help with gift ideas and is a gift appropriate

I have been seeing a girl at work for about 4 months, issue is she is married, currently seperated waiting finalization of a divorice. I don't know if a gift for V day is appropriate or not, and if so what type of gift should I look for

She is married. It's not appropriate.

Wow, I don't know if anything about this topic is appropriate.

+1

When you say you've been seeing her, do you mean interpersonally or that you have functional eyes? If it's the first one, I'd say yes to the gift. If it's the second, maybe no.

we have been intimate yes

Abort! Abort!

Maybe, get her husband a gift.

If the two of you are intimate, it's most certainly appropriate. However, you should bear in mind the nature of your relationship when selecting your gift. Is it a public adventure, or a secret affair? Does she love it, or does it leave her wracked with guilt? Does your gift need to be explained away, or given in private?

Does your physically intimate relationship involve your emotions, or just your boy/girl lego?

If you hate her husband, it might be entertaining to get him a gift. If you like him, and he approves of your dalliance, it might be even more appropriate to show your appreciation of his tolerance.

Incidentally, you don't actually need to tell US the answers to these questions.

the reason its on the down low is work would not approve of the relasionship. We are very happy together and do go out in public and show effection. She says she loves the relationship and wans to keep going, I feel the same. I was going to take her to get a new Tattoo that she is wanting. don't know if that is a good gift or not?

If it's on the downlow with her husbandman, a tattoo might be hard to explain away, but only you guys can tell. If it's her kinda thing, I say go for it.

what other gift ideas do you think. I would like to get him a gift of a 9mm to the head

He is pretty much out of the picture, they live in seperate houses, the tattoo is good, but still need something else to give her till we can get the tattoo done

You might be on the receiving end of prison love after that gift.

Its only a thought not a reallity.

They live in different houses? As in "they're separated"?

If so, why on earth are you asking? Of *course* it's appropriate to bye your lady lady a gift.


EDIT: Make her a voucher for the tattoo, redeemable when she has a design she wants and can get an appointment with the inkmason.

yes they are seperated andlive in diffrent house I just don't want to start any more crap between them. He knows about me and has approched me with threats, he wants her back, but its to far gone for that

Get them both a present then. She needs a lovely new tattoo, he needs an exciting shiny restraining order. Threats can just fuck off.

I don't know how it is in your state...but here in New Jersey...even an amicable divorce takes time. So, I think it's perfectly acceptable to be in a relationship while legally separated, though still technically married.

To the original poster:

If you've been seeing each other for 4 months and STILL aren't sure if a gift is appropriate....you need professional help.

Yes! Listen to the smart lady.

He said it was an issue. Her being married.

I know divorce takes time. I know it's okay to be in a realtionship while being seperated. But he is the one that said her being married was an issue. As per his first post.

That does make me slightly curious, yes.

You CAD!!!

I would have told him to tie it to his wiener, but an orchid is a good idea too.