Gay Marriage? I think NOT!

them, obviously.

i think it's a legitimate complaint. marriage is nothing to go into lightly, and involve a lot of planning. throwing such a wrench into the event (changing the day) can ruin a lot.

furthermore, human beings are an extremely nostalgic lot. countries celebrate the anniversaries of their founding, people celebrate the anniversaries of their own founding (well, when they emerge into the world to exist physically separate, in any event), couples celebrate the anniversaries of the founding of their partnership, and so much more. dates of important events hold special places in the minds of people, and coordinating important dates to coincide can heavily add to the whole experience.

another thing that might sour their experience is the fact that the government told them they couldn't be married. that's kind of a kick in the face, and for seriously stupid reasons.

Personally I think the government really should stop performing marriages... everyone gets a legal union, and if you want to get married you do it on your own time, either in a church or wherever else.

But this is still stupid.

My best friend is gay, and my little brother is gay (A Drag Queen at a Bar called Bobby's Place if you're ever in Taunton check him out) and I'm all for gay marriage, why not? It's really not that big a difference, if you're two next door neighbors get married does that effect your marriage at all, if it was bad before it's still gonna be, if it was good before it's still gonna be, then what's the difference? I will say that's what turns me off of a good portion of religious people, just because they live their lives by a certain set of rules it means that everyone else has to play by their rules too. Sorry we're playing two different games here, mind your business and go back to playing yours. I dated a girl like that, I'm agnostic and she is Christian, we had a lot in common, we both met volunteering for the Red Cross during Hurricane Katrina, we have similar senses of humor, similar visions of where we want our lives to go and we really connected on a lot of levels, but there was one thing she could not get past. With my lack of religion (lack of her religion) she felt I was going to burn in hell so she wanted to save me, but I don't see it that way, how can I burn in a place that doesn't exist, two different points of view and instead of understanding mine or even trying to, she would always bring up god and heaven and her bible studies, it just got to the point that I had to go.We lost what could have been a really great relationship just because she refused to respect my views on the world or even try to understand them, and it's not the first time I've been in that position. So if you're religious that's great, I respect it, I appreciate your commitment and that works for you but I'm not you, so please allow me that same respect.

I was with a Catholic for 5 years, and I'm an atheist. She talked about religion a lot, and I took her to church when she wanted to go, but she never forced anything on me.

You say she always brought up God and her Bible studies... there is nothing wrong with that. If she kept trying to change you though, I get that. I wouldn't have tolerated that either.

Agreed, we should just have civil unions for everybody, and keep churches and marriages out of law all together. Doesn't even matter if it's romantic, it'd just be a sign of dedicated partnership.