i need advice... PLEASE!!!

ok there is this girl i really like at my bar she works the door checking IDs and we went to a bruins game together but i can't tell for the life of me if she is interested. i want to go talk to her some more... and in my head i m saying... "hey i had a really fun time last weekend and i was wondering if youwould like to catch a show or get some dinner and get to know each other some more... blah blah blah... but i know if i do actually talk to her it is going t sound lke this... "uhg, you pretty... me like uhg" how the explitive do i get over myfear and talk to her... alos it is not just getting shot down but the fact i would have to walk past her evey weekend and say hi to etin that would suck. ok i'm done now


also this is my latest journal post

you could always do the " do you like me?__yes___no"
type letter. she may think it's cute, and if it backfires, you can always laugh it off as a joke....

Just tell yourself, "i'm the happenin' party guy," and go up to her and give her a shrimp job!

She'll love ya for it.....

no i'm the loud "i'll make everybody laugh by making a fool out of myself" guy so that won't work lol

Okay......

I can relate, cuz' I've acted the same way.

Just go up to her, act natural, not doing somersaults or tigger bounces, just calm and collected.

Don't tell her how much fun you had the last time, wait to tell her that if you get another date.

Be a friend first. If you give off the friendly vibe, she'll respond quicker. She might not be in the mood for romance yet.

Do it man, you'll kill yourself if you don't.

I used to be so fucking shy, I used to pray that certain chicks would talk to me. Of course, it never happened.

So I joined a band.......POOF!

If we get an opening, you're in dude.......

Bling

why be such a wuss, tell the girl you dig her and wanna rock her socks off. have tyou been doingyour cock pushups? well. ther ya go.

i justdon't want to make a ool out of myself... unless of coarse i am trying to make people laugh... but in this case i am not.

i'm with the be yourself motto.
don't get yourself all in a tither about it....just be yourself...get some tickets to a show and just mention it to her..."hey i got these tickets..and have an extra"...blah blah.......don't make into some big contrived thing.........
be yourself no matter how crazy you feel on the inside.

good luck. let us know. if she's not interested ..her loss.
although if you had fun at the game i'm sure she'd be up for doin somethin else..

though i am no expert, i say go for it! life is too short. chicks dig confidence. be yourself and see what happens!

When you're 80 you'll have regreted not doing it. Much easier to do it now, even if you do make an ass out of yourself. Take a shot of tequilla, suck it up, and ask that hottie out!

ok here is what happened: i had opening day tickets at fenway (red sox) and i had an extra one so i went up to her friday night and was like tomorrow you wanna go to the sox game (the game was supposed to be friday but t got rained out) i have this extra ticket... blah blah blah and she was like sure why not so inside i'm like WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! YES!!!! on the outside i was trying to remain calm so i said cool and was like i'm going to get another beer i'll catch up with you at the end of the night and we'll figure it out... so we dcided to meet and go down at 10 the next morning we did and we got ther and the game had beenpostponed again and we were like wtf but there was another game that night (it was supposed to be a double header) so we new the weatherwas supposed to get better so we got tickets to that game and to pass the time we got some lunch and a few drinks then we found this bowling ally/arcade/pool hall place and went there and had a lot of fun she was smiling (you know that beautiful smile that touches a womans eyes and you just think no matter how beautiful you thought she was before you're like how did i never see that she was THIS beautiful) so we left and went to te ball game and the red sox got ass raped and i was being my boistorous semi roudy fan and sometime she would laugh with me and other times she did not seem impressed but i learned a long time ago i am not going to compromise myself to impress a girl because she needs to like me for who i am not who she thinks i am if you're fake it doesn't work out. so this girl is really sarcastic wich is one of the things i really like about her and i'm not saying i'm good with women but usualy i can pick up a vibe one way or the other an this girl is IMPOSSIBLE to read i don't know if she likes me or just likes to hang out with me. so anyway we got back to concord nh and she saidd thanks and that she had a good time and i told her i really enjoyed spending the day with her and also had a good time and that was it she drove off and i went and got inibriated at my bar because i am evenmore confused now WTF!!!

