What ever happened to kindness?

That's not what you said. You said you just stand there hoping common sense will take over and they'll just move. It's not the same thing.

Also...here's another saying for you: live & let live

I'm guessing the times people are rolling their eyes are NOT the times you claim that you've said "excuse me." They are rolling their eyes because you're too rude to bother yourself with asking for them to move.

You can also just yell, "on your left!" and plow on through.

I know, right? On top of that...we BOTH live in a heavy tourist area...so it's just miltiplied to the umpteenth time in the summer.

Here's what I do. When the cattle are herded into the supermarket/bank/department store...and they're keeping me from my customary pace...despite my requests for them to excuse me...I think to myself "Do I NEED to be here right now? Am I late for work? Does a dying orphan's dialysis treatment hang in the balance of whether or not i get out of Pathmark with my groceries in 12.93 seconds flat? No...it doesn't? OK then...I can suck it up and deal with it.

While I agree with what you are saying, I don't think it's too much to ask for people to try and keep their carts to the sides of the aisles so other people can get by.

I like doing that to the retards from PA who haven't mustered even the most rudimentary skills for driving in New Jersey.

See...I think it IS too much to expect people to constantly & consciously place their shopping carts in the most ideal position for maximum traffic efficiency.

It would be nice if they did...but to expect it? You'll lose that battle 90% of the time.

I've been all over the country... I have to say the south is my favorite. Usually there is lots of hospitality here. You have your occasional douche... but it's inevitable.

It's not a lot to ask people to just make room in case someone comes into that aisle. Sometimes when I don't say anything, I'd hope someone notices what an inconvenience they're being and move. If I said "excuse me" EVERY time, I'd never rub their face in it.

Oh and what's with tourists losing all common sense when they leave their homes and go places? Over here, they drive REALLY slow on our main road, which is the ONLY way to get anywhere, and just look around. Our town isn't known for anything, except our river and the bluffs. WTF?

They also litter like crazy and don't care, because it's not THEIR town. Sometimes tourists need bitch slapped.

So it isn't just California. I swear to christ, the "fast lane" is the fucking merge lane around here.

Priceless.

Seriously. I'm grateful for the money they spend here. It's what keeps Hawaii going, but I work on airport property everyday. And every day, there's at least one mustang convertible with tourists in it, weaving slowly in the terminal, reluctant to leave Maui without looky-louing as much as they possibly can before they get on the plane.

I'm kind.

Of mean.

Wow. I have to completely resist the urge to comment on "the Jersey school of driving," as I live just across the river, and bike around Center City every day. another thread for another time.

Yeah, and the Jersey drivers on one-way streets here drive like they're in some damned traffic circle.

I don't expect it to be in the most ideal position. Just in a position so there is room on one side or the other for another cart to get buy. If there are two people stopping at the same general area, ok, fine, I might have to wait a moment for someone to move. But if it's just you there is no reason to take up the whole aisle unless you're some kind of jerk.

it wouldn't hurt if ya had a nice rack.

Uh, have you ever thought about shopping for food online? Seriously, a store may be too traumatic for some.

People are generally rude, selfish, and ignorant. We call that being "human." Once you accept that there are things that you cannot and will not change....your stress levels will go down. Then, and only then, Grasshopper, can you make your way across the rice paper and back into the freezer section.

I know you're just trying to spew and stuff....but don't dwell on it, buddy. There are far worse things in life than some shitbag with a shopping cart that doubles as an aisle anchor.

Try beer therapy. It helps.

Thanks man, that actually helps a good deal. It's just really hard to bare the attitudes people give complete strangers who have done nothing to them. Oh well, when in Rome....lol

One thing I love about being in a small town is the basic courtesy/kindness I see a lot down here. People say thank you and please, for the most part, and if I've got my hood up on my truck, even if I'm just filling my wiper fluid or checking my oil, it's almost a guarantee that someone will stop and ask if I need help.

In Houston, they'd probably tell me to hurry the fuck up so they could have my parking spot.

I live in a military town, so we have people from ALL over the world and country. I won't get into specifics but we have our nice and our rude people. If you ignore the rude ones and appreciate the polites ones as I do your days tend to go a bit better. Plus, not everyone has the same standards of what is polite.

Okay I lied, I want to tell a specific situation. While in college I had two very annoying and bitchy roommates. When my guest came over and would pass them, they would expect my guests to say hello to them. Well they never said hello first, and in general none of my guest liked them, so they never said hello. Those two biatches thought we were rude, when in actuality, we were just trying to ignore them and their rude ways. /// On the opposite side of this story, I was at my friend's house and her husband invited over a friend and his wife. The wife walked in the door and since I knew her husband I tried to be polite and say hi. I said hello once, she just gave me stank face, then I said hello again and she sort of looked at the floor, just to be a biatch I said hello really loud and forced her to look me in the face. Yes it was rude, but guess what, she was rude by ignoring my politeness. Or not, either way it still makes me giggle at the contradiction of those two stories.

This thread is still annoying the piss out of me.

This whining about little kindnesses not being returned is adolescent. Kindness should be, by definition, giving without expectation of receipt. Even if all you want is acknowledgement, THAT COUNTS AS WANTING SOMETHING. You resent the person who doesn't thank you for holding door? Why? I can think of only two reasons. One: That they didn't prove themselves worthy of your entirely selfless gesture, or, Two: That you wanted a witness so that the universe would forever know that you were a Kind Person Who Should Be Rich, Thin, and Get Free Handjobs.

I just don't see how the desire for reciprocity is anything other than self-serving.

btw, for any and all who try it: if you use 'lol' on a message board, you generally look like a dillhole.

(I need coffee and cigarettes. I should really get them before I post)

dont be dissin