Guy's opinion on sharing baby juice?

After surgery last year, I can't spurt spunk. My wife, Urblueygrl, is a little older than me and we don't want to wait any long to pop one out. We have nothing against adopting, but she would like to experience having a baby. The problem that we have is that we'll need someone to donate his sperm. This is not asking for donations, but rather opinions on donating.

Guys:
How would you feel about donating? Would you need to have any contact with the child? Would you feel any responsiblities for the child? What if you didn't agree with the way the child was being raised? Would you have any demands as the donater?

Girls:
Would you let your guy donate? What would you think if you found out that the guy you are with donated and already has a child? Would you want to have contact with the child? Would yiou have any demands as the donaters significant other?

My wife is here with me as I type. It's a big issue for us and I realize that I'm asking for opinions from a porn site, but this is better than MySpace.

I wouldn't want to have any contact, or say in the childs upbrining as I wouldn't see it as being my child. I assume when saying this you're talking about going to an IVF clinic and not asking a friend to be the donater?

For a serious question, your use of phrases like "spurt spunk" and "baby juice" sure is making it hard for me to keep a straight face when trying to ponder this question.

What exactly is your problem? Ejaculation and semen production? Or sperm production? And is it a temporary problem or permanent? Just because you may not be able to "spurt", doesn't necessarily you may not be making any "spunk".

It's difficult for me not to joke about things, but it is a very serious question. I still produce semen, but I have retrograde ejaculation, so it goes to the bladder instead of out. I had a RPLND. This is a permanent thing. The cost, pain and effort would be too much for my own spunk. I have no problem with using someone else's stuff or adopting. I am actually thinking about talking to a friend about it, but we have no idea how people would respond.

I would be more willing to 'let' (I say let, because it comes down to it being his personal property) my husband donate to a friend that I was confident would do their best to provide a safe and loving environment for a child. I wouldn't be big on anonymous sperm donations, because you never know what will end up happening to any children made. In my mind, any children made from his ejaculate wouldn't belong to us, it would be the other couple's child in every way.

I've considered donating eggs, but again, I'd like to know the person who would get them. I don't know if that makes me selfish or not, but hey, it's just my opinion.

you mean like spitting it in your mouth?

I was asked to do this a few years ago (lesbian couple) and almost did -- but one of them wasn't an American citizen, wouldn't do anything about it, and risked deportation ... which would have put the child in jeopardy. That's the only reason I backed out.

If I'd done it, I probably would have kept contact with the kid; the couple had no problem with this, they said. But I don't know if we'd have told the kid about his/her true parentage. I most likely would have been a "friend of the family."

I know that I can't stop laughing.

I'd be okay with my husband donating as a donor only, but probably not as much if he wanted to be a part of the family.

More opinions?

If I were to donate, I would not feel any responsibilities as a parent, or wish to see or be around the child. At the very least though, I would want to make sure it was a nice couple of folks raising the kid, but honestly I wish that were true for any child coming into the world, not just one raised from my magic baby juice.

Ever consider adopting, or is she all about the baby factory?

PS - I just read the thing about the RPLND and eeeeeeewwwwwww and ooooooouuuucch

As long as the child would grow up in a good home, I'd be okay with it. I'd want limited contact with the child, but not as the father. I'd want to be a friend.

I wouldn't mind donating, hell I'd be glad to be helping someone out. And no, I wouldn't expect to have contact with the kid... I mean, if I do, good, and if I don't, that's fine too. I wouldn't consider it my child, maybe only the moment it's born, I would somehow think it's part of me but once the kid gets raised by it's parents, then nope, it's not mine. And I would just hope he/she would have a good upbringing...

Adopting is the second choice. She really wants to have the experience of carrying and having a baby. If it doesn't work out or we want a second child, then we'll adopt.

That's what we would prefer. There would be no expectations or responsibilites for the donor. It would be great if it's a friend of ours, but he wouldn't be the father, I would. I don't think we would ever need any help from anyone else, but if so, we have familes that would help out. If anything ever happened to us, we both have mothers that want to steal their other grandchildren already.

Sounds as if you've thought it through. Personally, I'd want a legal release, because there are people I was close to who I won't share a room with now; but apart from that, I'd be happy to be an "uncle". Though I might also insist the kid was told the truth, as and when

I think it may be easier to "get the juice" from someone you don't know very well or maybe someone you know well but don't see very often. I just think it might be odd to have a close friend, who lives near you, donate. Wouldn't it feel weird seeing them and the kid in the same place with both you and he knowing that the kid is biologically his? I'm not saying that you would feel like this all of the time, but wouldn't there be moments where it that might be pretty uncomfortable for you both?

We still need to look into the legal aspects of it, but I'm pretty sure that fathers don't have much rights, especially when they aren't married to the mother and they aren't on the birth certificate. I would wait until the child becomes an adult to tell him and, if I told him, I would make him think a lot about it before I told him who the donor was.

I know people that would donate, but I'm not going to ask them because they are too close to me and my wife. I've lived in Louisiana and California and I have very good friends from both states, so it won't be a problem.

Monday, I went to a friend's party and someone had their 18month old there. I've only seen the child a few times, but I recognize him right away because he looks like a minature version of his father. So, I think it's going to be pretty important to find someone with similar features to myself.

I would happily donate my sperm to a couple who needed it. I would not want to be involved, in any way, with the resulting child though.

If I did it...it would be to help out a couple that wanted a child but could not have one on their own...and that's it. It'd be like donating blood, to me. It's donating something for a medical purpose...not a sentimental one.

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