Personally H8ted I'd go with the Do you like me yes_ or No_ note myself. So many women are so full of so much shit as to how dating should be and who should make the first move and blah blah blah. I say do it and if it doesn't fit the girls idea of well he just didn't do that right at all fuck her she probably has enough relationship baggage for a lifetime vacation anyhow. And a girl with that kind a baggage is no fun to be on a trip with, let alone a life long one. My general experience is sarcasm usually denotes a lack of self esteem so either way you should probably make the first move. Then again the last girl I asked out turned out to be 4 months out of rehab for coke and alcohol so I might not be the best one to advise Granted she really is a great girl just gotta wait like 8 months or so till we can go out.

i'm sarcastic too and yes i agree with you it does have something to do with low self esteem witch i have but this girl is so beautiful and she makes me feel all fucked up inside and it SUCKS!!!!!

it really sucks

I thought girls went for caveman talk...

Dont pop the question on her while she's at work...not cool...

You sound like you need a drink bad...Ask her to have a drink with you at another bar after she gets off work...
I dont think you need any coffee..
At least when you have a beer or mixed drink you can spring the big question and if she acts funny or weirded out, you can blame it on the booze, turn into Jackie the joke man....and hey maybe she will be tanked also and might say "yes"...
dont act all hard up either, you sound desperate, women can smell the weak.
waltz in there and take control of the suituation John Wayne.
Dont pass notes like "do you like me? mark yes, no or maybe" ...
that happened to me at work (from a co-worker) and I thought it was a joke...well it wasnt a joke and it was a weird situation.

If all this fails and you still dont know, you can try this...
got any female friends???
try taking a girl (friend) to this bar she works at with you and see what her reaction is.
You will know pretty quick if she is a lil' jealous or not...if she acts upset just tell her its family from out of town...
Hey Its a li'l underhanded but it's nothing that a female wouldnt do...right gurls?

Just trust me, think BOOZE and you wont loose!
it will wash the low self esteem away...




[Edited on Apr 13, 2003 by Go_Go_Monster]

can anyone please help us find out the link to the Sean/Spooky thread post where he explains all about avoiding the friend zone..?

Trent: You know what you are? You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs...

Sue: ...big fucking teeth, man.

Trent: Yeah... big fuckin' teeth on ya'. And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner.

Sue: Shivering.

Trent: Yeah, man just kinda... you know, you got these claws and you're staring at these claws and your thinking to yourself, and with these claws you're thinking, "How am I supposed to kill this bunny, how am I supposed to kill this bunny?"

Sue: And you're poking at it, you're poking at it...

Trent: Yeah, you're not hurting it. You're just kinda gently batting the bunny around, you know what I mean? And the bunny's scared Mike, the bunny's scared of you, shivering.

Sue: And you got these fucking claws and these fangs...

Trent: And you got these fucking claws and these fangs, man! And you're looking at your claws and you're looking at your fangs. And you're thinking to yourself, you don't know what to do, man. "I don't know how to kill the bunny." With *this* you don't know how to kill the bunny, do you know what I mean?

Sue: You're like a big bear, man.

no this place is like cheers everybody kows everyone its just a regular bar so its no big deal if i talk to her at work... its just differant. anyway i am going to ask her out to dinner tonight if she is there wish me luck god knows i'll need it

Hump her leg! That will at least get her attention.



[Edited on Apr 16, 2003 by schleprock]

Oh ya baby humping her LEF would be so sexy...ya ya...


uh,,,what's a lef? -- haha, I saw it before you edited it.

[Edited on Apr 16, 2003 by pigtails]

Just when I think I am a huge loser, I read threads like this and it gives me hope that there are even bigger losers in the world than me. Thank God!

A lef is super dupper secet.

Damn, hands moving faster than I think.

I say just ask her straight up. She'll your honest direct approach.

Oh, and above all, dont act like a whiny bitch if you get shot down. Girls dont like that.