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I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 01:59 AM

SPOILERS! (Click to view)
I posted this in the "The Girls" boards, but within seconds the topic was on page 2 due to the hundreds of members clicking the automatic "I loved it" comment for the sets. And now I can't even find it. I thought maybe if I posted it over here it would get some attention. So . . . moving on.



I'm gonna use myself as an example here. I'm also trying to be genuine so you'll just have to take my for it that I'm not being an asshole. Anyhoo, I realize that some of you, members and SG's, just don't care to communicate with certain people and that's dandy. But there is the option to block members. Say, you block me and I go to your page, the comment box is not there, obviously keeping me from posting a comment. This can be useful. If you don't care about what I have to say, sure, you can ignore me but it would be a great help, if not ideal, to (instead of not saying anything) . . . just block me. That way, I'll know not to stop by your profile anymore. It's quite frustrating otherwise.

Is anyone else feeling this?

Just a suggestion.

Thanks

AceT

AceT

Portland, OR
April 2004

AUG 03, 2006 02:23 AM

Ok, I'm going to try and be helpful here.

SGs, some of which get hundreds of comments regularly, don't or can't reply to whatever message you may have left for them. So you want them to take the time to single you out, go into their preferences, and add you to their ignore list, just so you know not to expect any contact from them.

Do you see where your plan is flawed?

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 02:44 AM

I totally get that . . no you're right. I'm a complete fucking moron. How could I have not thought of that. whatever

I'm including regular members too, by the way. I'm sure some would agree it's a very simple procedure. You make it sound like it's labor.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 03:18 AM

AndyM said:
Ok, I'm going to try and be helpful here.

SGs, some of which get hundreds of comments regularly, don't or can't reply to whatever message you may have left for them. So you want them to take the time to single you out, go into their preferences, and add you to their ignore list, just so you know not to expect any contact from them.

Do you see where your plan is flawed?



I'm not gonna go into details but I'm completely aware of what you're saying. That's not all of it, though. I mean are you also saying that it is impossible for some members to flat out ignore others?

Cherry

Cherry

SUICIDEGIRL

British Columbia, Canada

AUG 03, 2006 03:36 AM

Hell, if I were to take all the people I didn't have time to reply to and add them to my ignore list then my ignore list sure would be long.

The thing is, just because I don't reply to someone's comment doesn't mean I ignored it. I love getting comments on my journal entries or what-have-you. I really wish I did have time to reply to every single person, but it's physically impossible. I used to when I had more time on my hands.

In short: Just because someone doesn't get back to you doesn't mean they are ignoring you or want to "block" you.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 04:16 AM

No, I totally get that. Really . . I do. And I already assumed that. But how are you to really know whether someone is ignoring you or not? Unless they say flat out "don't talk to me". I mean, for the ones that do ignore people and know they are doing it . . . it would be real gem. Don't you think?

Northern

Northern

Elliot Lake, ON
March 2006

AUG 03, 2006 04:25 AM

If you think that someone is ignoring you, then maybe you should stop posting comments in their journal.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 04:31 AM

Obviously.

But therein lies my point. I mean, the 'ignore' button is there for a reason, no?

It can't just be there for viewing pleasures. No. It's for blocking people that you don't want to communicate with.

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

AUG 03, 2006 04:33 AM

When I go to a bar or nightclub, I want girls who won't talk to me to have a tag hanging around their neck that identifies they plan to ignore me all night.

It would save me all those fruitless attempts to talk to girls who won't talk back.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 04:35 AM

It's not just about the girls. I'm speaking in general.

That would be awesome though, right? But you can't exactly confront someone online about that sort of thing. Communication is limited through this monitor. I guess if you're actually ignoring someone, it would defeat the purpose of saying "leave me alone".

Cherry

Cherry

SUICIDEGIRL

British Columbia, Canada

AUG 03, 2006 04:38 AM

6double5321 said:
But how are you to really know whether someone is ignoring you or not?



Here's the thing... you won't know.


Unless they say flat out "don't talk to me".



Exactly.

You've answered yourself several times. I don't understand the problem here. Some people just simply don't have the time to talk to everyone that tries to talk to them. That doesn't mean they're deliberately being nasty or ignoring you. I'm sure if you say something that really sparks an interest with them they will reply, but there's no guarantees. The world doesn't work that way.

TheFuckOffKid

TheFuckOffKid

NEWSWIRE

Australia

AUG 03, 2006 04:38 AM

6double5321 said:
It's not just about the girls. I'm speaking in general.

But that would be awesome though, right?



If you think this'd be an awesome idea, I can see that you'd like everyone to run around ignoring you if they think there's even a likelihood they mightn't ever wish to talk to you ever.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 04:42 AM

TheFuckOffKid said:

6double5321 said:
It's not just about the girls. I'm speaking in general.

But that would be awesome though, right?



