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Cindarrr

Cindarrr

HOPEFUL

Bowling Green, KY

NOV 13, 2006 03:57 PM

So I am finally dating again. But I don't get it......When i like someone I act like it.
I've never learned this game of hard to get.
So when I act like I like him hes completely uninterested, if I'm on the phone with another boy hes all hot and bothered.
He pulls me in for a kiss, i start to kiss and he pushes me away.
Its like he only likes me if I don't like him!
Whats the point? surreal whatever
So tell me, boy girls anyone, what are you thinking when you do this?
Or what do you do when someone is pullng this shit with you?

syncope

syncope

Seattle, WA
July 2006

NOV 13, 2006 04:09 PM

If someone plays the hot and cold game with me, I'll lose interest altogether. It's a tricky game when you're dating and find someone you like. People act stupid because they're nervous. I say just be honest and relax and don't focus so much on the outcome. kiss

MrStitches

MrStitches

Brooklyn, NY
November 2003

NOV 13, 2006 05:01 PM

Personally, I love it when women act like they like me. I am really lousy at picking up subtle hints and singals and shit. There should be a law that when you are interested in a person, and are persuing them, you have to tell them flat out.

StarBelliedBoy

StarBelliedBoy

Philadelphia, PA
December 2003

NOV 13, 2006 05:05 PM

This is a for serious here, when a girl is attracted to me before I'm attracted to her, I find it really hard to get interested. I think there's a part of me that needs to talk her into it before I can really get turned on.

It's fucked up and it doesn't make any sense any yet, there we are.

Rush

Rush

Brooklyn, NY
June 2005

NOV 13, 2006 06:24 PM

He sounds like a jerk.

Dead_Ringer

Dead_Ringer

I'm lost
September 2004

NOV 13, 2006 07:37 PM

To me, this fellow sounds like a child who thinks that playing games with a woman is the way to her heart. OR, he could just be a tool. OR a combination of both. In any event, I predict that you will get bored with his behavior pretty soon.

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

NOV 13, 2006 07:48 PM

If I'm right, it's the idea of "the thrill of the chase", in overdrive, on steroids.

And to that degree, it's destructive, because it means he can't be interested in you at the same time as you're interested in him.

TomG

TomG

San Diego, CA
October 2005

NOV 13, 2006 08:50 PM

sawahbean said:
He sounds like a jerk.



I agree. Hot and cold says "I want to screw you but don't really want to date you".

RumpusParable

RumpusParable

Copperas Cove, TX
April 2003

NOV 13, 2006 09:42 PM

these sorts i drop as soon as i can identify them.

Cindarrr

Cindarrr

HOPEFUL

Bowling Green, KY

NOV 14, 2006 05:59 PM

TomG said:

sawahbean said:
He sounds like a jerk.



I agree. Hot and cold says "I want to screw you but don't really want to date you".



Thats how I feel. He did go extremely out of his way to put on this big production of a date on our last meeting. I mean I screwed him so i guess it worked.

TomG

TomG

San Diego, CA
October 2005

NOV 14, 2006 07:56 PM

Cindarrr said:

TomG said:

sawahbean said:
He sounds like a jerk.



I agree. Hot and cold says "I want to screw you but don't really want to date you".



Thats how I feel. He did go extremely out of his way to put on this big production of a date on our last meeting. I mean I screwed him so i guess it worked.


Hey, we all have needs.

Erica

Erica

SUICIDEGIRL

I'm lost

NOV 14, 2006 08:15 PM

Yeah, hot and cold could mean a lot of things. What I think it means is don't waste your time, eh?

Necia

Necia

San Francisco, CA
August 2005

NOV 14, 2006 08:48 PM

TheFuckOffKid said:
If I'm right, it's the idea of "the thrill of the chase", in overdrive, on steroids.



Seriously. Jeez.

Zarth

zarth

Seattle, WA
December 2004

NOV 14, 2006 09:39 PM

TomG said:

sawahbean said:
He sounds like a jerk.



I agree. Hot and cold says "I want to screw you but don't really want to date you".



It also says passive-aggressive and manipulative, and it sounds like he's the jealous type, too.

I don't know you at all, of course, but I'm pretty sure you could do better.

ckdexterhaven

ckdexterhaven

USA
December 2005

NOV 14, 2006 10:22 PM

games are for children

ElizaTheTroll

ElizaTheTroll

Australia
January 2006

NOV 15, 2006 12:17 AM

sawahbean said:
He sounds like a jerk.



Case closed.

celicaslave

celicaslave

Fairfield, CA
October 2006

NOV 15, 2006 12:25 AM

I'm so done with the "come here/go away" shit! Why is it so important for some people to play games? I fail to understand the thrill of fucking with someone's head.

