ADVICE: I have a crush.... on a GIRL?!

Don't come on to her as if you just want to be friends if that's not what you want. Flirt with her. Flatter her. This might be the first time you've ever crushed on a girl, but it probably won't be the last, so start learning what feels right to you as far as physical contact, flattery, ect.

I know what you mean - it's so much harder having crushes on girls than guys because a guy is a lot more likely to reciprocate it - with girls, you're never quite sure if they're 'that way inclined'

My advice would be to treat it as if you had a crush on a guy - ask her to hang out, get to know her, if you sense some attraction, or sometthing in the air, go for it! But, even in this age of 'openess', be prepared for the fact that she might just not like girls.

In which case, you'll just have to convince her

myself, i have also just started getting crushes on girls. So I'm glad you asked.

I've been wondering about this too. It seems like I can't even flirt with girls who I know for sure are into girls. Sorry, I have no advice.

when you walk by her desk drop a little flower on it.

that is so cute, i want a flower

I personally would get to know her and usually if she isn't talking about some recent boyfriend or some idiot of a guy and you're getting similar vibes from her then I would just ask her outright what her preference was.

Then again i'm really honest and forward..

Summer, do you wanna be gay with me?

I wanna be gay with you Disco! *drops flower on your desk*

WAHEY! we'll have to let Poison in on the action though, hehe.

I was going to say slip a mounds bar into her backpack with a note that says "I'd love to eat your mound" but then I thought, well, maybe she doesn't feel like eating mound and then it would be a bit awkward if she said yes.



Flowers are friendly. One time a girl picked a bunch of flowers and hung them on my doorknob for me to find when I got home from work. It was great. However, that was spring and this is January.

bwahahahaha! I'd love to have you hit on me.....you're brilliant

Haha yeah, you're all inventive with your flirtation. I'm just like...

'Um...hey there...*looks at shoes*...so uh, arms, huh? Yeah. We've both got arms! OMGZ we have so much in common! *goes quiet* ...wanna make out? No? Oh OK. Wait, do you like...stuff? I LOVE STUFF! WOW! Still no? OK'

Note to advice seeker - DO NOT ACT LIKE THIS.

HAHAHAHA. Oh, man. Erin and Disco, tboth of your comments made me laugh my ass off.

Anyway! I'm not so good at approaching people, especially girls because if I get the least bit of a whiff of ego from her I'm gone. But the people I develop crushes on are usually my friends in the first place (USUALLY.) I'm a cuddly person by nature so I snuggle with people and judging by how they respond, then I'll be able to tell for the most part.

Just ask Nixon, I flirted with her endlessly

when you meet me I'll give you a flirtin with you'll never forget

gaaaaaaaaaay!

Flirt. If she freaks out, or is uncomfortable, then you'll know she isn't interested in intimacy.

hahaha you're so funny. im the same. im so unobvious with girls its not funny. (well *most of the time* anyway)that said, i really have no idea aswell how to flirt with a girl or even get the guts to ask if there into other girls. sometimes tho when i do know they are, im too scared to do anything about it thinking they wouldnt want anything with me anyway. ha. hopeless.

i'm so terribly bad at flirting with girls, so maybe i'm not the best person to give advice, but here goes. be thoughtful. do what you'd like a boy to do if he were romancing you. leave a flower, as erin said, or maybe make her a card saying you've noticed her. something sweet and small.

i'm always a fan of the subtle flirt -- that is, flirt in such a way that if they're interested, they'll realize you're flirting, but if they're not, they won't. however, i've found that it doesn't work on girls very well.

Yeah it really doesn't. WARNING: MASSIVE GENERALIZATIONS COMING. Straight girls act like they are flirting all the time, so when another girl flirts with them, it's not seen as a come on. Curious girls such as myself are never sure if another girl is flriting, and are scared of being rejected and/or seen as creepy. Lesbians are great because they know you're curious and they know how to flirt with you. Sadly every hot lesbian I meet seems to have a girlfriend. WHERE ARE MY SINGLE HOT LESBIANS??? COME TO ME.

Write this down on a pink piece of paper:

DO YOU LIKE ME?

___ YES ___NO


Fold it up into a little birdie, and pass it to her in class.

Seriously, I totally miss those notes...

Hehehehh you made me laugh as hell.

Well, Ill go for the flirt thing. Or maybe search her email and start sending mails to her, without telling who you are, but saying that you are a girl and you have a crush on her. If she doesnt like girls she will tell you and you wont be exposed, but if she gives you green light, well, there you go.

Wish you luck lady.

male or female, old or young, you should just be yourself.

In the long/short run, it saves a lot of bother. Talk to her like you would anyone you liked, either romantically. Obviously this is dead easy to just say and much harder to do. But I think as your interaction progresses, you'll know if she likes you back. If she isn't interested for whatever reason she'd let you know nicely if she was a decent person.

Crush/attractions are so cute, and in the early stages should be savoured with every moment... I think its lovely to think that someone can make you weak at the knees and your heart skip a beat without them even knowing it!

Sorry I can't be more help lovey, I'm all out of advice, apart from a little saying quoted in a trillion films 'a life lived in fear is a life half lived'

go get em tiger!

I say we organize a huge SG orgy. Si?

I'm entirely too lazy to read this all,
so my comment is worthless,
but "CRUSH ON A GIRL" gets me everytime.
mmmm girls...
Oh how I love the ladies

...You do?...