NEWS: Straight White Guy Screwed by Homophobia

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I don't really see anywhere that you succinctly re-phrased it, so I can't comment. But I really don't see any good way to re-phrase it that doesn't turn it into a tautology - it's bad to fight for custody of your children except in cases where it's really important. Well, fucking duh.

Oh. So you do agree. You only take offense because it's obvious to you. That wasn't clear to me.

Who do I supposedly agree with and what statement of theirs do I apparently agree?

And my "duh" is not to the "you shouldn't fight" part, but instead to the "except when it's important" part. The first part is debatable and without the second included totally and completely false.

Oh, Okay. My bad.

Meeting this mutual ideal has multiple benefits

1. It is more likely to be beneficial to the child because of increased communication between the parents and increased acknowledgment by those parents of their own agency.

2. It can result in many more options for child custody in terms of flexibility, and assuaging the needs of all parties, than is recognized by most courtrooms.

3. There is no money spent on legal expenses, and that money can go to the financial security of either one of the caregivers, or the child.

4. Having parents that communicate and respect each other will decrease the psychological burden on the child to blame him or herself, or choose which parent that he or she loves is evil.

5. It doesn't consume public resources.

6. It's a good challenge for the parents ability to resolve their own conflicts and may result in a positive outcome for the relationship between the parents.

I came up with six reasons.

Well the rather amusing thing is, that even tho my ex was this disaster of a person, i STILL had to "fight" to prove i was a fit parent and that my daughter was better off with me.

so technically i was fighting to prove to the state that i was a fit parent

either way you look at it. in some round about way, i was fighting over custody.

That is most definitely something! I could only imagine the ignorance you had to battle.

Ok, I agree that cashing his alimony cheques while living with her wife is not the most morally-upstanding thing anyone has ever done...but it's sure getting a lot of republican attention now, isn't it? Funny how money has the power to do that!

She probably isn't doing it as a publicity stunt, but it's having that effect and I'm still glad. I hope that guy had it coming, because it is a pretty thoroughly shitty thing to do.