Persephone

Persephone

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

NOV 15, 2006 03:04 AM

you know, I get the idea that people don't realize they do this. Everytime the subject comes up, everyone says they don't do it and they don't understand why other people do. So if everyone hates it and nobody does it, who is doing it? you know what I mean? so maybe it's subconcious.

mmm

mmm

I'm lost
March 2006

NOV 15, 2006 03:06 AM

A summary of hot/cold courtesy of "Buddy's Blues":

I've got those "God why don't you love me oh you do I'll see you later" Blues,
That "Long as you ignore me you're the only thing that matters" Feelin,
That "If I'm good enough for you you're not good enough"
and, "Thank you for the present but what's wrong with It?" Stuff,
Those "Don't come any closer 'cause you know how much I love you" Feelings,
Those "Tell me that you love me oh you did I gotta run now" Blues.
...
I've got those "Whisper how I'm better than I think but what do you know?" Blues,
That "Why do you keep telling me I stink when I adore you?" Feeling.
That "Say I'm all the world to you you're out of your mind,
I know there's someone else and I could kiss your behind,"
Those "You say I'm terrific but your taste was always rotten" Feelings,
Those "Go away I need you,"
"Come to me I'll kill you,"
"Darling I'll do anything to keep you with me till you
Tell me that you love me, oh you did now beat it will you?"
Blues!
...
Those
"If you will then I can't,
If you don't then I gotta,
Give it to me I don't want it.
If you won't I gotta have it,
High low wrong right
Yes no black white.
God why don't you love me oh you do I'll see you later"
Blues!

smile

Zarth

zarth

Seattle, WA
December 2004

NOV 15, 2006 09:19 AM

Persephone said:
you know, I get the idea that people don't realize they do this. Everytime the subject comes up, everyone says they don't do it and they don't understand why other people do. So if everyone hates it and nobody does it, who is doing it? you know what I mean? so maybe it's subconcious.



Well, of course it's unconscious - hardly anybody deliberately sets out to be a manipulative dickhead. That doesn't excuse it, though.

I mean, if they're worthwhile otherwise, you communicate. You try to make them aware of what they're doing, and give them a chance to, you know, evolve. But. You have to take care of yourself, and know when to bug out of a bad situation.

Illykai

illykai

Australia
August 2006

NOV 15, 2006 10:26 AM

I add my voice to the "sounds like a jerk" mob. I don't want to be paranoia feeding guy, but I've found people often act like that when they're looking around for someone else (and hence want to hold themselves distant) but are too insecure to make a clean break (and hence get jealous at the drop of a hat). In other words, they act like jerks / are in fact jerks.

I've only experienced the hot / cold thing in an obviously playful manner, like crankily denying kisses as a way of teasing your partner etc. I don't understand the hard-to-get thing and I think I'd find it irritating and off-putting. Hope it works out for you.

Persephone

Persephone

SUICIDEGIRL

Oregon, USA

NOV 15, 2006 11:00 PM

Zarth said:

Persephone said:
you know, I get the idea that people don't realize they do this. Everytime the subject comes up, everyone says they don't do it and they don't understand why other people do. So if everyone hates it and nobody does it, who is doing it? you know what I mean? so maybe it's subconcious.



Well, of course it's unconscious - hardly anybody deliberately sets out to be a manipulative dickhead. That doesn't excuse it, though.

I mean, if they're worthwhile otherwise, you communicate. You try to make them aware of what they're doing, and give them a chance to, you know, evolve. But. You have to take care of yourself, and know when to bug out of a bad situation.



I was just saying that because the original post was asking us to tell her why people do this. But if nobody realizes they are doing it, they can't say whysmile

subUrbia

subUrbia

Chicago, IL
October 2005

NOV 15, 2006 11:06 PM

Cindarrr said:
So I am finally dating again. But I don't get it......When i like someone I act like it.
I've never learned this game of hard to get.
So when I act like I like him hes completely uninterested, if I'm on the phone with another boy hes all hot and bothered.
He pulls me in for a kiss, i start to kiss and he pushes me away.
Its like he only likes me if I don't like him!
Whats the point? surreal whatever
So tell me, boy girls anyone, what are you thinking when you do this?
Or what do you do when someone is pullng this shit with you?



Welcome to my life. Forget about the opposite sex and focus on yourself, sometimes that works.

_Tersch_

_Tersch_

Australia
April 2005

NOV 16, 2006 01:09 AM

Cindarrr said:
So I am finally dating again. But I don't get it......When i like someone I act like it.
I've never learned this game of hard to get.
So when I act like I like him hes completely uninterested, if I'm on the phone with another boy hes all hot and bothered.
He pulls me in for a kiss, i start to kiss and he pushes me away.
Its like he only likes me if I don't like him!
Whats the point? surreal whatever
So tell me, boy girls anyone, what are you thinking when you do this?
Or what do you do when someone is pullng this shit with you?



I know of which you speak. Experience from both sides of the fence, but essentially the game sucks!

I have one question for you:

Want to upgrade wink

Cindarrr

Cindarrr

HOPEFUL

Bowling Green, KY

NOV 16, 2006 03:24 PM

Tersch said:

Cindarrr said:
So I am finally dating again. But I don't get it......When i like someone I act like it.
I've never learned this game of hard to get.
So when I act like I like him hes completely uninterested, if I'm on the phone with another boy hes all hot and bothered.
He pulls me in for a kiss, i start to kiss and he pushes me away.
Its like he only likes me if I don't like him!
Whats the point? surreal whatever
So tell me, boy girls anyone, what are you thinking when you do this?
Or what do you do when someone is pullng this shit with you?



I know of which you speak. Experience from both sides of the fence, but essentially the game sucks!

I have one question for you:

Want to upgrade wink




OMG, I think I have seriously been spotted for the first time on this site by someone who interacts with me in the real world.

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