When you add people to your friends list...

Why not introduce yourself and tell the person you've added that you've done so? If not, it's kind of weird because it leaves that person wondering who you are, why you found them interesting, etc. Don't you think?

maybe it's a sign they adore you.

I talked to the person for a but and decided that they were someone whose journal I wanted to look at frequently. Boom...they where added to my friends list and the person was nice enough to add me back.

Don't you ever want to add a little mystery to your life?

because I'm bad at making the first move.

I'm hoping they'll just notice me being creepy from across the room.

It's like walking down the street and acknowledging people, how "well" do you have to know them before it is appropriate to give them the proverbial "nod"?

Yeah, except when you run into the person on the boards, nobody has to awkwardly avert eye-contact without appearing to do so.

I think it's a great idea to tell someone when you add them to your friends list. The worst case scenario is, they ignore you. The best case would be them offering to rush right over to where you are to administer a tongue bath. (*hint* *hint*)

so if you comment in someones journal on a regular basis, is it ok to add them as a friend?? what if they dont want you for a friend?? what if they dont even want you to read their journal?? what if your too insecure or shy to even post in someones journal??

I usualy drop them a line if they seem reponsive to me then I put them on my friends list.
I clicked my "Friend Of" button the other day, and I spawned three new ones that don't make comments anywhere, don't have any jornal entrys, but have a friends of list a mile long.
CliveB
slutgirlsbeware
jesuscrux
Who are these people, Goverment spy keeping taps on our comment. Or just weirdos.

[Edited on May 07, 2003 by NatasKaput]

Maxx: It's hard to NOT notice you being creepy from across the room. And send back that damn reply card if you haven't already!

*snicker snicker*

if anyone doesnt want their friends, ill take them. everyone knows self worth is judged by what other people think of you

:sniffles:: well i would add people, but i'm new here and i dont know a lot of people

i usually do, unless they've added me first....even if they know me, and we've posted in each others' journals before, i like to let them know that i'm adding them.

*adds Lesa to his friends list*

Now to watch from afar.... and by afar I mean with the high powered telescopic lense I've set a hundred feet from your bedroom window.

god, I'm such a dork...
Before I started posting on sg I imagined that online communities would be the kind of place where the anonymity would mean I could be someone I'm not really (or at least unitl I've had half a bottle of wine); witty, chatty, funny, confident. All of that..
but now I realise that I'm just me. Still a bit unsure of opening up too quickly or presuming to be someone's friend after a couple of posts.
but damn, everyone is soo friendly. its' great.

think I'm going to start being a bit more proactive maybe. wish me luck.

I usually ask first, unless I see that I'm already on theirs. Then I figure the precedent for stalking has already taken place.

you never asked me, and i remember that i was on yours first...

stalker!

that's okay. i need a good stalking.

If we've bantered back and forth on the boards and then continued it through journals a few times, I'll generally add people. I check my "friend of" every few days to see who added me, and if I deem them worthy, I add them.

Hi my name is -deez-

Will you be my friend

I'm on this guy's list...

Dunno what I did to be deemed worthy though...

Satan is everybody's friend.

its weird, this guy CliveB has a massive friends list and no friends , no comments, no posts. scary.

Choose me, choose me...

i like to ask first but like has been said if i am on yours you will be added to mine
and i also try to comment in all my friends journals when they update