Can friends cuddle?

I'd say I'd fork ya........ But the second contraction doesn't make sense

agreed

Personally, I think you're asking for trouble.

Asking the significant others is not so much asking for trouble as walking up and slapping it in the face.

Welcome to the point. You're a bit late, but we're glad you came.

Arg, I knew that would seem loaded. I'm not meaning to talk "orgy" here.

It's just that I haven't really seen a reason these two shouldn't acknowledge their feelings for one another. Yes - they are in long-lasting relationships, but to me that says "communicate about the issue" rather than "consider all other prospects for love over."

I think it is perfectly natural and expected for you to find yourself attracted to people other than your girlfriend. It's likely that your girlfriend finds herself attracted to other guys. In most cases, people just suppress those feelings and desires because of a current commitment to someone else.

My girlfriend and I have been together for only three years but we keep a pretty simple rule: Don't do anything without your partner that you wouldn't be comfortable with them doing it without you.

Also, if it's something that you feel strongly about but can't be open and honest about with your partner - then it's either a bad idea or you should re-evaluate your relationship.

I double-dog dare ya

You're a faise.

This is a pretty good response but I don't feel like it covers everything. People are different, and the same applies to people in relationships. MY partner and I are in an "open" relationship, but I know there are lines that I can cross that she can't, and vice versa. However the key is to KNOW where those lines are. One way is to talk about it, of course. If talking about it doesn't seem like an option, though, there's usually a reason-- the reason is, you aren't comfortable with it, or you know they won't be-- so it's out.

I've been in relationships where you have to lie or hide things...I'm pretty much over that. If I can't be 100% honest in a relationship then I'd rather be single.

If you cannot be honest with her then you are probably crossing a line. When you do that, you are increasing your stress level (by hiding it) and putting her in a position where she could be emotionally crushed if/when she finds out about what you've been hiding. It's just not a fun situation.

It might be best to just lay it all out and deal with her response. At least by being honest and upfront, you are giving her the ability to make a real assessment of whether or not the relationship can accommodate the new circumstance and how to best handle it.

You would want that same respect if the situation was reversed......I'm sure.

Your mom platonic cuddles.

I've had plenty of friends I've cuddled with an nothing more. As long as you know your SO would be cool with it, it's not a big deal. It's important to know yourself too. If you actually have romantic feelings for the person, it's a bad idea.

See, this is what I don't get.

I'm a Unitarian Universalist. I believe in cuddling always. With anyone you want. At any time. Even if you are in a relationship.

But uh... usually this doesn't work with non-Unitarians. I guess I just grew up in that culture...

Huh. That's a UU tenet I've never heard before.

Haha. Yea, I dunno. Years of going to youth cons, and now young adult cons have just fostered a love of cuddles from everyone. My boy's a UU so we're in the same boat, which makes it nice. Haha.

What don't you get about it?

This is one of my favorite responses to any statement ever. The "you're a _____" format just never gets old with me.

Another favorite is the "I'll _____ you!" response (e.g. "I'll faise you!"). That's a winner, too.

no they can't.

cause cuddling leads to dancing, dancing leads to touching, and touching leads to sin.

i don't agree... actually i think that's the perfect time TO cuddle... considering you're CLEARLY commited to someone else... so there's no issues on if it means more or not... it's clearly just enjoying your friends comfort.

That's basically what's wrong with sex. Sex can lead to ... dancing!

Ruining friendships that are capable of lasting a lifetime are my biggest concern in all this. My best friend and I have become incredibly close in the last few months of our four year friendship.

We've always been very tight - though we've never had sex or kissed mouth to mouth. I'm not usually a touchy feely person, yet it's only with her I've been able to let my guard down. We often cuddle, kiss (on the head, forehead, neck or shoulder), lock fingers when holding hands and have even spooned in the past. We've become incredibly intimate you could say.

But she has a girlfriend she's moving to another country with, and the last few months have been a way for us to deal with our own issues. We had a very tumultuous time last year, which nearly saw us completely cut ties and despise each other in sad reflection.
And although both the tumultuous days are over and opportunities to discuss our intimacy have come and gone, we have enough of an understanding of the other (or is it that we don't have enough confidence in the other) to let things be good. And despite sometimes wondering if I want more with her, that's the way I want us to stay. Friends, together, forever.

It really depends on why you're cuddling. I mean, if you're (let's say) on the side of Mount Everest and you're huddling together for warmth, then you can cuddle with whoever you please - you can have big, burly man cuddling if you want and no one will think less of you. On the other hand, if you're on your couch cuddling because "I like the feel of his/her body against mine", then no, friends can't cuddle. Maybe your SO will be OK with it or maybe not. Maybe it will cause problems in your friendship and maybe it won't. Maybe it will one day lead to misery or maybe it will lead to wild orgies. But no matter what, at that point you can't just cuddle with your friend, because you're not just friends anymore.