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MrCrisp

MrCrisp

I'm lost
August 2004

DEC 12, 2006 06:12 PM



A month after preaching to his congregation about responsibility and character (using the Ted Haggard scandal as an example), Rev. Paul Barnes revealed his homosexuality in a pre-recorded message. The pastor, who has avoided combining his beliefs and politics, announced his resignation only after being outed by an anonymous member of the Denver-based, 2,100 member megachurch.

Now, the 54-year-old Barnes joins Haggard as a fallen evangelical minister who preached that homosexuality was a sin but grappled with a hidden life.

Sitting cross-legged in jeans and an open-collar shirt, Barnes spoke in his video about evolving feelings growing up in a firm moral family: from confused little boy to adolescent racked with self-loathing and guilt.

In their only talk about sex, Barnes said his father took him on a drive and talked about what he would do if a "fag" approached him.

Barnes thought, "'Is that how you'd feel about me?' It was like a knife in my heart, and it made me feel even more closed."

Barnes expressed hope for a future where one can "be who you are" and be accepted and loved in the Christian community and also spoke about "separating some of the teachings from Scripture" from Jesus Christ.

When asked for his opinion on whether Barnes' admission would warrant further criticism of the evangelical community and accusations of hypocrisy, an associate of Barnes, Dave Palmer, said, "The criticism is valid if you look at perfection being the mark, because the next person who stands at our pulpit is going to be guilty of not being perfect as well," he said. "Does that mean we have to change what we say about the word of God? We can't do that."

Will this be the last instance of exposed homosexuality in the evangelical community? Another evangelical leader in Denver doesn't think so.

Denver Seminary president Craig Williford said once one person gets caught or confesses, others in a similar situation are more likely to get the courage to speak out. He said the people they were involved with could also come forward.





Illustration: Robert Neubecker

MrCrisp

MrCrisp

I'm lost
August 2004

DEC 12, 2006 10:03 PM

disclaimer: this is the source for the second quote, and i do not endorse the image that has been attached.

Andvari

Andvari

Calgary, AB
April 2005

DEC 12, 2006 10:13 PM

MrCrisp said:
disclaimer: this is the source for the second quote, and i do not endorse the image that has been attached.



huh?

MrCrisp

MrCrisp

I'm lost
August 2004

DEC 12, 2006 10:18 PM

i forgot to provide a source for the seond quote when i submitted the article, and i never agreed to the inclusion of the image that accompanies it. honestly, i find the image, which depicts a catholic priest, not an evangelical pastor, offensive and tasteless.

Andvari

Andvari

Calgary, AB
April 2005

DEC 12, 2006 10:22 PM

MrCrisp said:
i never agreed to the inclusion of the image that accompanies it. honestly, i find the image, which depicts a catholic priest, not an evangelical pastor, offensive and tasteless.



I find that highly disturbing.

However, let me add that I have been enjoying your articles as of late.

drunkentigress

drunkentigress

Albuquerque, NM
March 2006

DEC 12, 2006 10:24 PM

We need more men like Barnes in the world.

OctEgon

OctEgon

Tustin, CA
July 2005

DEC 12, 2006 10:38 PM

So wait....does he still view homosexuality as being a moral abomination? I realize that NOBODY is perfect, but that quote had an odd context to it. Like it's a drug addiction or something.


And where are my lesbian nuns?

herbancowboy

herbancowboy

Houston, TX
June 2004

DEC 12, 2006 10:46 PM

drunkentigress said:
We need more men like Barnes in the world.



We need more Mr. Crisps in this world.

(Let me add that I've been appreciating your articles of late, too, but I won't say "enjoy" because I'm reserving that for when the world actually gives you some good news to report.)

quagmirething

quagmirething

I'm lost
June 2005

DEC 12, 2006 11:33 PM

So which churches preach an inclusive, loving message? I know the US part of the Anglican church is heading that way, but they're being held back by attempts to maintain unity across the world. A lot of their congregation is in Africa, where gay friendly messages don't go down well (enough).

The evangelical church I went to as a child didn't put forward an opinion on the matter. It wouldn't have been happily received by the congregation, either pro or anti. People get told what they want to hear.

felix7

felix7

Greenville, SC
March 2003

DEC 12, 2006 11:56 PM

Out em all. Then point & laugh.

aegies

aegies

Oakland, CA
June 2004

DEC 13, 2006 12:38 AM

felix7 said:
Out em all. Then point & laugh.



yeah. that's not what this is about at all.

malkav11

malkav11

Saint Paul, MN
July 2003

DEC 13, 2006 12:57 AM

When asked for his opinion on whether Barnes' admission would warrant further criticism of the evangelical community and accusations of hypocrisy, an associate of Barnes, Dave Palmer, said, "The criticism is valid if you look at perfection being the mark, because the next person who stands at our pulpit is going to be guilty of not being perfect as well," he said. "Does that mean we have to change what we say about the word of God? We can't do that."



You know, I don't agree with the ideology behind this statement (i.e., that being homosexual is a personal failing), nor do I believe in God, but I will say that this seems like the most cogent response I've seen from a believer in the sinfulness of homosexuality. I mean, I don't think most religious people believe their priests are infallible.

Callahan

Callahan

Seattle, WA
February 2005

DEC 13, 2006 01:37 AM

It'd be interesting if someone was randomly calling churches and threatening to "out" their pastors to see how many are actually gay.

Not that I would condone that behavior and the pain or offense it would cause people but at least talking about it is good for a laugh.

thestral

thestral

Manassas, VA
August 2005

DEC 13, 2006 02:31 AM

Callahan said:
It'd be interesting if someone was randomly calling churches and threatening to "out" their pastors to see how many are actually gay.

