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swingkitten

swingkitten

Portland, OR
OLD SKOOL

JUL 16, 2002 01:53 AM

it's bull.
Although it's rare, I HAVE changed my mind once, twice, eh, a few times, during the course of whatever the hell I was doing with the person.
Some people seem fine at first, but then you notice something's wrong, or something's creepy, or it's just awkward and crappy.
it varies widely by how well I know a person, and what I expect from them, and the vibes I get before and during.
For the most part, I know what I expect from someone before I even touch them, but it's always good to be able to change one's view or mind.

Dia

Dia

SUICIDEGIRL

Monaco

JUL 16, 2002 12:52 PM

True. For me.

demolitionkitten

demolitionkitten

Grosse Pointe, MI
OLD SKOOL

JUL 16, 2002 05:41 PM

I think that I can tell when someone won't be going anywhere at all within five minutes..other than that...how far? ...no, not always.

tryptamine

tryptamine

Svalbard And Jan Mayen
August 2002

JUL 16, 2002 08:12 PM

definitely. helps to fight the beer goggles. biggrin

i think it takes a very good instinct, though.

fuzzybunny

fuzzybunny

Boston, MA
OLD SKOOL

JUL 16, 2002 08:26 PM

I think it's true, pretty much of almost ANY human interaction, not necessarily just sexual encounters, that the nature of a relationship is pretty much based on ones initial first impression. The times I've ignored my first impression are usually times I've regretted ultimately.

I can pretty much tell within 5 minutes if I will be sexually involved with any given person. There have been few exceptions in my experience, when I've been surprised at the outcome of an initial meeting.

bingo

bingo

Los Angeles, CA
January 2003

JUL 28, 2002 12:50 AM

I think this is a very disempowering attitude for men to take. Nothing turns me off more than getting an indication from a girl that I have just passed some sort of test and can now run and fetch my biscuit. I had a date a while ago this reminds me of...we were having dinner, and the girl mentioned offhand that she would show me some (non-sexual) object later, when we were at her place. Honestly, she was hot, but there were things about her that vaguely irritated me, and the more she said, the less attractive I found her. The implication that *of course* I wanted to end up back at her place was enough to seal it for me. When we pulled up in front of her building and she started matter-of-factly talking about where I could leave my car, I told her that it would be easier if I just dropped her off right there. The look of utter incomprehension on her beautiful face was better than the best sex I've ever had, by a long shot.

Al

Al

SUICIDEGIRL

Christmas Island

JUL 28, 2002 03:31 AM

Usually I decide within about the first 30 seconds, but that can all change, depending on how drunk I am.

But seriously, I have no idea how far I'm going to go with someone until I get to know them. 5 minutes my ass. There is no end to the extent to which I could embarrass myself in 5 minutes, so that's not really fair. Give me 10 and I can get myself out, though.

Marla

Marla

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

JUL 28, 2002 03:36 AM

I decide immediately. Before you have even looked back at me, I have decided. I have decided to give you a shot. Then, when you actually talk to me, I decide in about 30 seconds.

INKEDgirl

INKEDgirl

I'm lost
OLD SKOOL

JUL 28, 2002 09:10 AM

I know within the first five minutes of a date whether or not I'm even going to kiss someone. It's just a feeling, I guess.

BatAttaK

BatAttaK

Tacoma, WA
OLD SKOOL

JUL 28, 2002 09:15 AM

But how long does it take before you know you're gonna schtup them? Or is "kiss" you euphemism for that?


minimalism

minimalism

Argentina
OLD SKOOL

JUL 28, 2002 03:36 PM

i have a thing for quirky features on girls so usually if i think a girl is sort of an ugly-pretty first then something about them gets to me and i'm uterly floored. so it definitely takes more then five minutes. but then i'm hooked for life.