hot and cold?

So I am finally dating again. But I don't get it......When i like someone I act like it.
I've never learned this game of hard to get.
So when I act like I like him hes completely uninterested, if I'm on the phone with another boy hes all hot and bothered.
He pulls me in for a kiss, i start to kiss and he pushes me away.
Its like he only likes me if I don't like him!
Whats the point?
So tell me, boy girls anyone, what are you thinking when you do this?
Or what do you do when someone is pullng this shit with you?

If someone plays the hot and cold game with me, I'll lose interest altogether. It's a tricky game when you're dating and find someone you like. People act stupid because they're nervous. I say just be honest and relax and don't focus so much on the outcome.

Personally, I love it when women act like they like me. I am really lousy at picking up subtle hints and singals and shit. There should be a law that when you are interested in a person, and are persuing them, you have to tell them flat out.

This is a for serious here, when a girl is attracted to me before I'm attracted to her, I find it really hard to get interested. I think there's a part of me that needs to talk her into it before I can really get turned on.

It's fucked up and it doesn't make any sense any yet, there we are.

He sounds like a jerk.

To me, this fellow sounds like a child who thinks that playing games with a woman is the way to her heart. OR, he could just be a tool. OR a combination of both. In any event, I predict that you will get bored with his behavior pretty soon.

If I'm right, it's the idea of "the thrill of the chase", in overdrive, on steroids.

And to that degree, it's destructive, because it means he can't be interested in you at the same time as you're interested in him.

I agree. Hot and cold says "I want to screw you but don't really want to date you".

these sorts i drop as soon as i can identify them.

Thats how I feel. He did go extremely out of his way to put on this big production of a date on our last meeting. I mean I screwed him so i guess it worked.

Hey, we all have needs.

Seriously. Jeez.

It also says passive-aggressive and manipulative, and it sounds like he's the jealous type, too.

I don't know you at all, of course, but I'm pretty sure you could do better.

games are for children

Case closed.

I'm so done with the "come here/go away" shit! Why is it so important for some people to play games? I fail to understand the thrill of fucking with someone's head.

A summary of hot/cold courtesy of "Buddy's Blues":

I've got those "God why don't you love me oh you do I'll see you later" Blues,
That "Long as you ignore me you're the only thing that matters" Feelin,
That "If I'm good enough for you you're not good enough"
and, "Thank you for the present but what's wrong with It?" Stuff,
Those "Don't come any closer 'cause you know how much I love you" Feelings,
Those "Tell me that you love me oh you did I gotta run now" Blues.
...
I've got those "Whisper how I'm better than I think but what do you know?" Blues,
That "Why do you keep telling me I stink when I adore you?" Feeling.
That "Say I'm all the world to you you're out of your mind,
I know there's someone else and I could kiss your behind,"
Those "You say I'm terrific but your taste was always rotten" Feelings,
Those "Go away I need you,"
"Come to me I'll kill you,"
"Darling I'll do anything to keep you with me till you
Tell me that you love me, oh you did now beat it will you?"
Blues!
...
Those
"If you will then I can't,
If you don't then I gotta,
Give it to me I don't want it.
If you won't I gotta have it,
High low wrong right
Yes no black white.
God why don't you love me oh you do I'll see you later"
Blues!

Well, of course it's unconscious - hardly anybody deliberately sets out to be a manipulative dickhead. That doesn't excuse it, though.

I mean, if they're worthwhile otherwise, you communicate. You try to make them aware of what they're doing, and give them a chance to, you know, evolve. But. You have to take care of yourself, and know when to bug out of a bad situation.

I add my voice to the "sounds like a jerk" mob. I don't want to be paranoia feeding guy, but I've found people often act like that when they're looking around for someone else (and hence want to hold themselves distant) but are too insecure to make a clean break (and hence get jealous at the drop of a hat). In other words, they act like jerks / are in fact jerks.

I've only experienced the hot / cold thing in an obviously playful manner, like crankily denying kisses as a way of teasing your partner etc. I don't understand the hard-to-get thing and I think I'd find it irritating and off-putting. Hope it works out for you.

Welcome to my life. Forget about the opposite sex and focus on yourself, sometimes that works.

I know of which you speak. Experience from both sides of the fence, but essentially the game sucks!

I have one question for you:

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