let my SG membership expire. I renewed for 1 month. I don't think Ill do it again. Maybe its because I don't really go to any events or anything, but people just don't seem to be to interested in talking with me on SG. I have a few accounts various places, myspace, deviant art,ect. But Sg just seems to be the least friendly. I suppose I can understand this because of security reasons ect. It just sucks that everyone has to automatically assume your not to be trusted. Nothing has happened in perticular, but its a general vibe. So im gonna post this and see if things change. And if not...........well thats it for me and the SG.

This was posted on my journal. Does anyone else get a similar vibe? Totally open to constructivecritasism.

mamet

Charleston, SC

March 2005

JUL 05, 2008 12:50 AM

You have a little over three hundred comments in three years, and only four in the last month, one of which is this one. If you're not being active, exactly how do you think people are going to know who you are to be "friendly" to you? Nothing is achieved without some effort. Be more active in your groups, read and post in people's journals, and contribute something interesting to the community, and people might just take an interest in you.

J24U

Danvers, MA

February 2006

JUL 05, 2008 12:59 AM

Participate in the community and you'll get a lot back from the community. Providing you aren't a dick or creepy that is.

Personally, I've made a few really good friends, met a roomate and picked up a fiance as well. Your mileage may vary, but you won't get much out of expecting people to come to you.

joker_

Minneapolis, MN

October 2005

JUL 05, 2008 01:05 AM

Constructive criticism:
Communities have both male and female members.

Brokk

Germany

January 2008

JUL 05, 2008 01:38 AM

As a member you are one of a million, and even as an SG you are one of 1812. But SG blogs are easy to find, Members blogs are not. So you have to seize the initiative. As the posters above said.

You had responses in your blogs, but you never answered. Maybe you didn´t get, that you have to answer in the other peoples blogs. But this is the way it works.
If you just answer in your own blog, people will not see it and think you don´t want to talk.

Another point is, that it is not easy to find the few people in this million, who think the same way like you, laugh about the same things and so on. But they are out there.
It took me some weeks to learn this, but now i am happy with the SG community.

bean

STAFF

Los Angeles, CA

JUL 05, 2008 02:32 AM

A couple of weeks after I joined the site, years and years ago, I mentioned something somewhere about not having many friends and not getting many comments on my blog, and someone pointed out that if you comment on other people's blogs, they'll comment on yours, and that's a great way to get a jump start into the community here. It wasn't long after that that I was getting to know people and making friends.

These days, it's a tiny bit trickier than that, because what you say is important, too. Commenting about people's interests will go a lot farther than commenting about their pics, for instance.

In short, yes, you get from the community what you put into the community, and the less superficial your actions are, the less superficial the responses will be.

d_day

San Bernardino, CA

July 2002

JUL 05, 2008 08:44 AM

bean said:
A couple of weeks after I joined the site, years and years ago, I mentioned something somewhere about not having many friends and not getting many comments on my blog, and someone pointed out that if you comment on other people's blogs, they'll comment on yours, and that's a great way to get a jump start into the community here. It wasn't long after that that I was getting to know people and making friends.

These days, it's a tiny bit trickier than that, because what you say is important, too. Commenting about people's interests will go a lot farther than commenting about their pics, for instance.

In short, yes, you get from the community what you put into the community, and the less superficial your actions are, the less superficial the responses will be.

So that's why I'm a grizzled old hermit!

MessyJesse

Roanoke, VA

February 2008

JUL 05, 2008 09:34 AM

Sage advice

Rush

Brooklyn, NY

June 2005

JUL 05, 2008 10:13 AM

The same reason you don't get comments is the same reason that right now no one cares if you leave or not.

If you want to stay, fucking stay and follow bean's advice.

If you want to leave, fucking leave now and no one will notice.

MessyJesse

Roanoke, VA

February 2008

JUL 05, 2008 10:51 AM

Rush said:
If you want to leave, fucking leave now and no one will notice.

You might as well not even exist at this school

MrCrisp

I'm lost

August 2004

JUL 05, 2008 10:55 AM

who are you?

DevilsReject

Cleveland, OH

February 2007

JUL 05, 2008 11:44 AM

On top of that SG has 8 gabillion groups that somewhere, at least one meets something you are interested in.

Most of the people that i talk to on here, and go back in forth in conversations on blog comments aren't from a regional group, they are from one of the other multitude of groups that i keep active in.

triplegold

Burbank, CA

August 2005

JUL 05, 2008 12:27 PM

TY for all the good advice guys.

mat8drb

United Kingdom

October 2004

JUL 05, 2008 12:33 PM

Yeah, what Bean said is dead on. That's exactly how you get "value" (a rotten term) out of this site. I've made so many real life friends out of this site. Hell, I'm house-sharing with two people I met on here three years back.

Perdita

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

JUL 05, 2008 12:56 PM

I suppose I can understand this because of security reasons ect. It just sucks that everyone has to automatically assume your not to be trusted.

I'm not sure if you got the memo, but this is the internet.

I don't trust ANYONE.

That goes mostly for real life as well, but that's neither here nor there. SG is a place where people do not automatically flock to you simply for being another person to flock to. So, like other people said, unless you are creepy and/or gross, be more outgoing and others will usually respond to you better.