ADVICE: Fucking Lonely

I am sorry. It sucks to be alone after you have been in a relationship for so long because you forget what to do. How to be on your own. Find a good friend or family member to help you talk it through and learn to be back in the swing of things. Someone you can hang out with all the time. A partner in crime. Pretty soon you will be back in it in no time.

xxoo
-missy

I think you NEED some time by yourself. You need to figure out who you actually are, rather than who you are in the context of that relationship, if that makes sense.

What you need to do is lean on your friends. Just hang out with the people you already know and trust. There's no pressure there. Soon you'll feel comfortable going out with them and getting used to new social situations.

If you've let some friendships slide because of this bad relationship (don't worry, we all do it) then reconnect! Just give them a call and say "Hey, what's up, haven't seen you in ages, let's catch up." It's easier than it sounds, I swear.

Good luck.

Yeah, after seven years I don't think that three months is enough time to sort things out in your head. Some alone time would probably be really really good for you.

Instead of trying to find an outlet socially, find some hobbies. Sculpt, read, knit, whatever. Take up yoga. Anything. Since you don't have any money, you could spend time at the library or start jogging. Hobbies can often lead to meeting new people, anyway.

Come in France and marry me.

Ahah. Sorry

Buy the movie Swingers and watch it a lot.
Spend a lot of time with cheerful, fun-to-be-with friends.
They say it takes about half the time you were in a relationship to get over it...While I don't think that's necessarily true, give yourself some time to heal and do a bunch of things you maybe didn't get to do a lot when you were in the relationship.
Also,concentrate only on the BAD THINGS about your ex. At least for a little while...that always helped me.

Good luck!

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