If you think this'd be an awesome idea, I can see that you'd like everyone to run around ignoring you if they think there's even a likelihood they mightn't ever wish to talk to you ever.



I was refering to the whole "chicks with signs" thing. And that was a joke. But nevermind

Northern

Northern

Elliot Lake, ON
March 2006

AUG 03, 2006 05:03 AM

From what I can figure out, you'd prefer that pretty much everyone just block you right now, so you can save time by not commenting to anyone, right?

I still say it's easier for you to stop commenting to people you think are ignoring you.

Maybe Cherry is right, and they're not ignoring you per se, but just waiting for you to say something interesting.

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 05:10 AM

Northern said:
From what I can figure out, you'd prefer that pretty much everyone just block you right now, so you can save time by not commenting to anyone, right?

I still say it's easier for you to stop commenting to people you think are ignoring you.

Maybe Cherry is right, and they're not ignoring you per se, but just waiting for you to say something interesting.



smile

Northern

Northern

Elliot Lake, ON
March 2006

AUG 03, 2006 05:22 AM

6double5321 said:

Northern said:

Maybe Cherry is right, and they're not ignoring you per se, but just waiting for you to say something interesting.



smile




So I was right. smile

S

S

I'm lost
February 2005

AUG 03, 2006 05:24 AM

Northern said:

6double5321 said:

Northern said:

Maybe Cherry is right, and they're not ignoring you per se, but just waiting for you to say something interesting.



smile




So I was right. smile



Who would've thunk it.

Leola

Leola

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

AUG 03, 2006 08:34 AM

Sometimes there is no more to be said following a particular comment and a reply isn't necessary - for me that goes for people I don't know and my best friends on here alike. But I normally try to check out the profile of the comment-leaver - new friend, old friend, hilarious monkey or moron. I'm curious like that. But if I've nothing to say to their journal then I tend to keep sctum. smile

Lotus

Lotus

SUICIDEGIRL

Ontario, Canada

AUG 03, 2006 09:18 AM

I get lots of comments I don't either feel the need to respond to or don't have the time to respond to.
Like Northern, he posts in my journal all the time, and I always appreciate the comments, I just don't always respond.
I don't think he takes offence.
If I ignore someone, (which I've only done once and then they were zotted) you'll pretty much know I hate you. We'll have gotten into numerous verbal fights on the boards and I'll be pretty open with the fact that I think you're a moron.
I don't want to ignore members who are just leaving me comments. Unless they're creepy and weird.

phrogg

phrogg

Greenville, SC
August 2005

AUG 03, 2006 03:28 PM

Now that I think of it, I have a sort of "rule of thumb". If I comment someone's journal - e.g. someone who doesn't regularly get 30+ comments - 3 or 4 times and I get no response, I usually just drop it. People with dozens of comments, 200 friends, etc. you have to give a little more leeway. There are some people - SG's and members - who are very conscientious about responding. Others just suck at it, and will sometimes say that themselves. It's kinda "go with the flow".

Sound

Sound

I'm lost
January 2004

AUG 03, 2006 03:59 PM


kind of just play as you go and never take offense.

its hard to respond to every comment. Not everyone has time especially the sg who gets
pages and pages. Also some comments are just hard to respond too. Like *what the fuck do i say to that? * I try to get back with every single person that comments but no bodys perfect. Im sure ive missed loads over time. Its called having a life outside of here. Everyone does. Ive always thought it was an unspoken thing here that most people understand stuff like that. Most of the people ive talked to on this site and became friends with are really bright and understanding which is a plus. I would hardly expect everyone to comment back too some of the BS that i spout. Alot of it is just compliments and getting shit off myechest. Which can be rewarding whether we get responses or not right? Its all gravy. smile

Wren

Wren

SUICIDEGIRL

Minnesota, USA

AUG 03, 2006 04:58 PM

One of my favorite parts about this site is the perception that there are folks around here who just lie around eating bonbons and sitting on SG.

I comment to people who I like and - mostly - who I know in "real life". I really like reading people's journals and reading what people have to say about mine, but I don't often talk to people I don't know on SG. Just like in real life.

Charley

Charley

SUICIDEGIRL

United Kingdom

AUG 03, 2006 05:25 PM

I have a personal policy to answer every comment left in my journal. I just think it is polite if someone has taken the time to read my journal but I don't expect the same treatment, people have lives.

Cigarette

Cigarette

Cleveland, OH
April 2004

AUG 03, 2006 05:30 PM

Wren said:
One of my favorite parts about this site is the perception that there are folks around here who just lie around eating bonbons and sitting on SG.





Wait, what?

FreakPirate

FreakPirate

Canada
November 2002

AUG 03, 2006 05:31 PM

I'm really bad at responding to people sometimes. It's not because I don't care or I don't appreciate the comments in my journal... I'm just a bit of a scatterbrain and a lot of the time I forget to reply.

I really do like it when people comment in my journal... just saying. wink

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