Not that I would condone that behavior and the pain or offense it would cause people but at least talking about it is good for a laugh.



Why is it okay to laugh at priests? Would it be okay to laugh at a man who struggled with an abusive bigotted father, went through all the struggles involved in coming to terms with his sexual identity, and then came out? Why does them being priests make it okay to point and laugh? Because they've preached against it so long? The hypocrisy? Haven't they gone through just as much struggle as the next gay guy? Haven't they dealt with the same issues of self-loathing and guilt as any gay man?

We should laugh at the congregation, not the priest. We should laugh because even their holy men can be gay, while they continue to believe that religion is the only way to avoid homosexuality. We should laugh because even their supposedly most devout men haven't shaken this sin that religion is supposed to cure.

chickenlips

chickenlips

Newport, RI
February 2004

DEC 13, 2006 03:33 AM

quagmirething said:
So which churches preach an inclusive, loving message?



Some United Methodist Churches are that way... also the Unitarians. It probably varies from church to church within a denomination. I'm known gay Catholics who were perfectly happy in their congregation. Curiously, this was in the Red-state redneck midwest, not the liberated coasts.

It amuses me to see Christian churches (I'm a Jewish Taoist) use the Levitican laws to demonstrate that Homosexuality is a sin, when they don't follow any of the other 612 commandments in the Torah. Eating a cheeseburger is just as bad as getting a blowjob from your boyfriend according to Moses.

Trevallion

Trevallion

Murfreesboro, TN
February 2004

DEC 13, 2006 03:43 AM

Not that this has anything at all to do with the article, but holy crap, 2100 is a mega church in Denver? The church I went to growing up in a rural town had 1100+. That was over 10% of the county population.

Mr_Matt_

Mr_Matt_

Pompano Beach, FL
July 2005

DEC 13, 2006 04:51 AM

I definately think it's OK and fun to point and laugh at disgraced, outed priests. Fuck em. At least this one didn't appear to do anything illegal, no small boys or anything (yet).

robnjess

robnjess

Plainsboro, NJ
October 2004

DEC 13, 2006 06:45 AM

yeah because all gay people go after small boys.. whatever

Margot_Dent

Margot_Dent

Los Angeles, CA
February 2004

DEC 13, 2006 08:37 AM

MrMatt said:
I definately think it's OK and fun to point and laugh at disgraced, outed priests. Fuck em. At least this one didn't appear to do anything illegal, no small boys or anything (yet).




he came out and it seems was trying to make things right. i dont know why anyone should be laughed at for doing something this difficult and (possibly) life destroying.

mydogfarted

mydogfarted

Oakland, NJ
June 2003

DEC 13, 2006 08:49 AM

felix7 said:
Out em all. Then point & laugh.



Why out them? I already point and laugh at evangelical Christians for "living by the book" but not really understanding it.
Pointing and laughing at the stupid = OK
Pointing and laughing at gays = OK only when it's Tom Cruise

Chainlink

Chainlink

Key West, FL
August 2005

DEC 13, 2006 09:10 AM

Margot_Dent said:

MrMatt said:
I definately think it's OK and fun to point and laugh at disgraced, outed priests. Fuck em. At least this one didn't appear to do anything illegal, no small boys or anything (yet).




he came out and it seems was trying to make things right. i dont know why anyone should be laughed at for doing something this difficult and (possibly) life destroying.




Maybe because he's made a career out of hypocritically destroying other peoples lives ?


I see your point and I don't think you'll find me laughing at this particular guy like I did Haggard. He definitely seems a little more sincere and I have just a little bit of sympathy for him ( at this point of the story ). But I also feel a bit that for his hypocrisy he should be ridiculed, tarred, feathered and drivin out of town in a clown car.

JekyllAndHyde

JekyllAndHyde

Austin, TX
April 2005

DEC 13, 2006 09:29 AM

I actually feel bad for the guy.

AcidEvangelist

AcidEvangelist

Minneapolis, MN
March 2004

DEC 13, 2006 09:34 AM

I have no sympathy for this guy. If he wasn't outed by a member of the church he would still be up on his pulpit spreading hate.

Mr_Matt_

Mr_Matt_

Pompano Beach, FL
July 2005

DEC 13, 2006 11:21 AM

Margot_Dent said:

MrMatt said:
I definately think it's OK and fun to point and laugh at disgraced, outed priests. Fuck em. At least this one didn't appear to do anything illegal, no small boys or anything (yet).




he came out and it seems was trying to make things right. i dont know why anyone should be laughed at for doing something this difficult and (possibly) life destroying.



He didn't come out, he was outed. I have no problem with what anyone does with their sex life. I fully believe in the theory "consenting adults can do anything they want, as long as noone is getting hurt".
But this choad liked to preach against homosexually, then go home and practice exactly that. If he had come out on his own, and been willing to discuss the topic in person (not a pre-recorded message) than I would respect that to.
But since he had to be outed, and then ran away as a quitter, yer damn right I say "FUCK HIM."

Adroitbeing

Adroitbeing

I'm lost
September 2003

DEC 13, 2006 12:39 PM

MrCrisp said:
i forgot to provide a source for the seond quote when i submitted the article, and i never agreed to the inclusion of the image that accompanies it. honestly, i find the image, which depicts a catholic priest, not an evangelical pastor, offensive and tasteless.



I'm with you on this MrCrisp. It would seem that gratuitous artistry has taken over the site; now exemplified by adorable visual aids.

The good news for the creative staff at SG - doodling never needs to be researched; you just toss it up on the site, or on the boards, and it sticks without benefit of peer review

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