcision? They're all forms for "mutilation" performed on unwilling (or unknowing) participants.



Goddamn...i can't believe you're serious about this. Forceful removal of body parts is a human rights issue, not a clash of culture over moral superiority or relativism. It's pretty fucking clear that permanent and irreversible damage has been done in the case or female genital mutilation. It's a human rights issue because no one has the right to forcibly remove body parts from someone else. It's that simple. It's monstrous, barbaric and traumatizing for countless numbers of women every year.

I suppose it IS a cultural difference but kindly remove your head from ass and stop this "we can't judge their culture because we don't know what it's like to be them" bullshit m'kay.

Agt20Eight

Agt20Eight

USA
September 2006

AUG 23, 2007 02:57 AM

Imagician said:I'm probably going to get crucified for saying this, but I don't necessarily have a problem with female circumcision. At least, the fundamental principle behind it anyway...



The fundamental principle behind it is to deny a woman's sexuality and individuality and the freakish concept that she's a fully realized person capable of and deserving to make her own decisions. It's to eliminate the possibility for sexual pleasure, so that she won't go around fucking everyone (since that's what they feel a girl's gonna do if she's got all her bits in working order)...

I cannot believe that you meant this seriously. Holy crap, how can you belong to this site which is all about glorifying women, and then say something that shows how you so clearly hate them? What the fuck is up with that? I'm refusing to believe it. You're just on a whole lot of drugs, that's it. You're on a lot of drugs and you didn't get the girl and you hate yourself. That's my explanation.

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